women have it better.

[EveWasFramed]

Women have it easier - way easier. Women can be divorced with 5 kids and STILL some guy will take them on. Divorced men have it much tougher, I can assure you.

Gonna have to disagree with you there, Robert.
I cant speak for ALL women, but I can say this: men who have been married already (that are now divorced) usually learn from their mistakes and take care to try and not repeat them. Truth: I've only dated ONE guy that hadn't already been married and divorced. lol, and that was because we were both too young to have been married yet.
And FYI: a LOT of men won't date women with children. And, I also know women who won't date men who have custody of their kids.
I'm thinking that the numbers are probably about equal in these things.
And, in my opinion, any woman who won't go out with a guy because he's been divorced, is putting herself in a position to overlook a potentially good man.

(((hugs)))

Eve

 

[anime girlboy]

This is a great thread, I'll chime in later.

One thing, though ... Shouldn't the choices have been "My *** - male", "My *** - female", "The opposite *** - male" and "The opposite ***- female"? Male and female doesn't really say much, a lot of voters may pick their own ***.

yay!

yeah that is a better idea for a question. not much i can do about it now. reading through the replies, it seems most or everyone chose the opposite ***.

 

[anime girlboy]

Another example.....on a site I use occasionally there is a dating section.

The "Girls seeking guys" section has 117 ads, and a lot of them are bogus.

The "Guys seeking girls" section has 653 ads. Says it all really.

hahaha... gumtree, right? or another site?

check sydney gumtree. 250 girls seeking guys to 3300 guys seeking girls. crazy... but its also worth mentioning there are 2700 guys seeking guys. so hm.

i dont have much experience with how well they work, though i have gotten some funny replies to my ads. one time i spent two hours talking to someone who i thought was a girl, only to have it send me pics of a guy!!! wait i already wrote about that. lol.

 

[Antihero]

I believe any response here is going to be bias.

agreed!

Either way, women do not have it easy. As a girl it is very easy to be overshadowed by the next girl. Girls have a pressure to stay pretty and thin.

i naturally want to date someone my own weight(60kg), everybody does. understandably i dont want to date a whale... well not a human whale, dating a whale whale like a blue whale would be pretty awesome actually

Also, as someone earlier said, a lot of girls wait to be approached and guys aren't going to approach a woman that is not pleasing to eyes. Women don't wear make up and fret over clothes all because of their own vanity. Men have a lot to do with it.

men are expected to do all the approaching, yes, which is why sometimes i would rather be a girl! i think a lot more males than females are lonely because females talk heeeaps(a survey of how many words each gender says per day springs to mind) and rely more on their network of friends than males do. also, loneliness itself i think is something of a taboo to talk about in public, and for males its like the equivalent of talking about your ex on a new first date, or telling a girl about a really funny poo that you did one time. really... any guy who talks about emotions is not attractive. we are expected to be stoic and unfaltering at all times. loneliness is always perceived as negativity, whether you're a kind hearted person or not. nobody likes negative people.

anyway to relate this to what you were saying, i would rather be a girl because any girl that approaches a guy is instantly attractive. also you dont have to worry about coming off as creepy.. which is what i worry about sometimes!

Also, if a woman is not outgoing, it might be hard for her to find someone else. The 'shy guy' can be very attractive but the 'shy girl' just never gets noticed. Although this isn't always true.

i guess this is where the bias comes in... i believe the complete opposite, that in fact its the shy guy that never gets noticed. because as you said earlier, its the males that are expected to do the approaching. guys approach shy girls and outgoing girls, but shy guys.. do they approach anyone at all?

men dont give a crap about how many friends a girl has, or what they do for a living, as long as they arent really depressing or a junkie, they are attractive. girls care about how many friends a guy has... ever heard of the term social proof? well, if you're a shy or lonely guy, you have no social proof whatsoever. because you dont have friends and a large support base, you have to show girls you arent creepy or a serial killer or really aggressive.

