the secret

[maggie]

hi everyone i am new here
first of all let me tell you that i m not English and when i watch movies or read English writing I'm very good but when it comes to writing and spelling i am horrible so please forgive me
I am a 26 years old girl with no love and job i am studding at university in master ( what you say the level before phd )
I am healthy in shape have a great family but, with no love i cant hold a smile and it gets worse and worse every day I don't know how much it's gonna take but I cant stand it any more
last year I was soooooo sad one of my friends gave me " the secret" DVD( the movie about law of attraction) and I watched it and visited the website and kept reading the successful stories and did exactly what the movie wanted from me I felt great but after 3 month I lost my hope and I cant even come back to watch it again
now I want you to tell me do you believe in this law?
do you think that if you think positive and dream about love and try to feel it the universe makes it happen?
did you ever try?
should I re-watch the movie and be hopeful again?
please tell me what to do I lost
sorry for talking so much
waiting for your guide :rolleyes2:

 

[IgnoredOne]

Masters degree comes from PhD. Which country are you from? The Secret is interesting, but its occult principles are not consistent, so essentially, no, it does not work.

 

[jjam]

I believe that if you think positively, it will begin to show on your face. It will show in your walk. It will show in your talk. In just the past MONTH, I have been able to closely observe the differences in how people react to me when I am smiling and truly at a "feel good" point as opposed to "trying to smile and feel good" point. So much of it starts from within. You have to work on that, by any positive means.

 

[putter65]

I believe that if you think positively, it will begin to show on your face. It will show in your walk. It will show in your talk. In just the past MONTH, I have been able to closely observe the differences in how people react to me when I am smiling and truly at a "feel good" point as opposed to "trying to smile and feel good" point. So much of it starts from within. You have to work on that, by any positive means.

Two people this week have asked me what I'm smiling about. This is when I wasn't aware I was smiling. Years ago I was always getting asked why I was so miserable.

 

[gnome3]

Hi Maggie. Welcome to (A Lonely Life) forums.
I seriously don't know the answer. I can say this, however; Being positive about finding a special love in your life may not bring results any quicker, but I don't think that it will hurt, either.

 

[oopsiedoop]

It can hurt if you really count on it.

 

[Incognita]

I am a 26 years old girl with no love and job i am studding at university in master ( what you say the level before phd )

if you are studying for masters then you should concentrate on that right now instead of watching movies about how to attract men.
Many ppl are lonely and they long for intimacy thinking thats love.

now I want you to tell me do you believe in this law?
do you think that if you think positive and dream about love and try to feel it the universe makes it happen?

No.

No, don't focus on that. When you let it go actually thats when it might hit you out of nowhere.

did you ever try?

yes, and found out that it was en illusion, waste of time and those CDs are ********.

should I re-watch the movie and be hopeful again?

you should probably look into some new sources for answers.

 

[maggie]

thank you all for your answers
first of all I search for my level in studying and yes it is master

dear Incognita you said that i should concentrate on my studying instead of searching for men
well my field is urban planning and as you see i should be a great planner and that is completely true i schedule my time very good so I have time to watch movie or be online for awhile and well as the experts in that movie said you just need ten minutes to feel positive and be on your way for catching your dreams.
but maybe you're right it is just a waste of time

dear oopsiedoop you're right it definitely hurts when you expect result
dear jjam any way I agree that being positive is really good , at-least you feel better and stay on good mood

 

[gnome3]

Yes - if you plan the outcome, and the outcome doesn't meet your expectations, you could well get hurt. You'd best not plan the outcome, for sure. I haven't ruled out the power of positive thinking, however. I am an optimist for the most part.

 

[oopsiedoop]

Someone said you should hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I don't know how you can do both of those at the same time. In my own language, I think I have to have the courage to tolerate more worst-case scenarios and learn to separate which are worth it and which are not, which I have no idea how to do. Being humiliated, for instance, which relates to social anxiety, is not something I usually think worth risking.

 

[DeadSun]

I've never heard of this laws of attraction movie thing but it doesn't sound like something you should be taking too seriously.really if you want to try and start a relationship with some guy just try talking to guys and if you're interested in developing a romantic relationship with them then try to let them know you are.

it might be kind of difficult if you're a shy person but that's the best way to go really,and it should be easier since you're in college.

 

[Anten]

A lot of those books and movies are a bunch of nonsense that use sweeping generalized terms like horoscopes.