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i agree-looks are also a factor along with hair. a short man can get away with his lack of height if he is good looking enough.  likewise, a tall man can have success despite having an average face. the problem truly being when a man is lacking in two, or in my case all three of these-in which...

thank you Amy!  someone else here mentioned how to do this to me previously but i could not recall so i will make a note of it for future posts.

most of OLD seems to be this way but many women do seem to have success using these apps-along with the top men of course.

no one is forcing you to read or comment on my posts. i find posts based on the Just World fallacy which you so often promote to be rather old & repetitive also-not to mention in no way corresponding to reality.  attractive people have options which unattractive people will never have and most...

the copes suggested in this video only apply to those of a certain looks level whom are experiencing a shallow, temporary level of feeling alone. physically attractive people could never relate to the deep loneliness and existential angst of our existence. being a short, ugly male makes a...

there are few worse curses in life than being born a short male. it's not only over for short guys-for most of us it never even began

perhaps not all but many if not most women.  maybe because you hardly get out you are not very aware of the status of the modern dating scene. it was bad enough pre-covid and the year of pandemic shutdowns have relegated OLD to almost the only social outlet -which does not bode well for average...

women have it bad for opposite reasons because 78% of them are only interested in the top 22% of men.

"you are probably better off not wasting your time on Tinder" "This study was conducted to quantify the Tinder socio-economic prospects for males based on the percentage of females that will “like” them. Female Tinder usage data was collected and statistically analyzed to determine the...

perhaps you are correct.  as i said it has been so many years since a female showed me any attention that i likely would not believe it regardless.  it sounds like you have had no trouble getting attention from men though since you have had multiple past relationships and are currently married.

i go with scientific evidence for what there are studies on but they do not cover everything. the article i posted from Psychology today which described the sub concious reactions women have to the men they are attracted to is the closest thing i could find.   if you can present a study which...

all i can speak from is my own personal experience.  the very few times it has happened to me very long ago, this was certainly the case.  it is also true for the friends & family i know. it was not always like this.  many people met their partners before the explosion of social media & OLD. ...

thank you for your empathy & understanding. and you are correct, it is very difficult to understand without ever having gone through it personally.  i know i would have been in denied of it myself years ago too but as you said, it has been my all too harsh reality for as long as i can remember.

“The truth may be puzzling. It may take some work to grapple with. It may be counter intuitive. It may contradict deeply held prejudices. It may not be consonant with what we desperately want to be true. But our preferences do not determine what's true.” –Carl Sagan

when it does happen to women it is usually because they are only interested in men well above their looks level. the vast majority of men would be very satisfied with their looks match-myslef included.  the problem is that women for the most part are only interested in the top 20% of men and are...

that's a lot to take in so here are my thoughts. every aspect of life is significantly enhanced by being in a healthy intimate relationship. the fact that i am not ggod enough to ever experience one has been the bane of my existence for as long as i can remember. this is also not coming from...

thanks for your reply. doesn't a true solution have to have an improved outcome though?  otherwise, why bother trying to change things at all?   my situation is pretty simple really and i have described it in other threads. i am a short, bald, at best average looking male who has not had a...

acceptance is key.  i have never been able to do this so suffer greatly by ruminating endlessly on my huge shortcomings and lacks.

i think one of the very few things which actually give life meaning is our relationships with others.  as Maslow's hierarchy of needs shows, without acceptance & close personal relationships esteem & self acutalization is not possible.   no one is in control of their lives imo-everything comes...

i would disagree that there is always a solution.  some things just have to be lived with because there is no possible way to improve them. i guess defeated is as good of description as any.  it is almost an inevitable destination after so many years of loneliness & being unwanted. imo it's not...