Oldyoung
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Something I see in this forum a lot, and have also experienced doing myself:
"That girl rejected me. I'm unattractive and boring"
"I applied to 10 jobs and no one accepted. I'm useless"
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This is the convenient and easy way of thinking about it. Drop down in front of the TV then pity yourself. It's very comfortable, and I speak from experience here.
The difficult way is thinking like this:
Am I applying to the right kind of job for me? Are there any jobs around I didn't even consider yet? Am I thinking outside the box when looking for jobs?
Did I try different approaches, meeting in person instead of sending an application?
Should I have showered before I went on that date? Did i interrogate her too much? Does the clothes i wear make me look my best? Did I show enough interest. Was she bored? It was going well for a while, what changed her mood?
My point is, there are ALWAYS more opportunities to explore, and ways to improve. Even if they seem small and insignificant. Don't be lazy, ask the right questions and "explore life".
I'm not saying this is easy. It's not at all. Some of us face difficulties many others don't. But don't make yourself believe there's nothing you can do about your situation, cause there (almost) definitely is.
"That girl rejected me. I'm unattractive and boring"
"I applied to 10 jobs and no one accepted. I'm useless"
...
This is the convenient and easy way of thinking about it. Drop down in front of the TV then pity yourself. It's very comfortable, and I speak from experience here.
The difficult way is thinking like this:
Am I applying to the right kind of job for me? Are there any jobs around I didn't even consider yet? Am I thinking outside the box when looking for jobs?
Did I try different approaches, meeting in person instead of sending an application?
Should I have showered before I went on that date? Did i interrogate her too much? Does the clothes i wear make me look my best? Did I show enough interest. Was she bored? It was going well for a while, what changed her mood?
My point is, there are ALWAYS more opportunities to explore, and ways to improve. Even if they seem small and insignificant. Don't be lazy, ask the right questions and "explore life".
I'm not saying this is easy. It's not at all. Some of us face difficulties many others don't. But don't make yourself believe there's nothing you can do about your situation, cause there (almost) definitely is.