Your experiences of making new friends later in life?

[0mgofhappiness]

It's easy of you have a pretty face. My experiences have been negative for 10 years, I had a divorce. Since then I have tried to make friends which has taught me that only of you are visually perfect that you have more chance of getting by.

So it's hard, once you are over the hill. Young Females want the older men I am looking for. So that's a dead end.

I could lie on a dating site to gain more followers.

21, blonde, svelte, lawyer, looking for a man to hold. - this is what men want. People want people in their lives that are beneficial to them on a status level.

Me being honest would get scrolled past.
Middle aged, a load of baggage from previous relationships. Really annoying voice, only hobby is writing. I try to exercise. I have been a mother. I have also been a junkie. But atleast I am honest. Does that count for anything today? Honesty? White lies I can handle, not big fat beautiful lies that everyone believes. I am living as a transgender woman, even though I am not! Because people believe rumours of enough people say it.

Id get the attention of my description read like the first example. But it wouldn't go anywhere because I am not stunning, I have not got a perfect figure. It might get people to notice me and talk to me though.

Any stories on how you eventually found love again, found someone that loved you? The whole love yourself movement has become a burden on me now, I have tried it, I have half way began to accepting myself but I will never love myself, that can sometimes be just as ugly as hating yourself. Holding that air above your head, me myself and I? I personally don't find that attractive but it seems that is what every man wants. So there is a question, why do men want women that love themselves ? As a woman myself, I don't think I could handle a man that loves himself. Jesus Christ! That would be my ultimate nightmare falling in love with a man that loves himself just that little bit too much.

 

[okidoke]

It's easy of you have a pretty face. My experiences have been negative for 10 years, I had a divorce. Since then I have tried to make friends which has taught me that only of you are visually perfect that you have more chance of getting by.

So it's hard, once you are over the hill. Young Females want the older men I am looking for. So that's a dead end.

I could lie on a dating site to gain more followers.

21, blonde, svelte, lawyer, looking for a man to hold. - this is what men want. People want people in their lives that are beneficial to them on a status level.

Me being honest would get scrolled past.
Middle aged, a load of baggage from previous relationships. Really annoying voice, only hobby is writing. I try to exercise. I have been a mother. I have also been a junkie. But atleast I am honest. Does that count for anything today? Honesty? White lies I can handle, not big fat beautiful lies that everyone believes. I am living as a transgender woman, even though I am not! Because people believe rumours of enough people say it.

Id get the attention of my description read like the first example. But it wouldn't go anywhere because I am not stunning, I have not got a perfect figure. It might get people to notice me and talk to me though.

Any stories on how you eventually found love again, found someone that loved you? The whole love yourself movement has become a burden on me now, I have tried it, I have half way began to accepting myself but I will never love myself, that can sometimes be just as ugly as hating yourself. Holding that air above your head, me myself and I? I personally don't find that attractive but it seems that is what every man wants. So there is a question, why do men want women that love themselves ? As a woman myself, I don't think I could handle a man that loves himself. Jesus Christ! That would be my ultimate nightmare falling in love with a man that loves himself just that little bit too much.

Please don’t speak for me.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

Please don’t speak for me.

Speak for you? Where ? I quoted you once because I noticed you popping up on a previous post. Not on my comment. But ona another users comment to mine. Where have a spoken for you? I don't understand ? Who are you?

 

[okidoke]

I mean all your references to what men want. I’m a man and I don’t agree with your sweeping statements.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I'm confused. Your title says friends, but your post is clearly about dating.

I've made friends in my adult years. Some of them are from this very forum. Some of them are from other forums. Some of them are people I've met in my day to day everyday real life. You have to talk to people, you have to get to know people, you have to be open to it and put in effort. That's true of anything in life.

 

[ringwood]

Are you looking for platonic friends or a romantic partner? Your title refers to friends, but your post is all about dating. Also, quit with the generalizations about what men want. Everyone has different tastes, not every man wants a skinny, attractive young blond. That's like saying every man should drive a hot sports car versus a classic car.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

I'm confused. Your title says friends, but your post is clearly about dating.

I've made friends in my adult years. Some of them are from this very forum. Some of them are from other forums. Some of them are people I've met in my day to day everyday real life. You have to talk to people, you have to get to know people, you have to be open to it and put in effort. That's true of anything in

I'm confused. Your title says friends, but your post is clearly about dating.

I've made friends in my adult years. Some of them are from this very forum. Some of them are from other forums. Some of them are people I've met in my day to day everyday real life. You have to talk to people, you have to get to know people, you have to be open to it and put in effort. That's true of anything in life.

Yes, you are right. I am stuck in a loop, a loop of having once a man that tried to assure me that I was the only woman in his life. I never believed him, hence a divorce ensued. I am left feeling lost, alone for a thought that was close to being one hundred percent but I was not completely sure.

In a constant state of mourning. I guess when that subsides I might 'get a job!' like everyone keeps shouting at me to get one. All I am trying to do in life is do the things that people are shouting at me to do. Bit when all my attempts are absconded, they keep.coming back to shout at me once again after a try. 'get a job!' 'get a job!' they scream. I am trying!

 

[TheRealCallie]

not every man wants a skinny, attractive young blond.

Very true. My ex prefers bigger women. I know several men that prefer bigger women and if no man wanted bigger women, there wouldn't be BBW dating sites.

 

[TheRealCallie]

In a constant state of mourning. I guess when that subsides I might 'get a job!' like everyone keeps shouting at me to get one. All I am trying to do in life is do the things that people are shouting at me to do.

You definitely should get a job, but more important than that is to do SOMETHING. Being idle and living in your misery will only make you worse.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

Are you looking for platonic friends or a romantic partner? Your title refers to friends, but your post is all about dating. Also, quit with the generalizations about what men want. Everyone has different tastes, not every man wants a skinny, attractive young blond. That's like saying every man should drive a hot sports car versus a classic car.

It's only my experiences

Are you looking for platonic friends or a romantic partner? Your title refers to friends, but your post is all about dating. Also, quit with the generalizations about what men want. Everyone has different tastes, not every man wants a skinny, attractive young blond. That's like saying every man should drive a hot sports car versus a classic car.

In my experience I have dated men with high standards so it has never lasted. Always a younger model came along to steal my thunder for want of a better word. I suppose our experiences shape our views.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

You definitely should get a job, but more important than that is to do SOMETHING. Being idle and living in your misery will only make you worse.

And what if there are no jobs. I can't get one, I can't even get an interview. They see my age. We are loving in an era that we can't control. Employers want young fresh individuals that will last a lifetime. They don't want an old woman. I am against a huge tidal wave.

 

[TheRealCallie]

And what if there are no jobs. I can't get one, I can't even get an interview. They see my age. We are loving in an era that we can't control. Employers want young fresh individuals that will last a lifetime. They don't want an old woman. I am against a huge tidal wave.

Then look for more jobs and like I said in the other post, look for unconventional jobs like working at home. Volunteer. Join a club. Go to church if you are religious. Stop festering in your own misery and go out into the world and find people who will care about you.