The Paper Duck Chronicles - Episode 1

[SophiaGrace]

Lonesome Crow could you consider giving Paperduck advice without being condescending and calling him names? How you're wording your advice has been bothering me the past few days and you've done it to other guys as well on this forum. You may not like them, but, I don't think it's right to be condescending or call people names when they're asking for help or posting in the issues section.

:/

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Aticks N stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me...

Chelle called me an ******* just the day...Not once in my life did I vever called her names...
Sometimes I wish or wanna call her a stupoid fuicken ****...but I dont becuase. Im not an abusive person.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Crow, proof read please! I don't know what you use to post but dude...I'm not talking about spelling, I'm a horrible speller that is why I like to use Firefox, I'm just talking about typing errors. You're posts would be so much easier to read.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I can go into great details of the countless times Francis had lied, manipulated and called me names.
But im not going to Hi Jack..
For the first in my life I walked into a relationships using PRINCIPLES Ive learned from other..I LOWER MY EXPECTATIONS. Francis had been abused as a child and been involved in several abusive relationships...
SHES SICK in the head and HURTED.
Her spriit is beating and closing.
Ive yet to call her names nor put her down even during heated arguments.
Ive yet to lectture her ...
Why??? Cuz Im appying what Ive learned .
Francis calls me everyday still..
Wheather she N I stay as a couple is not the piont. She knows Love exsist.
She knows I love her as her.
Renae told me lastnight that she loves me very much..she say The I love her..love her.

 

[SophiaGrace]

Sometimes I wish or wanna call her a stupoid fuicken ****...but I dont becuase. Im not an abusive person.

Then why do you call people names on here?

In response to Sci-Fi: Personally, I don't care about a person's grammar or spelling. It can be whatever it wants to be. What mainly concerns me is the person's message.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

The mistakes I made with Renae were..I had a lot of expectations from her..I also carried alot on emotional bagages I had from Michelle. I got back with Renae after my divorce with Michelle. I had TRUST issues with Michelle..so I didnt trust Renae and tired to ciontrol her.
I was still very angery N hurted from Michelle. I pushed Renae further and further away from me without even relizing it. The entire time I thought it was her...but I was actually me.
I wish not to make those same mistakes again...now that I know better.

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Errrr...men communicate to men differently then women...SG

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Im also a recovering Perfectionist..
If I stop cursin...Then I would be PEREFCT
I will be able to walk on water..but
jsut incase I ma keep a snorkel in my pocket..cuz Ill probably fucken drown.hahahahaaa

 

[Sci-Fi]

Sometimes I wish or wanna call her a stupoid fuicken ****...but I dont becuase. Im not an abusive person.

Then why do you call people names on here?

In response to Sci-Fi: Personally, I don't care about a person's grammar or spelling. It can be whatever it wants to be. What mainly concerns me is the person's message.

I don't care about that either, it's just the simple typos that would make Crow's posts easier to read. I like to read other peoples posts, and I like to read Crow's stories because he's very honest about his past.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Francis used to argue with me alot..
but I had inforations that gave me forsite of what was happening...
I just took it as her venting...I allow her to bascailly just go off or sometimes push her buttons...

The differance is..I didnt enternalized all the stuff that was coming out of her even though it was derected @ me...I was her sorta personal therapist.lol
Over time she became less and less angery...less hurted or rather not holding on to those hurt feelings anymore.

 

[Sci-Fi]

That's actually very good to do Crow, as long as you can take what the person is hitting you with. Sometimes a person needs to vent to someone who will just listen and take it all. Except pushing her buttons, unless you were doing it to get her to let it all out.

 

[Kenny]

Lonesome Crow you give a lot of relationship advice. I am curious what is your track record of happy and successful relationships?

This isn't an attack. I am just curious. I have had no good luck with relationships!

