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This old post has come alive again with quite a variety of strange but interesting responses.  My Christian perspective may be different, but no less applicable to the OP's question.

I've been blessed with an extraordinary career and life, but most of that is history now, leaving me with more sobering dreams and goals for my remaining years.

Like most folks here, I still dream of finding a compatible mate to share life with, and as a world-wide vagabond, I dream of finding the right place to settle down.  With age and wisdom though, my primary goals have changed.  I now seek to become the person that God intended me to be and to pursue my life with that purpose, understanding that eternal things are far more important than temporary things.  When we leave this world, I believe that we'll all meet Jesus and face a life review (as many near death experiences indicate).  I want him to give me a powerful loving hug and say "Well done; welcome home." 

When one understands that this life is just a temporary training ground for the real eternal one to come, and that what we do here and now affects that future, God's purpose for us becomes the most important goal.  I understand most here will dismiss that view, but for anyone wanting to know or better understand that purpose, I think Rick Warren best explains it with this lengthy but excellent sermon:

 
Sir Joseph said:
This old post has come alive again with quite a variety of strange but interesting responses.  My Christian perspective may be different, but no less applicable to the OP's question.

I've been blessed with an extraordinary career and life, but most of that is history now, leaving me with more sobering dreams and goals for my remaining years.

Like most folks here, I still dream of finding a compatible mate to share life with, and as a world-wide vagabond, I dream of finding the right place to settle down.  With age and wisdom though, my primary goals have changed.  I now seek to become the person that God intended me to be and to pursue my life with that purpose, understanding that eternal things are far more important than temporary things.  When we leave this world, I believe that we'll all meet Jesus and face a life review (as many near death experiences indicate).  I want him to give me a powerful loving hug and say "Well done; welcome home." 

When one understands that this life is just a temporary training ground for the real eternal one to come, and that what we do here and now affects that future, God's purpose for us becomes the most important goal.  I understand most here will dismiss that view, but for anyone wanting to know or better understand that purpose, I think Rick Warren best explains it with this lengthy but excellent sermon:



Thank you for the post. It is very helpful.
 
LonelyUser said:
Sir Joseph said:
This old post has come alive again with quite a variety of strange but interesting responses.  My Christian perspective may be different, but no less applicable to the OP's question.

I've been blessed with an extraordinary career and life, but most of that is history now, leaving me with more sobering dreams and goals for my remaining years.

Like most folks here, I still dream of finding a compatible mate to share life with, and as a world-wide vagabond, I dream of finding the right place to settle down.  With age and wisdom though, my primary goals have changed.  I now seek to become the person that God intended me to be and to pursue my life with that purpose, understanding that eternal things are far more important than temporary things.  When we leave this world, I believe that we'll all meet Jesus and face a life review (as many near death experiences indicate).  I want him to give me a powerful loving hug and say "Well done; welcome home." 

When one understands that this life is just a temporary training ground for the real eternal one to come, and that what we do here and now affects that future, God's purpose for us becomes the most important goal.  I understand most here will dismiss that view, but for anyone wanting to know or better understand that purpose, I think Rick Warren best explains it with this lengthy but excellent sermon:



Thank you for the post.  It is very helpful.


https://www.inc.com/marcel-schwante...out-this-1-thing-your-life-is-a-disaster.html
 
Ain't that the f#%g truth? And MANY honest & hard-working citizens ARE winding up homeless, courtesy of dirty globalist swine & their traitorous ****** puppets in the ZOG, all bought & sold like so many branded & ear-tagged cattle.

My dream: to buy a boat and sail for the South Seas, maybe Australia, there to peddle my U.S. citizenship in a sham marriage (i.e. straight-up citizenship swap). There has to be at least ONE fool left that actually WANTS to come to the U.S., lol.

You have no idea how close I've come to doing this, and it's still an option on the table... sailing is what I do best, so the voyage doesn't frighten me, I just wish I had more money. If I were already retired, I would've sailed years ago...

But I look at this current situation, with the strong possibility of 401ks and pensions turning into dumpster fires, and I think, "Why NOT sail out there ANYWAY?" Beats sitting here and watching this f#%d-up mongrel empire fall to globalist greed...

Hell, I might wind up marrying some tribal chieftain's daughter, all 275 strapping lbs. of her (not an ounce of fat, looks like a cut ****** bouncer), just to gain island citizenship and offer the gal a ticket to the U.S. "All yours, darlin', adios and have a wonderful trip!!!"

The 'marriage' would be well-defined with pre-nups, and the gal would be on her own when it came to intimacy... no point in getting busted up for my trouble, I'll be fishing out on the reef with boarding nets rigged, lol. Cannons loaded too, or at least a good f#%g 12-gauge...

