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I don't know. Does anyone know someone who would know?

Yes, I agree, you don't know why she didn't respond, but if you try multiple times with no response, move on. I usually message people a few times. If they don't respond, I try once more. If still no response, then I wait a while and try again. If still none, then I'm done. People have...

You completely misunderstood what I was getting at. I'm not going to try to explain it anymore. I give up. I do want to make clear that I would never tell anyone not to be straight or homosexual, or either. That had absolutely nothing to do with what I was saying. What I was saying would...

You'll get neither. You're entitled to your opinion, that's fine. If you don't want to read long posts then don't read them. It looks like other people read the post and that's fine for them as well. Sometimes a concise email doesn't cover everything adequately. The message was as short as I...

I think you're misunderstanding what I'm trying to say. I might not be being clear enough also, so it could equally be my fault. I'm not arguing, and I never argued, that anyone should change their standards of attractiveness. I'm just saying that I no longer waste my time finding women who I...

I think a lot of male sexuality is socialized early on, often when people don't even realize it. Being solidified at an early age, most of it isn't rational, but it falls apart if one begins to seriously question it. But since it's considered "normal" behavior few people ever do question it. A...

I never argued that you should be attracted to people you don't find attractive. I've been in that same situation more than once. I really wanted to find a few women I knew attractive, but the "fire" never lit, despite that they were available, we got along great and they seemed to want to...

Yes, and if they have no chance of dating a "super attractive woman" (or at least their idea of it), then they are stuck. They can remain frustrated forever, accept the circumstances and remain single, or they can try to appreciate other types of women. But I don't agree that men are completely...

I wasn't arguing against that. Yes, if he has a real chance at someone he finds attractive, yes, he should pursue it.

You're not as helpless as you think you are. I'm not saying it's easy, but it's possible.

That hasn't been a problem for me, so I'm not sure how to respond. I'm not sure how realistic that is, but someone in that situation would likely have a problem, yes. I would probably say that they were being too picky. I probably need to be clearer. I'm not advocating not being attracted to...

I think you have more control over it than you think. But if it works for you, that's absolutely fine. I'm not going to tell anyone how to live.

I don't think that's a more interesting question because the answer is clearly no. I'm not advocating not being attracted to anyone, just not being attracted to anyone you would never have any chance of actually dating. There are plenty of attractive people out there, some of who will actually...

I learned the hard way not to have physical preferences or to judge people by their looks based upon such and such color, length, etc. None of it really matters in the end. It's all useless abstractions. Attraction all by itself doesn't get anyone anything. It took me a while to realize that...

Leave the past in the past. I need to learn that. One of my way too lengthy posts here ended dredging up things that didn't need to get dredged up. It's all done. Gone. Nada. Zip. Why would I still react to something so far gone? This bizarre human design.

Why must these neurons be re-awoken? Oh well. Starting in grade school, I had a furious typhoon-level crush on one of the girls in my grade. At the time, I had no idea what was happening to me. I stared for hours at her class photo, typed her name repeatedly in white text on a white screen so no...

Oh yes, do I ever remember the Ultima series. They were probably my absolute favorite games. I bought Ultima II & III right off of store shelves when I was who knows how young (long before I could drive). Back then, you had to figure it all out by yourself. No one had posted "walk-throughs" and...

And the sequel where you sneak into Hitler's hideout, plant a bomb, and escape before you're either detected or the bomb goes off. I don't know how many times I played this when I was a kid. Here is the climax: entering Hitler's office with the bomb (guy to extreme right). Despite the graphics...

Castle Wolfenstein - you begin in the middle of a Nazi prison camp and have to escape. Still a good play today.

This story isn't a big deal by itself, but I would prefer to know about it before becoming serious with the person rather than a few years after. I can imagine waking up one morning and she says "Yeah, I still have that assault charge on my record." And me saying "what?!?" And her saying "Oh...