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Can I ask what it was that made the marriage over after 5 years? Did you think that at the time, or are you just speaking generally, that looking back you realise that was the time at which it was over? Personally, I think love is overrated. Two quotes that I like: "People would never fall...

Yes, definitely. It took me until my 20s to even realise that not everybody was like me, and that I wasn't necessarily doing them a favour by ending any interaction as soon as humanly possible - that some people actually like interaction. It's important to repeat often to yourself that nobody...

Oh man, you make me realise how unfit I have become, and I'm getting older now so need to be careful, a couple of years ago I had got into the routine of doing 150 pushups every other day (3*50), but I have got really lazy, now I can only do about 25. My problem isn't that I put on weight...

You're actually reminding me of lots of things for some reason, but there's a kid in the sitcom 'Modern Family' and the joke is that the kid is about 13 but is incredibly mature, and there's an episode where he wants to date one of the popular girls at school, and when it doesn't work out he...

Read a book called 'Quiet' by Susan Cain. It's fantastic.

I'd recommend you read a book called 'Eleanor Rigby' by Douglas Coupland, if you haven't read it.

Your explanation does make sense, I remember a few years ago seeing an overweight guy on TV talking about dating, and he said it's always odd to him that people think he will be attracted to overweight women just because he's an overweight man. He was like, "I want a woman who looks like Pamela...

I posted a thread about my wife and our problems over a year ago on this forum, it seems like an appropriate place, because it is, indeed, a lonely life. We've probably broken up for good, and it ended with a whimper rather than a bang. She went away to visit family, and we've stopped...

Why do you assume that any man would think like you and not have a different perspective? Morality and sexism aside, I wouldn't advertise anything as "woman only wanted", it sounds distinctly serial killer-ish. If you're sure you only want a woman for this project, I'd just do what everybody...

Feminists and misogynists can bellyache all they like, but looks are always a factor, for basically everyone, otherwise there would be no such thing as 'heterosexual' or 'homosexual', and people would pair off seemingly randomly. I doubt a 30 year old would tell you that you are too old and...

I don't get this thing about buying tampons either, I've bought tampons for my wife dozens of times, it doesn't bother me at all, it's not as if the store clerk is going to think they're for me.

I must admit I never really think about it much, when I was a teenager it was usually women in their 20s/30s that I found most attractive, and the most.....umm.......appealing woman I have ever met in real life was 47 at the time (not in terms of 'I want to date/marry her' but in terms of 'holy...

I don't know that we ever 'get over' people we have spent so much of our lives with, you just form other relationships. Tolerance is so much more important than romance or lust in relationships, I think.  Just know that there will come a day soon when you'll feel better.

Well that's ok if there is no connection with senior citizens, because older people tend to have a lot of time so they will be happy to talk to you, and 'oh hey, you should meet my daughter/son'...................ya know? You can meet a ton of people that way, and do some good too, if the lady...

Could I ask, do you live in a very rural area? Are there not many people around you? Have you tried joining a book group, or an evening class, or anything like that?

I do understand what you mean, and it can be infuriating for us to see those people who make connections so easily. There was a time in my life when I once went an entire year without speaking to anyone, except my landlady (twice), and I do mean, not a single word to another human being. I'm...

In his autobiography, rock musician Mark Everett says that having no-one intimate in his life leads to a strange feeling, like when he has to put an 'emergency contact' on a form, and has nobody to write. People drive us crazy, but we need them. We are dancing animals, as Kurt Vonnegut put it. ...

I'm sorry to hear that, my mother was a chronic alcoholic, and I think that has influenced a lot of my relationship with women (how could it not) and on the one hand I feel compelled to take care of vulnerable women, but on the other I have a very low tolerance for overly-emotional behaviour...

Don't worry, I won't be slipping her pills, crumbs. I wouldn't even know how that would work - "Yes, please stop hitting me for a moment dear and take this unsuspicious concoction I've just decided to mix for you for some reason......" It's difficult to explain (I know everybody says this), but...

Yeah, I know. And I have said this to myself too, that I will leave her if she does, and I should, and I actually have done a couple of times. She has made a lot of improvement, but I don't know that to me the damage can ever be undone.  It's desperately frustrating to me, because the solution...