user 135067
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I live with two people. My wife and my son. It is to the point that I cannot ask either of them a simple question, or make the most innocuous statement without getting an argument back. There are no conversations. It's always tense rebuke. It's like I annoy both of them by existing.
Am I annoying? They don't talk to each other in those tones. Just me.
I am so tired of all the resistance all the time.
I haven't done a very good job of financial management. I was looking at expenditures recently. I've dropped $50k into this house and sustaining the household over the last 3 years. I think of what I might have done with that money on my own. Of course that is moot now. The money is gone.
My income is tiny. It's not enough to sustain much more than a cardboard box on the street. I'm reluctant to leave for fear of losing what little I have. Here I have a place to work on my projects. I keep hoping one will net me a better income. Meanwhile I'm stuck.
They have the house. I live in the garage which is also the shop. I'm happy to be apart. It's heated and almost private. To be closer to them would be insufferable. I just don't think I deserve all the backlash.
Most recently, my son wants to utilize an old computer to have internet browsing on the living room TV. There is no Ethernet to the living room. I tried to talk to my wife about a WiFi adapter. She got all aggressive with, "I don't know. I don't know what he wants. He said something about a server. Go talk to him." She could have said she didn't know without the chafe.
So, I talked to him. I get 220 mps on these great little adapters. His reply with irritation, "But a wire gets a gig. I like a wire."
"My wired Ethernet only gets 75 mps."
"Then you have a bad wire."
"It will be expensive and difficult to run a wired connector. We'll need to buy a 60 ft CAT6 cable and run it in the ceiling or the floor."
"You can get a 100 foot cable for 4 dollars." Irritated that I'm keeping him from his computer.
"Not a CAT6."
"Any cable will get a gig."
"I can get the adapter for $27. Would it be enough to run your server?"
"I don't have enough hard drive to run a server. It's just for internet."
"Then the Wifi should be fine."
"I don't care, Dad. Do what you want." Slams door.
It wasn't what was said. It was that, from the first words, he said it with complete irritation.
It's always aggravation. Unless they want me to do something for them. Then it comes out reasonable.
I don't hate them. I just hate it here. But I see no way to get out.
I'm just venting my frustration. I see no solutions. My "room" is curtained off from the shop for privacy. Maybe I'll just stay in it when I'm not working in the shop. It's obvious my company isn't wanted.
Am I annoying? They don't talk to each other in those tones. Just me.
I am so tired of all the resistance all the time.
I haven't done a very good job of financial management. I was looking at expenditures recently. I've dropped $50k into this house and sustaining the household over the last 3 years. I think of what I might have done with that money on my own. Of course that is moot now. The money is gone.
My income is tiny. It's not enough to sustain much more than a cardboard box on the street. I'm reluctant to leave for fear of losing what little I have. Here I have a place to work on my projects. I keep hoping one will net me a better income. Meanwhile I'm stuck.
They have the house. I live in the garage which is also the shop. I'm happy to be apart. It's heated and almost private. To be closer to them would be insufferable. I just don't think I deserve all the backlash.
Most recently, my son wants to utilize an old computer to have internet browsing on the living room TV. There is no Ethernet to the living room. I tried to talk to my wife about a WiFi adapter. She got all aggressive with, "I don't know. I don't know what he wants. He said something about a server. Go talk to him." She could have said she didn't know without the chafe.
So, I talked to him. I get 220 mps on these great little adapters. His reply with irritation, "But a wire gets a gig. I like a wire."
"My wired Ethernet only gets 75 mps."
"Then you have a bad wire."
"It will be expensive and difficult to run a wired connector. We'll need to buy a 60 ft CAT6 cable and run it in the ceiling or the floor."
"You can get a 100 foot cable for 4 dollars." Irritated that I'm keeping him from his computer.
"Not a CAT6."
"Any cable will get a gig."
"I can get the adapter for $27. Would it be enough to run your server?"
"I don't have enough hard drive to run a server. It's just for internet."
"Then the Wifi should be fine."
"I don't care, Dad. Do what you want." Slams door.
It wasn't what was said. It was that, from the first words, he said it with complete irritation.
It's always aggravation. Unless they want me to do something for them. Then it comes out reasonable.
I don't hate them. I just hate it here. But I see no way to get out.
I'm just venting my frustration. I see no solutions. My "room" is curtained off from the shop for privacy. Maybe I'll just stay in it when I'm not working in the shop. It's obvious my company isn't wanted.