The media does not help women either with the model like girls posted on the front of every magazine and men always commenting on how such-and-such celebrity is hot. Women have a lot to live up to in society today. Not only to we have to look good, be successful in our careers but we also have to worry about having that wonderful personality to attract the right guy.

you dont need to be perfect!

most of my guy friends actually prefer small breasts.. i know i do. all you have to do is be average looking and have a nice, positive vibe. we dont care about your dress size or makeup or **** like that.. if we go somewhere with you we will like you a whole lot more if you were interesting and funny and unique.

when i walk from the trainstation to university i walk past thousands of girls, i cant focus on all of them but if i walk for about a kilometre ill see at least 10 that are really pretty. doesnt matter how pretty you are, ill always be attracted to one thats fun and interesting.

Plus, even if a girl does attract a guy, he might just want to use her for his own pleassure.

i think its a myth that guys just want girls for ***... **** doesnt help. it objectifies women, my last girlfriend thought *** was just for pleasure :l

i think most guys want a lot more than *** but the common male preconception is to want nothing but ***. when guys are together there is a tendency for each to attempt to show off and be manlier than the others...

anyway what im saying is that i dont think most men want only ***. we want a lot more. also, if you're in a relationship or you think you're in a 'fling' or whatever, dont be afraid to ask...

The nice guy is sometimes hard to find.

no they're not! they're ******* everywhere! like here! me! (hi!) lol.

just forget about his friends and focus on him... approach a guy that is good looking, make a comment about the surroundings or make something up like where do i go to get to this train station im lost? etc make sure he's not a creep or scary, if hes fun ask for his number! there!

I could not have said it better myself.

 

[RobertJW]

Another example.....on a site I use occasionally there is a dating section.

The "Girls seeking guys" section has 117 ads, and a lot of them are bogus.

The "Guys seeking girls" section has 653 ads. Says it all really.

hahaha... gumtree, right?

Yep, right in one

 

[Minus]

I believe any response here is going to be bias.

Since almost ever response says that the opposite *** has it easier that would appear to be the case. More a reflection of every horse thinking their pack is the heaviest, then anything.

 

[Akira]

I’m actually quite happy being a girl in this situation. I guess everyone have their advantages and disadvantages, but so fare, even with all the bothers with being a girl, I think if I could chose to be a girl or a boy , I’d be a girl. If you were in the state of desperately wanting a relationship (like a real relationship), it mostly depends on you personality match? Not what gender you are. There are boys that just want to have fun, and there are girls that just want to have fun. Girls might more easily attract, but they might not get what they want anyway.

Anyway, the reason I’d be a girl and not a boy is probably because I think girls talk more and dig more after the information they need to figure out if this guy is something you want to bet on. If not, then move on. In general guys don’t talk much and don’t ask a lot of questions… (According to my experience) but of course there are guys like that who do exist, and maybe that makes it easier for them?

------- A person who’s interested is a person that’s interesting----------------

 

[anime girlboy]

Anyway, the reason I’d be a girl and not a boy is probably because I think girls talk more and dig more after the information they need to figure out if this guy is something you want to bet on. If not, then move on. In general guys don’t talk much and don’t ask a lot of questions… (According to my experience) but of course there are guys like that who do exist, and maybe that makes it easier for them?

indeed! we guys take one look at a girl and make our decision right there. we go for looks theres no denying it, its not because we're sleazy, our brains are just wired like that. only if she turns out to be boring as bat ****, or annoying, or friends with someone i hate etc would i think about moving on.

 

[Akira]

indeed! we guys take one look at a girl and make our decision right there. we go for looks theres no denying it, its not because we're sleazy, our brains are just wired like that. only if she turns out to be boring as bat ****, or annoying, or friends with someone i hate etc would i think about moving on.

Well, maybe that should change? If a girl doesn't look perfect doesn't mean she can't make you happy. Looks isn't everything! I think that there are people out that who at first glance don't look soo good, but looks fade and I doubt there is anyone out there that looks so ugly that can't become adorable to someone, and that goes for boys and girls.
I had a boyfriend for a year that I think most people wouldn’t look twice at. I got to know him over the internet, and we decided to meet. I guess the reason why I didn’t stop talking to him in the beginning was because I knew that he was a great guy and just because his looks aren’t really great doesn’t mean that I should stop talking to him. After sometime I didn’t even think of him as less then handsome. He was charming and to me he had become adorable.

