M_also_lonely
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If I knew that having and keeping friends would need to understand so many long theories, I would not fall in to this friendship thing.
M_also_lonely said:If I knew that having and keeping friends would need to understand so many long theories, I would not fall in to this friendship thing.
there is no hope said:One thing I have to ask though... how can someone be a true friend after only three weeks?
You don't need to know all of the 'theories' just to have a friend. That's why I just said to relax and enjoy the time.M_also_lonely said:If I knew that having and keeping friends would need to understand so many long theories, I would not fall in to this friendship thing.
there is no hope said:Anyway...
Believe it or not, I am trying to be supportive, and in a way the people telling OP to ignore what he's thinking are causing more harm than good. If someone feels inferior in this situation, maybe it's because he has reasons to feel that way. It's not right to just dismiss his thoughts on the matter as incorrect thoughts, and that usually has the effect of intensifying social isolation more than anything.
It's one thing to tell someone that social class and others' judgements don't matter, but another thing to understand why and believe it.
Just to be clear here, I believe we're speaking of 'social classes', which are something that actually exist.Batman55 said:Very well then. You are then suggesting he is socially inferior, reinforcing his belief. And then, you're not even implying that he could improve if he continues to work on himself and learn from his mistakes, and such. You *appear* to be stating it as a permanent fact: he's socially inferior and will probably remain so.
Whether you claim it's reality or not, it is far more harmful to reinforce someone's negative belief, than to *at least* say there's a chance he can improve. And BTW you got it wrong: I am not faulting him for being "socially inadequate." Doesn't matter whether his "inadequacy" is innate or it was cultivated: people *can and do* improve.
If you don't believe that statement.. *shrugs*
Despicable Me said:Anyway, I get what you're both trying to say but, honestly I have to disagree with you Batman. You have a rather optimistic outlook on this, basically stating that two people of different social-status are actually equals. And yes, maybe in terms of a perfect society they would be, maybe in terms of 'value', or abilities they are. But in terms of a purely social view, which is how all relationships interact, they are not and never can be.
It's not about inferiority/superiority. It's about being of different social classes.Batman55 said:So then he is inferior and always will be. Why not just get this out of the way and say it outright?
Not to mention.. again, what is it about being "shy and awkward" that makes it so black-and-white in your view that this is "inferiority"? Wouldn't you yourself be "inferior" according to this rule?
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