Maybe a nice rifle, or even a decent Colt or Smith & Wesson pistol with a forged frame... none of that cast alloy cr@p. Going back to the shotgun, I can always load it with pumpkin slugs... those should stop any amorous 275-lb. native gal in her tracks, lol.

There'd be a big feast in the village that night: "LONG PIG!!!" A full-on BBQ, kinda like 'THE GREEN INFERNO'---which was actually a tribute film to 'CANNIBAL HOLOCAUST' (the granddaddy of all cannibal films, and piss on Hannibal Lecter, pfffffft). Or so I heard, don't quote me...

Well, time to grab another bottle o' wine outta the fridge, makes me wonder if cannibals (other than Hannibal Hollywood Lecter) actually toasted their victims before eating them, lol. Hell, even some bush brew or good jungle 'shine would help build an appetite, I reckon...

Season the "Long Pig" before throwing it in the oven or on the grill... maybe even marinate it, yeah? Look up "Long Pig" recipes on the web or in the public library... I can see all that happening, lol. Might become a reality in the future, right here in the Socialist Republik of Amerika, AYE???

When the Second American Revolution finally begins, food will be cheap & plentiful... as long as you can handle "Long Pig" and its myriad uses: Long Pig Roast, Long Pig Burgers, Long Pig Gumbo, Long Pig Burritos, Long Pig Hollandaise, Long Pig Texas BBQ Style, etc., etc.

Yeah... the culinary choices will be quite numerous, might even go with Long Pig Flambe by torching the corpse with a ****** flamethrower, lol. Smaller bits can be char-broiled with a propane torch, or mixed with drinks in the blender for entertainment purposes. Meh, WTF, extra protein, maybe some fats of dubious benefit... CHEERS!!!
 
A really nice Jag s-type or failing that a cheap Fiat 500 , V-max motorbike.Bigger more aggressive dog bit sick of 'awww, isn't he sweet' comments for 30 years..Yorkies,***** etc that we seem to gravitate towards.
 
Finding my peace of mind is also one of my goals in life. And also finding a good friend, a friend I could trust and respect. A best friend.
And next to these dreams there's also my dream of always being able to keep my family safe and happy.
 
Miriam1966 said:
I'm a fifty something lady...I'm on disability. I gave up for a long time. But I somehow clawed my way back up and found some goals.

My goal is home ownership. Plain and simple.

I am with a man right now who told me on two occasions that my dream was a "pipe dream" and that I was too pathetic to ever achieve my dream.  I cried and cried. Why would someone smash your dream to smithereens like that? And that begs the question...why am I still with him? Long story.

But...I secretly still have my dream of home ownership alive in my mind. I try EVERY day to move towards that goal and I hope to achieve it FINALLY next spring with or without my abusive boyfriend - hopefully I will have the strength to reach that goal WITHOUT him.

Keep looking for your passion, your dream...even in the darkest parts of the forest, there is light somewhere.

I am sorry to hear that you are with someone who "smashed" your dreams.  I am sure he has other good characters that can be helpful to your relationship with him.
I am in my fifties too.  I have been a loner all my life, never have a significant other.
I just hope I can eventually meet someone who cares about me. But no, I am not looking for someone to take care of me, that would be selfish, plus, I work all my life and I save money. I don't need to depend on someone financially. I just hope to have emotional support mutually. And I hope I won't be left dying alone, but that maybe my fate, so I am mentally prepared.  I am still healthy, but have start looking at senior 55+ communities and nursing homes.  The problem is all institutions(including hospitals) required emergency contacts, which I have none.
A couple years ago, I needed to get x-ray, the lab wouldn't check me in unless I filled out an emergency contact.  After a long (none-confrontational) debate, they finally let me go ahead.  Since then, I have always used a fictitious person as my emergency contact person.
And one more thing, I hope I will have a quick, painless dying process. I have someone in my family who have a long (10+ years) and painful dying process. I hope I won't go through that kind of torture. God, please spare me.
 
My goal I think is ultimately to be completely financially independent without having to be broke. Right now, that's not possible without child support and whatnot.
Also to be able to have time for myself, go out with friends, have a good time. Also really isn't possible right now.
My first goal happened, but for how long with the current prices?

Still working on the second.
 
To try to learn a language would be one goal. But, ever since I ended up in a mental hospital I find it very difficult to focus and concentrate. I get easily distracted far more than I used to, before I ended up in a psych ward.
 
I need help

I'm here to plant a flag hoping a passing friend will find me. Someone, anyone who's out there.

