The Bubble

[Beyondthefourwalls]

I walk through the college campus, i see dozens of couples enjoying a kiss, or simply laying in the field, dreaming.
Im on facebook, and i see relationship status change all the time, from single to in a relanshionship and viceversa. Also the pictures, a couple kissing each other its a pretty common theme.
Does anyone else feel like they are trapped in a bubble?
That somehow to be able to have a relationship you must join a special club but nobody is telling you?

 

[Swamp Yankee]

It is a never-ending source of frustration for many of us when we watch people manage the whole 'couple thing' so effortlessly. You tell people how alone you feel and they'll just shoot back with a "well go get a date for heaven's sake!" like you can just go get one like buying a loaf of bread. I feel share your frustration; its like being some kind of sub-species. -SY

 

[ShybutHi]

Yep I know exactly what you mean... Approaching this from my perspective, basically everyone in my social group and other acquaintances in my town seem to be in a relationship for a long time or are able to get into one really easily, it really makes you feel like you are an outcast when it comes to this subject. It is just not so easy for me and I doubt I have even been viewed as potential relationship material by any girl that I know of. It doesnt help that I am not as good in the looks department as basically everyone in my social group and then to top it off im really shy, especially when it comes to women, so that means they dont get to know my personality either.

When you have gone through your life with basically no friends that are girls, a shy persona and no relationship experience, it makes the whole thing pretty impossible. So I have given up, no hope, no chance.

 

[Code S.O.L]

I'd be lying if I said that it didn't frustrate me from time to time. There were times where I felt it would break me in high school. Not sure how old you guys are(I'm 25 btw), but I can tell you that it'll hurt less and less eventually. As the years roll on, you'll gradually start to give less of a **** about being in a relationship. Your mind will become conditioned to the bubble, to the point where you no longer feel its presence and the need to break out of it.

I say this because(and don't take this the wrong way) being alone might not bother you as much as you think it does. Or else you would've gone to great lengths to sort this problem out.

*waits for LonesomeCrow to tell us how awesome he is and how we too can be just like him :/*

 

[IgnoredOne]

I'd be lying if I said that it didn't frustrate me from time to time. There were times where I felt it would break me in high school. Not sure how old you guys are(I'm 25 btw), but I can tell you that it'll hurt less and less eventually. As the years roll on, you'll gradually start to give less of a **** about being in a relationship. Your mind will become conditioned to the bubble, to the point where you no longer feel its presence and the need to break out of it.

I say this because(and don't take this the wrong way) being alone might not bother you as much as you think it does. Or else you would've gone to great lengths to sort this problem out.

*waits for LonesomeCrow to tell us how awesome he is and how we too can be just like him :/*

Instead, I will tell you how awesome I am.

Ideally, though,I think it should be a combination of both - hopefully we've learned both to not become entirely subject to the whims of other people and become more comfortable with just /being/, AND that we have also become more capable of reaching out and being social as it is needed/desired.

 

[ShybutHi]

The thing is though things related to this subject is EVERYWHERE. Relationship related subjects whether its to do with social, family, sex etc is everywhere in media and products... So much of it is related to finding someone because in the end that is what being alive is actually about. It is part of human nature to desire a partner and to reproduce.

Ofcourse there are people who say they are content in being alone but I dont think anyone actually "wants" to be alone.

I say this because(and don't take this the wrong way) being alone might not bother you as much as you think it does. Or else you would've gone to great lengths to sort this problem out.

It is just simply not as easy as that. If you are a socialy anxious shy person then it can be near impossible.