Too late

[oopsiedoop]

I've kept my social anxiety under control lately. Basically, I'm very careful about limits. It's here again though. New thing to do, and I didn't even anticipate having a problem until.. now when I have to leave. This is the general pattern. Eventually I anticipate it and prepare myself. It works on the third try a lot. BUT UGH. This was the year I was going to step up my game so I had more than one person to invite to celebrate my birthday. Not this year Third try means in 3 years. I could make this my new rule of thumb but it would be hard to keep track of everything.

When it's too late to do anything, like at night, I feel so lonely. Yet I reject every chance I give myself to step out of my comfort zone and try something new.

 

[LoneKiller]

Hi oopsiedoop

I'm not without sympathy for your troubles, but sometimes you have to step up and take action. If you don't take chances in life, you could be missing out on some great things.

 

[oopsiedoop]

The problem is to know when. I took so many risks I'm burnt out.

 

[IgnoredOne]

If you're measuring when its safe enough to take risks, then its not going to happen. Take risks which you can afford to fail without being too disturbed; go into them with the expectation of failing, but learning from it. So when you do succeed, it'll be a pleasant success.