Craving deep connections - online friends (men and women)

AlexandraOcean · Nov 5, 2024

Unsigned said:
Hi @AlexandraOcean and welcome.

I overeat often too.
It's usually when I overdrink.
I'm trying to break those unhealthy habits as well.
I try replacing it with exercise, and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
Hope you have better luck!

thanks for sharing, kudos to us for taking positive steps! It's so nice to know that I'm not alone and that there are others that understand the challenges of being a sensitive human being in this world.

FunTimes · Nov 6, 2024

Fred said:
Well hello and welcome

Hi AlexandraOcean

AlexandraOcean said:
Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

Hi

I feel that getting older doesn't mean less beautiful nor less attractive. I feel that there is a different beauty and attractiveness that comes with age. And it is whats inside thsy counts more. I get the feeling you are still very attractive.

Having deep and intellectual conversations are the best.

As far as overeating goes, I feel it would pass. Since you decide to replace it with conversations

AlexandraOcean · Nov 6, 2024

FunTimes said:
Hi AlexandraOcean

Hi

I feel that getting older doesn't mean less beautiful nor less attractive. I feel that there is a different beauty and attractiveness that comes with age. And it is whats inside thsy counts more. I get the feeling you are still very attractive.

Having deep and intellectual conversations are the best.

As far as overeating goes, I feel it would pass. Since you decide to replace it with conversations

Thank you, so far it's been really lovely getting to know people on here. It really has been lifting me up and feeding that need for connection. I hope I'm paying it forward to others as well

DGM · Sunday at 6:47 PM

AlexandraOcean said:
Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

I have always been a person to only have a select few as close friends. After my wife of 24 passing I found out the select few was not what I would even call a friend. Once a friend I'm all in Ill be there through anything, But unfortunately there isn't many folks out there the same even people you choose to Marry. But with that being said at 55 yr old I so long for some lady to share conversations and experiences with.

okidoke · Monday at 1:13 AM

DGM said:
….. at 55 yr old I so long for some lady to share conversations and experiences with.

So are you looking for just a friend or an intimate companion?

Unafraid_8 · Tuesday at 4:22 AM

So after reading this thread, I joined the site. I thought sure why not share my experiences about loneliness. However, first I wanted to read about others experiences first. So thank you for your posts on this site and topic, after reading them I indulged in a bit of a search, what one does when looking for missing family and/or missing friends (I came across a book called Three Sisters). Well just wanted to introduce myself somewhere - I appreciate this forum and thread, thank you,.