Sure my need for thier love is unhealthy, but....

[dudeman897]

I want to believe I have found her. She's Russian but she has lived in America her whole life, although she was raised in an extremely traditional Russian household, so both languages she is accustomed to. I am learning Russian right now, which is how I met her through a mutual friend in my Russian class. She's very calm, mature, and she likes me more than any other girl I would care to remember. We aren't really "something" yet, but we have a lot of physical contact. She's very romantic (fortunate for me, I'm a hopeless one!) but the way that our interactions play out make me feel a bit younger, with less responsibility, and most importantly, they make me feel like I did when I had a warmer heart. I've only known her for about two months, and we've been aware of our mutual attraction only for about 2 weeks now, but she is really something.
As you can tell now, I'm getting carried away and am inching toward saying that I'm falling too fast and too hard for her, but I merely just wanted to say I'm falling fast and hard, it's not too much!
Do any of you have advice for me not to let myself get completely involved in this right away without seeming like I've put up an emotional barrier between her and me? She already knows how emotional I can be about her (I thought I was telling my friend in confidence how I felt about her and that friend went straight to the girl I was talking about and told her). I'm getting all worked up and goofy just thinking about her! Help!

 

[VanillaCreme]

I would say to give it some time. You'll know, over time, if she is the one for you. It doesn't happen instantly for everyone. Some people need some more time.

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^Long time no see, Nills. sup?

 

[9006]

This sounds more like a dream you've had! And Russian; very nice.

But anyway, the only thing you can do is try to control and pace yourself, don't forget that you're still in the "honeymoon" stage. It's understandable why you feel the way you do, but I'd try and not get to obsessed too quickly!

PS: good luck on the Russian learning.

 

[Regumika]

good for you dudeman.

my advice would be to stand back and see yourself in third person. What are you goals? can you see yourself with her? can you see your daily life? and not like.. travel some day, have kids, have a career. but more detailed things like.. what will you be doing each day, after dinner? weekends? who is cooking? doing the chores? entertainment? if you can see you and her together, doing daily things (many things often are responsibilities), then she may very well be the one and 'taking it slow' or 'going too fast' will have no bearing on how the future will play out, because you already have something in mind regardless. or rather.. why wait?

and dont forget to take out all the fireworks and shiny lights and rainbows while 'thinking' this. so, reflect on your own 'determination'

 

[VanillaCreme]

^^^Long time no see, Nills. sup?

Why hey dere, Jedi.

 

[Drew88]

It will pass and disappointment will follow.

 

[Peaches]

not sure about the disappointment, but it is usual advice not to fall too hard, even if it feels nice, Regumika suggestions are very wise, they also say if it is too difficult to imagine oneself detached, then it is a good move to concentrate on the tracts of her you don't like (there must be something) even only for a minute, to be able to think with more equanimity
anyway, sounds good! the very best of luck to you and her.

 

[ladyforsaken]

dudeman, it's easy to be carried away with such feelings over someone. But as some of the members above have said, take your time, go slow.. and see how it goes. Just be careful... it's always best not to put full whole trust in someone you just knew.

It will pass and disappointment will follow.

Seriously, Drew.

 

[Drew88]

dudeman, it's easy to be carried away with such feelings over someone. But as some of the members above have said, take your time, go slow.. and see how it goes. Just be careful... it's always best not to put full whole trust in someone you just knew.

It will pass and disappointment will follow.

Seriously, Drew.

yup, happiness is an illusion. you will only be happy if you set your goals to something you want to do, if you try to include others they will only disappoint.

 

[ladyforsaken]

yup, happiness is an illusion. you will only be happy if you set your goals to something you want to do, if you try to include others they will only disappoint.

That's not always true.

 

[Drew88]

yup, happiness is an illusion. you will only be happy if you set your goals to something you want to do, if you try to include others they will only disappoint.

That's not always true.

for me its been nothing but the truth.