I've worked my whole life and I feel no closer to achieving my dreams than from the time I started working. In order to help my family I had to leave school and get a job at a very early age. After a few different lines of work I found a stable job that I've been doing the past 18 years. However, I'm grossly under paid. And every time I try to get a promotion, someone else seems to just swoop in a take the position. I'm very competent at my job and I know what I'm doing. I kept at it hoping my day would come. I was trying to be positive and optimistic. Finally a new promotion needed to be filled. For the last 3 years I applied myself and worked hard. I was even told by my higher ups that I was ready for the big promotion. Now I just learned once again that I'm being cheated out of yet another promotion. And to top it off it's to someone who has less experience than I do.

I try to be positive but it's becoming more difficult. I try to be kind to everyone in a world that seems to be going increasingly insane everyday.

My dream was to become a writer and eventual film producer. But because I worked my whole life I never had the time to learn and craft my writing skills. And without a good enough income, there's no way I could ever try to finance projects.

So here I am. Stuck with the same job. With the same lack of pay with the same outcome. I take care of my sick mother in a one bedroom apartment. I do everything I can to make sure she's happy and she's very grateful for it. But my mother shouldn't be living the way she is. I say to myself at some point it has to get better. I'm starting to believe it's never going to. My depression is getting worse. I try to snap out of it but it's becoming more difficult.

Through out the years I feel like I'm starting to lose focus of who I really am. I never get any kind of a break. Always forgotten about. In my life it's always the last day of summer, and I'm always left out in the cold, peering through windows hoping someone will let me in. But they never do.

I realize that there are many out there who have it worse than I do. Some have health problems, abuse problems, financial problems. But we're all brothers and sisters in the same boat. Life has given us all a bad hand.

Maybe we can pull each other out of this.
 
Awakening, I am here to provide support. Hopefully, I will stick around longer since with my first account - I have been around since 2007 or 2008.

At any rate, I understand your frustration. I have been at the same agency for 24 now. It took until 20 or 21 years before I got the money that I "deserved. "

I am upgraded to a data warehouse specialist 2 finally after being "pizzed" off for 21 of the 24 years by August 2022.

While others might say this or that, please remember you have a steady job and this part of the equation is imperative.

Therefore, I would recommend enhancing your skills and SECRETLY look for other jobs for your skills set.

Listen, I took care of my daughter as a single parent, my aunt, and my grandmother, 91, who passed away in January 2022.

Therefore, I have not been only through your pain and frustration, but really understand as well and feel I need to give back to the community finally that helped me.

Feel free to DM/PM any time and hopefully I am back for a while after being gone for so long this time around.
 
Awakening, I am here to provide support. Hopefully, I will stick around longer since with my first account - I have been around since 2007 or 2008.

At any rate, I understand your frustration. I have been at the same agency for 24 now. It took until 20 or 21 years before I got the money that I "deserved. "

I am upgraded to a data warehouse specialist 2 finally after being "pizzed" off for 21 of the 24 years by August 2022.

While others might say this or that, please remember you have a steady job and this part of the equation is imperative.

Therefore, I would recommend enhancing your skills and SECRETLY look for other jobs for your skills set.

Listen, I took care of my daughter as a single parent, my aunt, and my grandmother, 91, who passed away in January 2022.

Therefore, I have not been only through your pain and frustration, but really understand as well and feel I need to give back to the community finally that helped me.

Feel free to DM/PM any time and hopefully I am back for a while after being gone for so long this time around.
Thank you.

Your reply means a lot to me. What you said is correct. It's just so hard. You can't help but ask yourself when is it gonna get easier. At some point it's gotta get easier.

I've been thinking about hiring a writing teacher to teach me how to write. I know they have online courses, but I feel an actual in person teacher would go a long way for me. Perhaps by doing that I'd feel I'd be accomplishing SOMETHING of my goals.
 
Thank you.

Your reply means a lot to me. What you said is correct. It's just so hard. You can't help but ask yourself when is it gonna get easier. At some point it's gotta get easier.

I've been thinking about hiring a writing teacher to teach me how to write. I know they have online courses, but I feel an actual in person teacher would go a long way for me. Perhaps by doing that I'd feel I'd be accomplishing SOMETHING of my goals.
You are welcome.

So many of us has been through the same thing.

We just need to hear it from someone else

I have been a "mother" to my aunt, grandmother, and my daughter.

So. I get it.

Am here for you.

Sometimes, it helps hearing from others and I am 54.

It does get better; dayam, why does it take so long?

I am hoping you have medical insurance.

Few people think about fringe benefits.

Please do if you have it.

It makes a difference.

I had over an 200k medical bill recently and only had to pay 6k difference

It is the hidden benefits if you are grandfathered in and never forget that part.

Am here for you and understand.
 
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