 

[SunWeb]

....I doubt there is anyone out there that looks so ugly that can't become adorable to someone, and that goes for boys and girls.
I had a boyfriend for a year that I think most people wouldn’t look twice at.....

See. He WAS your boyfriend. And I realy doubt that you wish to stay him for more or even now. Maybe you date with him cuz he was like friend to you....nothing more. You didn't feel "magnetic link" between you two.....well atleast from your side. You met with him cuz you don't want hurt his feelings. I must tell you that is not good. You gave him some minimal hope and now he is crashed, think that noone else would date him and he will never find someone that would be glad to become his wife. You didn't think of him like someone you would spend the rest of your life, right ?

Yes looks isn't everything but it counts a lot.

 

[GHOSTNYOURMIST]

I think it's easier for a woman to get a date but much harder to find that one special person.

But I think life in general is easier for a man.

I have never had to change my plans because of PMS and I can pee standing up.

 

[Akira]

...Maybe you date with him cuz he was like friend to you....nothing more. You didn't feel "magnetic link" between you two.....well at least from your side. You met with him cuz you don't want hurt his feelings.
I must tell you that is not good.

The reason it didn’t work out wasn’t because of his looks.
We both had "baggage" when we enter the relationship.
There were things about me he didn’t like and there were things about him I didn’t like. It’s true we should accept each other for whom we are, but sometimes it just gets on our nerves and it’s hard to change one self.

If I dated him out of pity? No. Did I want to hurt his feelings? Of course not, but I can’t lie to myself about how I feel either. He was a friend in the beginning. We didn’t start dating before like 6 months later. In the beginning I thought that this could last, but that is why you date right? To find out if it can last.

You gave him some minimal hope and now he is crashed, think that noone else would date him and he will never find someone that would be glad to become his wife. You didn't think of him like someone you would spend the rest of your life, right ?

If he thinks that no one else will date him and that he will never find someone that would be happy to be his wife then maybe it has something to do with the attitude that is hindering him from getting a girlfriend/wife? He's a fun guy, and if I fell in love with him I’m sure there are others who will see what a great guy he is.

 

[loketron]

id rather be a girl, just for a minute
so i can understand multiple orgasming, i mean, seriously, hows that work?hehehe

 

[SunWeb]

to Akira

What I was trying to say is that everything will be decided on the first sight. Pheramons can't go through internet, right ? I know plenty examples of backuping my words. No metter how would you like someone to talk with via wires....but the FEELING will come out ONLY on PERSONAL meeting.
And I didn't say you WANT to hurt him but you did (plenty examples of such, so I can tell it).

 

[MountainTop]

this isnt even a question. women have it way easier. An average looking gal can have a guy reduced to putty with just a few smiles and light touches. A guy who's single has to get out there and get brutally rejected at least 50 times before he gets a yes....

 

[h i]

im a male, and i like being a male.

i choose: male.

two reasons.

1.) men dont get pregnant.
2.) women can get laid like, whenever they want... but knowing me, if i was a woman, id still probably have problems getting laid, and... most guys suck at ***, so if i was a woman, i probably wouldnt even enjoy it.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

and... most guys suck at ***, so if i was a woman, i probably wouldnt even enjoy it.

God help me, but this was funny. True though. I wonder how many men have faked orgasms versus woman who have.

 

[PoWer2tHePeOpLE]

guys suck at ***, so if i was a woman, i probably wouldnt even enjoy it.

according to dylan moran, a lot of it has to do with the quality of equipment men have.. what can you with something that looks like a "deep sea creature that ate its own arse" ?

thanks dylan

 

[cheaptrickfan]

what can you with something that looks like a "deep sea creature that ate its own arse" ?

thanks dylan

Bwahahaahahaaaa...haaa!

Thanks for the laugh

 

[Whybother?]

Women have it better! Every women I've ever dated has a new boyfriend within a few weeks, when it takes me months, if not years! My last girlfriend has been asked out by a dozen guys. I'm not saying any of them are "Mr. Right", but if she wants someone to have dinner with, no problem!

Myself, on the other hand, have asked out three women and been laughed at or just flat out rejected. Men are more in the position of being rejected, because we usually do the asking.

Anyone knows that rejection hurts. No, thanks! If I had a choice, I'd rather have the shoe on the other foot.