What's going on?

[SimonT]

Why is it, I have a girl who I've been friends with for over a year, got on great with her, when she was single, decided I didn't want her intimately? I was fairly certain I didn't, fancied her, but she had too much stuff going on etc etc, and didn't feel we were entirely suited. Now she goes and gets with someone else, and I really want her, weird. What's going on here? It's like now the door is closed, it makes some kind of difference. Is it something to do with having her as an option before, or fairly certain i did, but now not having anybody else to fill that void?

 

[Seosa2]

Maybe she kinda felt like she was yours when she was single, and then when she legitimately enters a relationship, it feels like you've lost her?

 

[SimonT]

Maybe she kinda felt like she was yours when she was single, and then when she legitimately enters a relationship, it feels like you've lost her?

Hmmmm, possibly yeah.

 

[Stonelands]

To me this sounds like the "wanting something when you can't have it" problem.

 

[SimonT]

To me this sounds like the "wanting something when you can't have it" problem.

It isn't just wanting her 'cause I can't have it. Not sure, something to do with her being my only option I think and now I'm back to square 1.

 

[Stonelands]

To me this sounds like the "wanting something when you can't have it" problem.

It isn't just wanting her 'cause I can't have it. Not sure, something to do with her being my only option I think and now I'm back to square 1.

Is she really your only option?

 

[Gutted]

I bet you're slightly worried that now she has a partner, she wont be around for you like she may have been before. Also I bet you think she might now be different. This stuff will effect your feelings on her.

 

[SimonT]

To me this sounds like the "wanting something when you can't have it" problem.

It isn't just wanting her 'cause I can't have it. Not sure, something to do with her being my only option I think and now I'm back to square 1.

Is she really your only option?

Sadly yeah she was. I see myself as a good looking lad as well. No Johnny Depp but better looking than a lot of people I reckon. Good sense of humour, good cook etc but sadly I'm a bit of a hermit and don't have any friends or go out socialisiing. Don't like goimg pubbing and clubbing for some reason. Don't have loads of confidence when it comes to women either so you end up single coz of the way it's always up to the man d it innit. Hate the way it's always the mans job to make the first move.

 

[SimonT]

Maybe she kinda felt like she was yours when she was single, and then when she legitimately enters a relationship, it feels like you've lost her?

You could be right there actually.

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Maybe she kinda felt like she was yours when she was single, and then when she legitimately enters a relationship, it feels like you've lost her?

You could be right there actually.

 

[lostatsea]

It's the same reason little kids don't care about a toy. But the second someone shows interest in it, they want it back. You weren't together but you feel like you lost something.

 

[Stonelands]

To me this sounds like the "wanting something when you can't have it" problem.

It isn't just wanting her 'cause I can't have it. Not sure, something to do with her being my only option I think and now I'm back to square 1.

Is she really your only option?

Sadly yeah she was. I see myself as a good looking lad as well. No Johnny Depp but better looking than a lot of people I reckon. Good sense of humour, good cook etc but sadly I'm a bit of a hermit and don't have any friends or go out socialisiing. Don't like goimg pubbing and clubbing for some reason. Don't have loads of confidence when it comes to women either so you end up single coz of the way it's always up to the man d it innit. Hate the way it's always the mans job to make the first move.

What do you enjoy doing? Maybe try and find friends through that if you haven't already?