Two girls, what to do?

[AFrozenSoul]

Hmmm... You're making me rethink this. They are pretty social people...Gah.

-_-... just saying, I mean... I wonder how many of our older male members waited? However, I will say that by waiting you are setting yourself up to catch her on the rebound when one of their hearts are truly broken.

College is one of those weird times in life too. I will say that when I started college I did not expect to end up where I did at the end of it. You might end up in a different circle, a different school, something like that.

Plus, with the parents away the kids will play.

Threesome?

>_< I am pretty sure I was resisting saying this... however I endorse this idea.

 

[ReaderGuy]

Hmmm... You're making me rethink this. They are pretty social people...Gah.

-_-... just saying, I mean... I wonder how many of our older male members waited? However, I will say that by waiting you are setting yourself up to catch her on the rebound when one of their hearts are truly broken.

College is one of those weird times in life too. I will say that when I started college I did not expect to end up where I did at the end of it. You might end up in a different circle, a different school, something like that.

Plus, with the parents away the kids will play.

Threesome?

>_< I am pretty sure I was resisting saying this... however I endorse this idea.

Well, whenever I do decide to come out, whether it be next week or a couple months from now, I will definitely update this thread. I really hadnt used this website before this, and I sadly wouldnt know who to go to in real life for this. Glad I have somewhere to go!

And with luck I will be the first one to "catch" her.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Well, whenever I do decide to come out, whether it be next week or a couple months from now, I will definitely update this thread. I really hadnt used this website before this, and I sadly wouldnt know who to go to in real life for this. Glad I have somewhere to go!

And with luck I will be the first one to "catch" her.

Well I personally hate relying on luck.... however sometimes we have no choice.

If you are going to wait a couple of months. Well why not work on your socializing and lady skills? A positive change will help you be a bit more attractive.

 

[ReaderGuy]

Well why not work on your socializing and lady skills? A positive change will help you be a bit more attractive.

I have definitely improved over the last couple months. Although that wasn't hard considering my skills were nonexistent. I'm ok at socializing once I know someone, it still just takes me forever to open up. I'm working on it.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

I have definitely improved over the last couple months. Although that wasn't hard considering my skills were nonexistent. I'm ok at socializing once I know someone, it still just takes me forever to open up. I'm working on it.

That is great, you are ahead of most everyone here, including me. I would focus a little more on your female wooing skills though. That will help you land more attraction from your friends. Just keep trucking along. Remember, you there are plenty of girls out there. Do not get too hung up on these ones.

 

[ReaderGuy]

That is great, you are ahead of most everyone here, including me. I would focus a little more on your female wooing skills though. That will help you land more attraction from your friends. Just keep trucking along. Remember, you there are plenty of girls out there. Do not get too hung up on these ones.

Ok, after thinking about it for the last two days, Ive talked myself into asking her soon. I was thinking the second week we get back, in two weeks. I just can't wait.

So heres how I am going to do it. I'll get her alone, then say something like this: "Remember that day in dallas?" Then take out the flower and hand it to her. "Heres the flower I should of gotten you. Do you think we could be more than just friends?" If there is an awkward pause ill probably say "If you dont want to then thats ok I value being your friend"

Then if she says yes, Im actually not too sure what to do...is hugging her weird? Im not going to set up a "date", as I see her everyday. I don't want to put a date on the time that we can start the relationship when we can just hang out starting then.

While typing this I realize this will probably all go down the drain, as Ill be so nervous Ill say something totally different. But it cant hurt to think about.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Well I cannot speak from experience. I just have to go on theory. However, I think what you are doing might work. The only thing you need to change is DO NOT ASK to be more than friends. TELL HER you want to be more than friends. Asking will get you no where. You are going to all this effort to make a mood. If you ask all of the sudden you pose a question it will snap that mood.

I will ask on another forum more dedicated to helping men figure what they are doing wrong with females. They might have another scenario. The only other one scenario I would try is just flirting with her and dating her. However, I cannot say for sure on that one.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

So, I have recieved a response. Most feel that your idea of the flower and this whole high school love story you are pulling has a low chance of success... extremely low chance. The main challenge with friends is breaking that comfort zone that comes with being a friend.

To increase your chances of success you need her to have sexual thoughts about you.

 

[ReaderGuy]

So, I have recieved a response. Most feel that your idea of the flower and this whole high school love story you are pulling has a low chance of success... extremely low chance. The main challenge with friends is breaking that comfort zone that comes with being a friend.

To increase your chances of success you need her to have sexual thoughts about you.

Yeah after talking it over with someone else I realize it would just be too awkward. It would be a good idea though if i ever actually entered a relationship with her (or the other one). I actually got to spend a lot of time with her this past weekend, since the other girl did not come back yet for college. We really do have a ton in common and can carry on conversation pretty well. But i just dont know if she feels that way about me, or would even be open to it. She doesnt seem real flirty with me, i think just because we know each other pretty well at this point.

I see the only possible solution is to just ask her if she wants to hang out with just me sometime. Maybe to the movies or something... that will be an obvious indicator that i like her since we would normally hang as a group.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Well done, you have saved her the trouble of rejecting you because you rejected yourself. This is one thing that I always see on this forum. Males and females finding excuses for why they cannot be with someone. However, that is your choice. I can tell you now the path you are on will lead down the road of you not getting her. You have the power to at least try to make her your's, and you choose to not use it. Well, I cannot say that I am any better, but I can at least point out to you when you are screwing yourself over.

I guess if this is your way then so be it. Hey maybe you will get lucky and catch her on the rebound. As they say, nothing ventured nothing gained.

 

[ReaderGuy]

Well done, you have saved her the trouble of rejecting you because you rejected yourself. This is one thing that I always see on this forum. Males and females finding excuses for why they cannot be with someone. However, that is your choice. I can tell you now the path you are on will lead down the road of you not getting her. You have the power to at least try to make her your's, and you choose to not use it. Well, I cannot say that I am any better, but I can at least point out to you when you are screwing yourself over.

I guess if this is your way then so be it. Hey maybe you will get lucky and catch her on the rebound. As they say, nothing ventured nothing gained.

Just felt like updating...I actually asked her to hang out with me yesterday and go miniature golfing. Afterwards we went to her dorm room and just talked and watched the tv. Towards the end I asked her if there was anything more, and she said no. We actually ended on a pretty good note and she even asked me if I wanted her to ask the other girl about me... I feel like it might have made us better friends though.

Ah well...

 

[ReaderGuy]

And she just told me she doesnt think the other girl wants to be more than friends. I could of sworn the other girl felt at least something...all three of us even went dancing a couple days ago and I felt like she was a little shy when we danced.

God this sucks.