wondering somedays why i said yes!

[mrskynaston01]

So i was sitting at the computer last night, listening to my husband get way mad at his video game, swear, throw the paddle at the t.v.,yell,etc. and i started typing and he suddenly goes" Who you talking too?" im like no one.
And then hes all well what are you typing? Better not be something about me!
Im like where did this come from just cause u here me typing doesn't mean it about you, its not allways about you! and when i do type about you its not allways bad so whats your deal!
He's all "it doesn't matter what your saying even if its good don't write about me".
Im like really what the hell is this coming from, hes all when you wrote you filled out 20+ applications for me on your facebook, if an employer saw that they wouldn't give me a job!
Im like whatever its not allways about you so calm down!
He then continues to get mad at his game, then goes straight to bed and wouldnt even speak to me or look at me or kiss
me or nothing and went to work this morning without aknowledging me.

So idk what the hell is going through his mind to be sooooo random and now so distant when all i was doing was checking on a medical website cause i have medical conditions im dealing with!

So im not sure what mood swing he is in but almost afraid to say when he gets home hey pms u done being a girl and ready to be a man again! might not help but it pissed me off bad how he acted towards me last night!
think i should confront him or leave it be?

 

[kamya]

Talk about it dood. Bring it up for sure.

 

[Sterling]

I remember reading that men DO go through a PMS cycle like women do haha, but really I bet he was just being pissy because he was losing or something on his game, then took out his anger on you.....and now is too thick headed to apologize for being a butthead.

 

[bodafuko]

It is most definitely about him in this situation. I will not call you a fool because, well, technically, that is namecalling. So I will say posting on your Facebook page that your husband put out twenty applications is incredibly foolish, selfish, inconsiderate, shortsighted, potentially destructive, and completely inappropriate. Possibly trashy even. Definitely lame. Facebook is a place to stay connected with your friends and family. It is not a place to vomit the private business of others onto a propagation of tens of thousands of servers across the Internet for all infinity.

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That being said, he was a **** because of his game.

 

[duff]

sounds like my dad - he is always shouting and bawling at the TV or when he's playing the x box. He shouts '**** off' at the top of his voice. Of course I can't say anything, such as 'it's only a ******* game' because he's the biggest sulker I have ever known. If I say one slight, little thing of critism he stops talking to me like a little child. Does his silent treatment bit and ******* sulks.

 

[9006]

It sounds like he was pissed off at his game an he took it out on you... and the TV. It also sounds like he's too stubborn to apologize and probably wants you to bring it up so it can develop into an argument which results in you apologizing basically for nothing... at least that's from my personal perspective.

A good test will be to act as if nothing happened, don't speak to him. I'm guessing he'll crack first and then try and make you feel guilty for not speaking to him, *tuts*.. men! :club:

 

[painter's radio]

If he had a problem with you writing what you did on facebook, he should confront you about it when it happens so you can discuss it and move on from it, not use it against you when he's in a ****** mood. You need to settle this with him and apologise for it if you haven't already, but also I would expect an apology from him too for yelling at you recently, and generally being an ass. Personally I couldn't be with someone who can't apologise for their bad actions.

 

[MadMonkè]

think i should confront him or leave it be?

I think he is mad at you... for filling out applications for him?
Its difficult being in a relationship together. we all have flaws. and the only way to grow together is work together to take care of each other.

I know you only meant well. you are a great woman for trying. but maybe its not the right thing to do.
theres a saying in chinese "sometimes good heart do bad things"

if you really mean well. just bring it up. you have the cloak of benevolence protecting you.
if its something you cannot accept in your relationship, you owe it to yourself and to him to work it out.

goodluck my friend.

 

[Okiedokes]

I agree with Sterling. Probably just pissed off at his game and took it out on you. PMS sounds accurate as well.

The best way to work something about is to talk about it. If he doesn't want to or asks pissy about it I guess you could save it for another time when he's calmer. Good communication skills are the key to success in these situations as well as staying calm.

 

[nerdygirl]

I suspect he was bothered about the Facebook situation, but wasn't planning to say anything. He was well within his rights to be upset about that, by the way. Getting frustrated by the game just made him upset enough to say something. I suggest talking to him about it when both of you are feeling calm, and to make sure not to be either defensive or accusatory. Each of you did something wrong, and you don't want this to be a fight.