 

[Starman]

i can relate to you a little bit here duck having experienced a similar situation with an online friend. if your account of the relationship is remotely accurate then you did the right thing. This woman would have caused you nothing but pain i'm pretty sure. she seems to be only concerned with herself and that isn't a good foundation for a relationship.

it's one of those episodes in life that you have to realise and accept what happened was for the best. sometimes it isn't easy to do that as i well know

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ps

any update with tara?

 

[PaperDuck87]

i can relate to you a little bit here duck having experienced a similar situation with an online friend. if your account of the relationship is remotely accurate then you did the right thing. This woman would have caused you nothing but pain i'm pretty sure. she seems to be only concerned with herself and that isn't a good foundation for a relationship.

it's one of those episodes in life that you have to realise and accept what happened was for the best. sometimes it isn't easy to do that as i well know

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ps

any update with tara?

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Nothing yet. I don't see her until tomorrow after I get off work. I need to buy some Cap'n'crunch though to stock up before they stop selling it so it's a good excuse to go there...then again its a crappy one since I work at a store myself. About Cap'n'crunch, yes, it's been all over the news and it would be messed up if this turns out to be a combo of an april fools joke stewing and for the producer to receive alot of sales from the out stock of the product.

Anywho, I'm thinking about either asking her out to the movies for the 25th to go see Suckerpunch...or just get a cup of coffee and have a friendly convo. I want to start out friends and see where it goes. I think I'll work this a bit slow...stewing up to the point of whether I'm THAT guy or im another guy shes friends with.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Just for the record...
she was like.."give me a B..give me an O..give me a N..give me an E ..give me a R..while she was riding me....
Everyman needs a good cheering section to lift him up.
if you scan through my posts you'll fiine a picutre of her...Perhasps you might take the time to read about some of my personal life experinces.

 

[PaperDuck87]

Please excuse the following offensive comment:
You know Crow...sex is not the solution to everything. It doesn't solve everything...it can make you happy but once the ride is over you're right back where you started. Believe me I love sex...but I want someone to care about...to love...but don't get me wrong sex is a definite plus. However, love is more important to me...and if you think I'm a wuss, punk, *****, ***, or queer for saying that...then well so be it...because I know what I am and I know I like **** and ***. I don't care what you think. However thanks for the input. I know what's wanted of myself and whats needed..not you. You just assume from the imprint of your own desires...just like every other guy in the world.

 

[SofiasMami]

Sorry, I have to say, LC, that your posts are a bit funny because they're so off base. Still waiting for an answer to your track record of happy, successful relationships. I think we're all curious.

And paperduck, the more you say about this girl that you broke up with, the more I can see that you're way better off without her. You deserve way better than what she was giving you. She's not qualified to be in a relationship with you. Good luck with Tara!

Teresa

 

[PaperDuck87]

I'm definitely over her. I've learned alot from this...I just felt I needed to let people know of my past so they can learn more about me. Thanks Teresa.

 

[Kenny]

I appreciate this topic and you sharing Paperduck. Thanks it was very insightful. Also kudos on your calm demeanor.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

The relationshiops...or commited type your askiing I assume....
Not the dating. Fling.or test drive kind.

Married for 2 yrs..then 6 yrs LT..Then
12 yrs LT.

My HS died during our senior year.

Jenni died as I was trying to move forward with my life . I knew Jennie
for 7 yrs before her passing.

Renae is my ficance. I originally want to marry her and spent the rest of my life with her..but life is kind of complicated sometime.

Francis..Ive dated since last June...

 

[Lonesome Crow]

You u vented the long form...
As I said everyman needs a cheering section..
you dont need my or anyone esle permission or approval to live ur life..live it as you see fit..

ill live my life as I see fit...I dont need to prove anything to anyone.
If you ask..Im not afraid to tell you like it is...
Francis told me tonight that I love her unconditionally. She was just here visiting 1/2 hour ago.
Maybe soneday you might hear a woman tell you that and undertand what that really means
Francis also knows Im getting back together with my fiance Renae.