Who me a narcissist? No way!

[isthatso]

It's a label that's tossed around a lot recently. I overuse it too. To describe people who are fascinated by themselves and are the centre of their own universe. People around them are merely a means to feed their ego. Satellites.
I like starting threads. There's a level of narcissism in that I admit. But I'm also interested in other people. I do have some extroversion. Narcissistic introverts are the worst.
Talked to a guy recently at a coffee shop. He fascinated me and he was sharp. A retired doctor. Intelligent and rich. Though he dressed down so you wouldn't know. Anyway it went well. I let him have the floor. He knew far more than me so I didn't mind. But second and third meetings I gradually noticed something. He showed little or no interest in me. Especially my point of view.
It hurt but I concluded to myself " he is smarter than me so I have to be meek and mild".
What a conclusion! That's what we do sometimes. We let those we admire, treat us badly.
The way I feel, I'm not in a hurry to meet him again. A shame because I have more to learn from him. Even though I'm a tiny spec in his universe. That's life!

 

[Unsigned]

I've been called a sociopath.
By my mother, and by escorts too.
I don't think I am, but I have been called that.

 

[isthatso]

I've been called a sociopath.
By my mother, and by escorts too.
I don't think I am, but I have been called that.

Sticks and stones. From what I've seen I don't think you are.
Interestingly this guy shared that his daughter called him a "f.....king narcissist". And hasn't spoken to him since.
Bad relationships are very common in this world. Good relationships, less so.

 

[isthatso]

It's hard not to feel sorry for myself sometimes.
Ok I lost my wife December 20 last year. Anniversary of her death approaches. One year has flown but daily sad moments are hard to avoid. I'm triggered so easily.
Tough guy stoic in me has gone AWOL. " Hey you think you are the first person to lose a partner? Man up!"
Wait till you guys get to 65. Then you realise your days are numbered. I got 20 years left if I'm lucky. And looks like much of it will be alone. I'm not really interested in meeting another woman. It's disrespectful somehow .
Ok so the answer is not to ***** and moan on forums like this. I know that. But this posting is a kind of cheap therapy. Bit like. Cenotaph girl says. "Let me ramble" that's me too. Rambling helps. Whether people read it or not.
We all need to let off steam.

 

[ardour]

I've been called a sociopath.
By my mother, and by escorts too.
I don't think I am, but I have been called that.

From what you've said, I doubt your mother's a reliable witness.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

By definition...

A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.

I will never understand why thats a bad thing..... why our culture promotes for people to not admire and have interest in themselves... and then wonder why so many people are obese, unhygienic and depressed.

 

[TheSkaFish]

By definition...

A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.

I will never understand why thats a bad thing..... why our culture promotes for people to not admire and have interest in themselves... and then wonder why so many people are obese, unhygienic and depressed.

I think it's a lot of reasons, but for the most part, the keyword is "excessive".
A normal amount is fine, but it's very easy to get carried away. It can get hard to find the line.

I also think that it's partially that they want people to be good little worker drones...if you start feeling, or wanting, a greater sense of pride and individuality, it contradicts that. You're supposed to want to work on other people's dreams, not your own. The people on top want to be individuals, but only for themselves. They want everyone else to be a mindless, pride-less collective that exists to fuel their dreams.

That's the thing with me - I hate being insulted and humiliated, and I desperately crave pride and individuality. I just don't know what I can get good enough at to claim those things.

As far as the obesity, lack of hygiene, and depression, the older I get, the more I realize that it's hard/expensive to do everything "correctly". People might have the desire, but not the money or the knowledge. Also living in this treadmill lifestyle, grinds you down physically, mentally, emotionally. It's hard to feel like doing all the little things right, when you feel like it's probably not going to matter anyway.

Just my thoughts.

 

[randomguy]

By definition...

A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.

I will never understand why thats a bad thing..... why our culture promotes for people to not admire and have interest in themselves... and then wonder why so many people are obese, unhygienic and depressed.

I reckon a higher percentage of people who have an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves are depressed and some of that sh*t they do to themselves ain't very hygienic either.

 

[Abstamyous]

By definition...

A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.

I will never understand why thats a bad thing..... why our culture promotes for people to not admire and have interest in themselves... and then wonder why so many people are obese, unhygienic and depressed.

There's a huge gap between admiring oneself and thinking everyone in the world should kiss the ground you walk on. There's also the part where a narcissist takes no responsibility for how their own lives turn out, and continually harm others with manipulation.

