Torn between two lovers

[Jessica Jones]

Hey,

Basically, it's like it's been 50 shades of gray with one....only I don't deserve to be talked to or touched and "let's just face it, nobody wants to see you naked", is his attitude. It did not start out that way though.

The second guy he must have loved me all along and just stalked me, but never wanting to ask me out, never coming too close until he realized I was going through a major breakup after being engaged to guy above. Then he starts following me closer....after I'm bleeding, after I'm trying to recover from too much pain...he wants to act like I was throwing away "our love"....like we had been a couple. And I told him I need d a couple of years to get over this. I told him I didn't want to get involved but I needed to take care of myself, so now the two years are up and he's offended, avoids me, is angry, gets up and leaves when I sit near him or across from him. I've done all I can do I've lived both of the men and for a while I focussed on one because I thought it better to focuss on one....but I ended up loosing both. And both of them act like they hate me now.

I guess I just don't want to try it anymore. It's been such a struggle with men over the years and I have to fight everyone and the devil just to have anyone or anything. I'm just so tired of it.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I'm not sure I have the entire story here, but from what you write, they are both abusive and you should get far away from them.

 

[Sunless Sky]

Yeah, I second that. From what you've written here it looks like both these men do not care about your feelings, the first guy is abusive and the second guy is possessive (not in a good way).

In the end, both exhibit toxic behaviour that would ruin any chance at a healthy relationship. You are better off without them.

Take care of yourself.

 

[user 188685]

Hey,

Basically, it's like it's been 50 shades of gray with one....only I don't deserve to be talked to or touched and "let's just face it, nobody wants to see you naked", is his attitude. It did not start out that way though.

The second guy he must have loved me all along and just stalked me, but never wanting to ask me out, never coming too close until he realized I was going through a major breakup after being engaged to guy above. Then he starts following me closer....after I'm bleeding, after I'm trying to recover from too much pain...he wants to act like I was throwing away "our love"....like we had been a couple. And I told him I need d a couple of years to get over this. I told him I didn't want to get involved but I needed to take care of myself, so now the two years are up and he's offended, avoids me, is angry, gets up and leaves when I sit near him or across from him. I've done all I can do I've lived both of the men and for a while I focussed on one because I thought it better to focuss on one....but I ended up loosing both. And both of them act like they hate me now.

I guess I just don't want to try it anymore. It's been such a struggle with men over the years and I have to fight everyone and the devil just to have anyone or anything. I'm just so tired of it.

ok,so you were seeing both of these guys at the same time,why would you be cheating on them both?You should definitely stay away from them both,they are both not good,you just take care of yourself,and heal yourself.

 

[Sunless Sky]

ok,so you were seeing both of these guys at the same time,why would you be cheating on them both?You should definitely stay away from them both,they are both not good,you just take care of yourself,and heal yourself.

I dont think she was cheating on anybody. She was with the first guy while knowing the second guy had feelings for her. The second guy only approached her after he knew she was going through a break up with the first guy. She wasn't cheating on anyone. That's what I got from what she wrote anyway.

 

[Finished]

Well, don't judge yourself. Just do what you feel like doing or not. If you can find some happiness then it's a good thing as long as you don't get too hurt.

 

[Jessica Jones]

ok,so you were seeing both of these guys at the same time,why would you be cheating on them both?You should definitely stay away from them both,they are both not good,you just take care of yourself,and heal yourself.

I wasn't cheating on either one. The first guy I got engaged to but he played me. When I was trying to get over the breakup here comes guy #2 and he started following me around wanting to hang out acting like all the sudden were a couple even though I told him I needed some time to get over loosing my fiance. He didn't care and got angry when I distanced myself from him.

 

[user 164061]

I'd stay away from both of them to be honest. If the first guy played you then that's not great, but the second one sounds like a major headcase who's a control freak. You see those stories a lot online and they don't end well (for the female), but it also seems like he's childish/got anger issues too.