Life is not for me

Puffo · Jul 12, 2024

Yesterday I was invited by a work colleague to see his newborn son. When I arrived, the house was full of people, especially girls, and I felt every eyes on me: I didn't expect so many people..
That hurts me because beyond the fact I'm a lonely guy "forced" to see others going on with their lives, I felt the differences between me and the normal people was very strong.
I feel like I will not never have a normal life, a girlfriend, a family...all of these things are so far away from me...and I'm 32 and the life slowly fades..
I would like to end up this life...
Life is not for me.

Punisher · Jul 12, 2024

honeysuckle advice, but, find things you enjoy doing, and ride it out. That is what I am doing. Nothing else you can do, if you think you'll never be normal.

TheRealCallie · Jul 12, 2024

Of course the house was filled with women. It's usually women who gush over babies. lol They were probably there all day because "OMG, LOOK AT THE BABY

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Pun's advice isn't honeysuckle. Except for the "normal" part of it. You'll never be normal because no one is normal

But yes, if you want to not be lonely, you have to interact with people. But, I'd say, if you were invited to go see someone's newborn baby, you probably have at least one person in your corner.

okidoke · Jul 12, 2024

@Puffo you've posted similarly in the past, but you're still here, which means you really do want to keep hanging around, it's just you don't wish to endure your struggles anymore. None of us do. And everyone has some issue they are trying to cope with, whether you realise it or not. As I've told others before, if you want things to be different in your life, you need to do different things. Take a chance, try something new, go someplace else, find an interest group, change your hairstyle. Life is for everyone. It wasn't for the sperm that didn't make it. Try to make the most of it. When you think the worst, just consider those who have life so much worse than you and still carry on. The world is your oyster as they say.

user 191131 · Jul 12, 2024

Observe life rather than trying to engage in it. Eventually, a tall dark stranger will slip into your peripheral vision and will want to be your friend or even more. Life comes to everyone. Some seek it out and others wait for it to happen. What you must do is to be visible.

user 191138 · Jul 13, 2024

Puffo said:
Yesterday I was invited by a work colleague to see his newborn son. When I arrived, the house was full of people, especially girls, and I felt every eyes on me: I didn't expect so many people..
That hurts me because beyond the fact I'm a lonely guy "forced" to see others going on with their lives, I felt the differences between me and the normal people was very strong.
I feel like I will not never have a normal life, a girlfriend, a family...all of these things are so far away from me...and I'm 32 and the life slowly fades..
I would like to end up this life...
Life is not for me.

I’m with you, I feel many of those emotions every day and it’s not easy to deal with but we’re all here so that’s gotta be for something.