The pressure to have sex

[Sunless Sky]

I don't know. It's hard to say that some drugs should be legal.

But then again, I think we have to take out our bias and look at the evidence.
Haven't they decriminalized drugs in Portugal, and other countries or places in Europe?
And haven't they gotten positive results? I'm not sure.

It would take away a lot of revenue from criminals - it would help to make crime less profitable, too risky for too little return, and give people less of an incentive to get into it.

Also, if drugs were legalized, they could be regulated, which (theoretically) should make them safer for consumers.

I still think that, as with cigarettes, people should be taught not to do certain drugs.
I do believe there are certain drugs that you're just better off abstaining from.
But we know that there will probably always be demand for drugs regardless, so in the interest of safety and saving lives, it would be better if they were regulated, and we know criminals won't do that - they won't do anything to decrease their short-term profits, or put any work into their "product" any more than is necessary to sell it.

Also hopefully it would concentrate people doing dangerous drugs in certain locations. Like it would be better to have a center where, if people HAVE to shoot up, they could do so in a safe environment, using clean equipment and not sharing, being monitored for overdosing, and offered treatment if they desire. Hopefully that would keep people from just shooting up in the street, leaving their dangerous equipment laying around to be hazardous to others, being unsanitary, or just dying in the street. And again hopefully it would reduce overall street crime.

I think that drugs should be seen as a public health issue, rather than a criminal issue.

Dealers, on the other hand, I have less sympathy for.
Your neighborhood weed man, I don't care about that guy. As long as it's just weed or other soft stuff, I don't see it as a problem.
Hard drug dealers though, I would say absolutely are criminals. Them, I would say, really are causing damage to their communities.

What about sexual deviancy? should that also be allowed and regulated by the government in a controlled environment? Right now, it is very underground with criminal organizations making millions from it.

 

[okidoke]

What about sexual deviancy?

One man/woman's sexual deviancy is another man/woman's fetish is another's kink is another's boring foreplay. How do you define it? What I see on porn sites these days completely astounds me; the explicitness, the quantity, the commonplace attitude to practices that once were abhorrent to even hear is whispers in hard core circles.

 

[TheSkaFish]

What about sexual deviancy? should that also be allowed and regulated by the government in a controlled environment? Right now, it is very underground with criminal organizations making millions from it.

Well, those are personal choices and it's a lot harder for the government to regulate. That starts to step on people's individual personal freedoms, in a way that a lot of people would not be OK with.

All societies require their members to trade some freedoms in order to function. Most people are willing to trade the freedom to commit violence to anyone you want, in exchange for the safety, stability, and peace of mind from living in a society where it's commonly understood that aggressive violence is not allowed. However, I doubt that most people would be willing to allow the government into their sex lives (apart, of course, from the roster of XXX models that George Bush bangs on the regular).

I'm afraid I don't have an answer for that, and there may not be an answer to some of these questions. At some point we might not be able to eliminate all crime, and this might be the best we can do until someone else figures it out.

 

[Hoarse Whisperer]

I can't speak for the rest of the western world but America has been transforming into more of a hook-up culture that places value on instant satisfaction instead of meaningful relationships. Many of my friends- male and female alike- have prescribed to this notion of quick relationships and hook-ups. There seems to be more of a focus on quantity over quality of partners.

It has always been the case as far back as I remember that guys were pressured into sex mostly for reputational reasons. When I was in school, guys wanted to have a lot of sex but looked down on girls that did the same.

But no, it isn't a good thing in my opinion. I've read anecdotal reports about the psychological impact of having multiple partners on men and women and although it isn't a clear science, the results weren't positive. There is a reason America has such a vast number of marriages that end in divorce.

 

[user 191197]

Aside from the aspects already mentioned (Proving your "worth"), capitalism and consumerism plays an important role as well. We learn to treat other humans as another product we should consume. And to consume those human products (in high quantity because it's all about quantity) we need to buy fancy clothes, special perfume, get an expensive car, go to the hip clubs, join dating platforms (with ultra platinum subscription) and so on to get access to those human products. It's like being pressured into driving a car. To do that you need a license and gas and car maintenance and insurance and so on, a never ending list of things to spend money on. Hook-up culture is great for the economy.

No matter if you end up being successful or not with hooking up you will end up asking yourself at some point: Is this everything? Isn't there anything else, something deeper? And then the second phase starts with trying to find yourself and to discover what you really need - relationships. So you spend even more money on counseling and therapy and relationshop guides about how to get to the "other side". Or you start to consume all kinds of things trying to fill this gap inside of you.