Narcissist is also just another stupid trendy word. Almost feels like it has no meaning when it's tossed around towards people trying to steady personal boundaries and genuinely trying to do good in their own lives.

You absolutely should admire yourself and have an interest in where your life is going.

 

[Walnut]

Deleted because I just realized my post was just a rewording of the post above.

Sorry for being a narcissist.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I also think that it's partially that they want people to be good little worker drones...if you start feeling, or wanting, a greater sense of pride and individuality, it contradicts that. You're supposed to want to work on other people's dreams, not your own. The people on top want to be individuals, but only for themselves. They want everyone else to be a mindless, pride-less collective that exists to fuel their dreams.

I agree with this sooo much

I reckon a higher percentage of people who have an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves are depressed and some of that sh*t they do to themselves ain't very hygienic either.

I think this is true to, but so many people have such lowwww self esteem these days because people promote it. You are a man of music so let me find a fitting song lyric lolz “You dont know you’re beautiful… thats what makes you beautiful…” being insecure, being self critical is praised. However, its not the only reason people can suffer with depression, I agree.

There's a huge gap between admiring oneself and thinking everyone in the world should kiss the ground you walk on. There's also the part where a narcissist takes no responsibility for how their own lives turn out, and continually harm others with manipulation.

Narcissist is also just another stupid trendy word. Almost feels like it has no meaning when it's tossed around towards people trying to steady personal boundaries and genuinely trying to do good in their own lives.

You absolutely should admire yourself and have an interest in where your life is going.

You arent talking about me, but humour me lol as Callie has tried to explain this to me and I still dont get it See my atypical brain works like this… why would it be bad for me to think others should kiss the ground I walk on? Why would that upset anyone… if I am not important, why would what I think matter? Because I am narc I just think of others as literal ants, when they tell me their thoughts I actually forget they have them… however, by the grace of the lord I have gotten better. Its just confusing because all my life I felt like people cared soo much about my opinions… and I never even considered theres but it may be… the narcissism

 

[Abstamyous]

You arent talking about me, but humour me lol as Callie has tried to explain this to me and I still dont get it See my atypical brain works like this… why would it be bad for me to think others should kiss the ground I walk on? Why would that upset anyone… if I am not important, why would what I think matter? Because I am narc I just think of others as literal ants, when they tell me their thoughts I actually forget they have them… however, by the grace of the lord I have gotten better. Its just confusing because all my life I felt like people cared soo much about my opinions… and I never even considered theres but it may be… the narcissism

I don't know you well enough to really comment here.

I did briefly imagine myself as a giant, city crushing ant and had a good chuckle.

 

[TheSkaFish]

You arent talking about me, but humour me lol as Callie has tried to explain this to me and I still dont get it See my atypical brain works like this… why would it be bad for me to think others should kiss the ground I walk on? Why would that upset anyone… if I am not important, why would what I think matter? Because I am narc I just think of others as literal ants, when they tell me their thoughts I actually forget they have them… however, by the grace of the lord I have gotten better. Its just confusing because all my life I felt like people cared soo much about my opinions… and I never even considered theres but it may be… the narcissism

"You're nobody 'til somebody vandalizes your article on Wikipedia."

- Ska

 

[CenotaphGirl]

"You're nobody 'til somebody vandalizes your article on Wikipedia."

- Ska

Someone made a wiki about me once saying my name was Molly (this is a joke)

Oh ska I wish I had a normal brain like everyone else… I just dont understandddd

 

[TheSkaFish]

Someone made a wiki about me once saying my name was Molly (this is a joke)

Oh ska I wish I had a normal brain like everyone else… I just dont understandddd

Well, I guess you really are somebody then. I stand corrected!

I think you're alright though. As a normal-brain-haver, it's overrated.
I wish I had an unconventionally imaginative mind like my favorite creators. That would be really neat.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Well, I guess you really are somebody then. I stand corrected!

I think you're alright though. As a normal-brain-haver, it's overrated.
I wish I had an unconventionally imaginative mind like my favorite creators. That would be really neat.

Lool Ska all I could think was… Ska could write me a new anime to watch with twists and turns I could never suspect

 

[movinggirl]

At the end of the day your sh*t stinks just like everyone else.

 

[homelessincheshire]

What about narcissistic schitzophrenia personality humour syndrome disorder?

Roses are Red.
Violets are Blue.
Im schitzophrenic...
And so am I!