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[h i]

i hate how people say you can just have ***. like it isnt hard to get... if you want it, just do it. i dont think i could get laid, right now, if my life depended on it. not even this week, this month, probably not even this year.

i avoid a lot of the bad, or potentially bad, and i think thats why i feel so isolated. i hear a lot of other people complain about their experiences, and frequently end or start relationships. i dont really want that.

but to hear others belittle something that i struggle with, hurts.

 

[It was Mine]

*** with someone you don't care about is meaningless and worthless so all the ones that brag, you don't want to know what they take home. or what they get from it. I get jealous of guys who talk as if it's nothing, if it's nothing why can't i do it? It's just the way we are. but you know, when we get a good thing. we know how to appreciate it. But if your in the situation i was a while back where you'll just go insane if nothing comes your way. dedicate yourself to work out because you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. but then they come for your body not you...and getting that body takes a longgggggg timeee been over a year and not there yet.

 

[samba101]

Hey Hi

Try not to let it get you down, I personally don't like having casual ***, I find it's robotic and I don't enjoy it because there are no emotions involved, I like to know someone first and that means being in a relationship as I don't take it lightly.

 

[nerdygirl]

That sort of ***... eh. It's better to use your hand or a toy. At least you know where it's been and you might have a little attachment to it.

 

[h i]

Hey Hi

Try not to let it get you down, I personally don't like having casual ***, I find it's robotic and I don't enjoy it because there are no emotions involved, I like to know someone first and that means being in a relationship as I don't take it lightly.

but ive never done it, and i dont think i could even do it if i wanted to do it. thanks though for encouraging me to not do it. it doesnt seem like something i would want. but the level of rejection that i feel about it still hurts.

 

[samba101]

It takes practice to get the hang of ***, for some it's not easy but it really depends on the person who you are with and what your chemistry is.

Sounds like you have issues all I can say is to find a forum where others are in your circumstances, if you can find someone in the same predicament it might help your fears, fears eat at us until we can't do the thing we fear. And it's good to get it off your chest.

 

[samba101]

Hey Hi I had to post this here, thanks for the links I tried to pm you but it said that you've disabled that feature.

 

[Brian]

It's better to use your hand or a toy. At least you know where it's been and you might have a little attachment to it.

God, I almost snorted milk out my nose. And that would've hurt because there's frosted miniwheats in it.

The guys at work last night ended up talking about all the girls they had *** with when they were younger. I took a shower and went to bed. I'm not going to sit there awkwardly and wait to be ridiculed for being single all the time. I know to them it's just joking around, but that's the one thing that gets to me. I don't think they've ever known what it's like to become a nervous wreck and get wrapped up in endless anxiety just trying to convince yourself to go talk to a girl you fancy. To spend an entire evening trying to figure out how to say something to the gal at the restaurant besides "Hi", "Thanks", and "See you later", and trying to escape the little voice listing off all the reasons why you shouldn't. ...She'll just laugh. You're not attractive. You're nervous and tense just thinking about it. She probably already has a boyfriend. And if she doesn't, she has fifty other guys she could go hang out with, better looking and not as awkward and inexperienced as you. She'll think you're a creep. You're not from around here. She doesn't even know you and doesn't want to. She already knows you like her, and she's already made a list of reasons why she's not interested. You always smile at her. Has she ever smiled back? Nothing could ever make her want to touch you. Even if she does go out with you, she'll find out how boring you are and how nervous you are, and you'll run out of things to talk about and she'll regret every minute of it...

Gods, I ******* hate that.

I'm glad it was so easy for them. For us, it's not.

 

[JustJones]

Hey Hi

Try not to let it get you down, I personally don't like having casual ***, I find it's robotic and I don't enjoy it because there are no emotions involved, I like to know someone first and that means being in a relationship as I don't take it lightly.

I totally agree, though I've never had casual ***, I can't see myself ever getting any pleasure from it. Infact, the first time I had *** with my girlfriend was only the second time we met, it took a lot of persuasion on her part to get me to stay the night. Come to think of it... that WAS causal *** then! lol so I have had it..
I remember it well, and I can safely say, the *** we have now that we're in love is so much more enjoyable. I haven't had it in nearly 2 months though Shes in another country and I'm not sure when shes coming back.

 

[nerdygirl]

It's better to use your hand or a toy. At least you know where it's been and you might have a little attachment to it.

God, I almost snorted milk out my nose. And that would've hurt because there's frosted miniwheats in it.

Ahh! Don't hurt yourself, I'd feel horrible.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

*** is about as dirty as the sun raise to me.

*** has meanings to it as much as you give meaning to a rose.
Whatever vaule you give to whatever the heck you give vaule to is
what it means to you.

The moment you start living and compairing yourself to others...you're screwed...that's where the sickness and insanities sets in.
Think like this, live like that, belive in this, don't belive in that.
Trying to live up to other's standards or vaules...which others can't
even apply in thier own lives.

What other do with thier lives is really non of my bussiness.
Wheather I think I'm better or worst than others...really dosn't have a hell of beans or effect
others in no shape or form. Poeple sure the hell hasn't ask for my permission to lived...

At the same tokken...What I do in my life is really no one else's damn bussiness either.
Evidently I'm not going ask anyone's permission to BE HAPPY TODAY.

This principles applies in other areas of my life...*** included.

Well.. if you think you're not going to get laid...then you probably won't.
If you want and wish to make it your reality , you're free to do so..and you're doing it.
No one else is going to change your mind or life for you....It is your chioce.
You have chosen to belive and live this way.

All ideas, plans, goals, accomplishments starts in your mind.
Whatever internal conflicts or mental blocks you have..wheather from internal or external
forces..it is up to you to let go of them or not.