What is your greatest fear?

[RandomFella]

Losing myself and becoming something else.

 

[Finished]

^ It's been known to happen:

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[ardour]

Ageing. Living it right now.

 

[JustAnotherSapphic]

Dying alone and unloved.

 

[Finished]

Being married to a politician. Well, unless she is super hot. Then all is forgiven. Ha! Ha!

 

[Efbee]

Torture. I only fear that. Like, constant excruciating pain for days on end.

 

[whitepeony]

To lose my ability to walk and be forced to stay in bed all day.

 

[JJW]

Professor Snape.

 

[Bratwurst0516]

My greatest fear is being alone forever.. That thought keeps me awake at night, terrifying me.
What are your greatest fears?

This is also my fear. Sure, There will be people near me. But most likely, no one that would want to(or even legally could) have an emotional connection with me.

 

[Just Games]

Starting to feel lonely again when my last kid leaves home.

 

[user 139760]

I've written my greatest fear before and I won't write it again. But it's kept me awake the last five years and now, I'm crapping my trousers that it could happen.

 

[Timi]

I've written my greatest fear before and I won't write it again. But it's kept me awake the last five years and now, I'm crapping my trousers that it could happen.

How would You feel without that thought ?

 

[Timi]

Dying alone and unloved.

How would You feel without that thought ?

 

[user 139760]

How would You feel without that thought ?

That's a bit incongruous. I can't seperate the thought from the event that caused it. Unless you remove the event, you can't remove the thought or the fear. Irrational fear maybe, but not all fears are irrationnal.
To answer though, if you removed the thought, I would either a) replace with another, probably lesser fear born of insecurity since that's what human beings do or b) be none the wiser for not having that thought to begin with. If the point is"Would you be happier?", well maybe, but I would not necessarily know it.

 

[Timi]

Can you let go the thought of your greatest fear just for now, just for one second ? How do you feel now ?

 

[user 139760]

Can you let go the thought of your greatest fear just for now, just for one second ? How do you feel now ?

My friend...life is not that simple. Like I said, if it was an irrationnal fear, I could abstract long enough to participate in your thought exercise.
But some great fears ARE rational and justified. I can't let it go anymore than I could, say....breath using only my right lung on command.

 

[Timi]

My friend...life is not that simple. Like I said, if it was an irrationnal fear, I could abstract long enough to participate in your thought exercise.
But some great fears ARE rational and justified. I can't let it go anymore than I could, say....breath using only my right lung on command.

Can you welcome the fear ?

 

[user 139760]

Can you welcome the fear ?

Definetely not. Are you asking for a book, a thesis or somesuch? Your questions are, no offense, reflecting really simplistic views. Human psyche has been explored for thousands of years and we still ignore more than we know.

 

[Timi]

Definetely not. Are you asking for a book, a thesis or somesuch? Your questions are, no offense, reflecting really simplistic views. Human psyche has been explored for thousands of years and we still ignore more than we know.

Choosing to Let Go ( the hole exercise )​

Make yourself comfortable and focus inwardly. Your eyes may be open or closed.

Step 1: Focus on an issue that you would like to feel better about, and then allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling in this moment. This doesn’t have to be a strong feeling. In fact, you can even check on how you feel about this exercise and what you want to get from it. Just welcome the feeling and allow it to be as fully or as best you can.

This instruction may seem simplistic, but it needs to be. Most of us live in our thoughts, pictures, and stories about the past and the future, rather than being aware of how we actually feel in this moment. The only time that we can actually do anything about the way we feel (and, for that matter, about our businesses or our lives) is NOW. You don’t need to wait for a feeling to be strong before you let it go. In fact, if you are feeling numb, flat, blank, cut off, or empty inside, those are feelings that can be let go of just as easily as the more recognizable ones. Simply do the best you can. The more you work with this process, the easier it will be for you to identify what you are feeling.

Step 2: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:

• Could I let this feeling go?
• Could I allow this feeling to be here?
• Could I welcome this feeling?

These questions are merely asking you if it is possible to take this action. “Yes” or “no” are both acceptable answers. You will often let go even if you say “no.” As best you can, answer the question that you choose with a minimum of thought, staying away from second-guessing yourself or getting into an internal debate about the merits of that action or its consequences.

All the questions used in this process are deliberately simple. They are not important in and of themselves but are designed to point you to the experience of letting go, to the experience of stopping holding on. Go on to Step 3 no matter how you answered the first question.

Step 3: No matter which question you started with, ask yourself this simple question: Would I? In other words: Am I willing to let go?

Again, stay away from debate as best you can. Also remember that you are always doing this process for yourself—for the purpose of gaining your own freedom and clarity. It doesn’t matter whether the feeling is justified, long-standing, or right.

If the answer is “no,” or if you are not sure, ask yourself: “Would I rather have this feeling, or would I rather be free?”

Even if the answer is still “no,” go on to Step 4.

Step 4: Ask yourself this simpler question: When?

This is an invitation to just let it go NOW. You may find yourself easily letting go. Remember that letting go is a decision you can make any time you choose.

Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of that particular feeling.

You will probably find yourself letting go a little more on each step of the process. The results at first may be quite subtle. Very quickly, if you are persistent, the results will get more and more noticeable. You may find that you have layers of feelings about a particular topic. However, what you let go of is gone for good.

Best regards,
Timi

 

[user 139760]

...'nuff said.