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For the most part it's all about looks and the fact that so often we judge each other based on looks alone cannot be disputed. Just think back to high school at how many of the very popular guys & girls were total asshats but since they were so attractive they were always on the top of the...

I would agree up to the point about self loathing somehow being sensed by women as always being a negative. There are men who are self loathing and toxic yet still have a strong abiiity to attract good looking women based on the mans high level of physical appearance alone regardless of his...

True confidence is a result of having success. Absent of success, confidence is merely delusional. For example, a man can have great confidence about his ability to play baseball but if he cannot hit, catch, throw or run very well then he is not a good baseball player despite what he thinks...

My final words to you-my decision to not interact has nothing to do with any disagreement. You seem to focus on subjects which have nothing to do with the conversation, such as what I look like myself (though my user name should give a big clue), another person not being 1% of the population...

The uncomfortable conclusions are that existence is inherently meaningless The idea's you suggest are the precise reasons why human's invented gods & religions (of which there are thousands) in the first place-to try and make sense of the natural world and give some kind of meaning outside of...

But that is not the way the world works because it is socially acceptable to ridicule short men but anyone who mentions that they are not attracted to overweight women is cancelled for "fat shaming". In additon, obesity is the number one cause of health issues while a lack of height has zero...

Exactly-for example, when was the last time you saw an obese man on a magazine cover? Fat men in the media are always portrayed as slow witted & fools while fat women are supposedly stunning & brave. We won't even get into the male height bias of ridiculing short men which is rampent in...

RC-I am going to choose to not respond to your posts as you appear not to be an honest interlocutor and seem to be more interested in squabbling than in productive conversation.

More excellent discourse from the same content creator about what he refers to as the "cult of positivity" which several posters on this forum seem to subscribe to.

Men cannot help what we like either though yet as I said we are shamed when we have even reasonable standards-especially standards which relate to a womens weight. Even if a guy is in excellent physical shape he is expected to be happy with an obese women because "all bodies are...

That's the issue though-almost all women are looking for the same very narrow category of men so the competition for them is tremendous-and this does not even take into account the fact that these top men have no reason to settle down with a single women when they are in such demand that they...

That may be a solution for some but is not possible for others. I have learned in my 5+ decades on this planet that the only times (and very few at that-perhaps a dozen or so at most) which I have felt truly alive is when there was even a glimmer of intimate connection. Of course, they...

How many men are there like that-less than 1% for certain. And women wonder why most men are so incredibly discouraged trying to find a relationship. Of course, when a man states that he is only interested in a top 1% (or even 5% ,10% or 20%) women he is immediately slammed for having...

I agree and can certainly relate to this myself. The three biggest factors in making connections are physical appearance, being extroverted and being neurotypical. If someone is good looking enough they can be introverted and not neurotypical and will still have options. Likewise if they are...

Perhaps you should do some study on the subject because your opinions about it are ill informed. It is instead a cogent philosophy which rejects objective truth, moral values and meaning in life. It is the belief that nothing has any inherent meaning or purpose.

That was merely one source-if you are interested you can do a google search yourself & find many others which explain the recognized phenomenon of toxic positivity. In fact, your resistance to accepting that it exists may be an example of toxic positivity.

I would not label nihilism as a cope but instead as an insight which is experienced by people who have had a lifetime of failure & disapointment. Some of us don't care about parties or most social events as the goal is not to be come popular but to find even a single non-superficial connection...

From Psychology Today: "Toxic positivity is the act of avoiding, suppressing, or rejecting negative emotions or experiences. This may take the form of denying your own emotions or someone else denying your emotions, insisting on positive thinking instead. Although setting aside difficult...

"How we make that life appealing is generally up to us." I strongly disagree-life comes down to pure, random chance for the most part and our locus of control is far smaller than we like to believe. As far as we know other animals do not ponder their own existence so this is not an issue for...

This is an interesting meme which compares the psychological condition of depressive realism vs the bias of toxic positivity. When people have good success in life they tend to be more positive because of their survivorship bias while people who have experienced a lot of failure and rejection...