A question for the forums

[geordy70]

This is a question i have for everyone, and i would like to hear anyones opinion about it.

When someone tells you that some people have it much worse than you, how would you react to that statement?

Example: "Your worst problem is nothing compared to his disability. You should be very thankful for living a normal life and stop b**ching for every single s*it."

Appologys for the language, this was a quote from a certian website.
Anyways im curious, what do you think of this? Do you agree?

*Edit* I really like all of your responces Hopefully this can help other people besides myself in the future. Im going to add onto the question by stating what the topic was about when i got it.

The people were argueing about Everyone being better off than Nick Vujicic, who was a man born with no legs or arms. People debated that everyone should be greatfull that they were not like him and should appreciate having arms and legs.

So, Would that change anything?

 

[kamya]

Just talk about how experiences are relative and give that line of hippie stuff dood.

 

[sylvestris lybica]

I don't think venting your frustrations is somehow an attempt to say "I have it worse than disabled people! All I care about is myself! Nyeah!" I mean, I could understand if all you do is whine that could annoy people, but if you just mention that you're down about such and such it's kind of unrelated to whether or not someone somewhere has it worse. And besides, human suffering is not a competition.

 

[Masson]

"Your worst problem is nothing compared to his disability. You should be very thankful for living a normal life and stop b**ching for every single s*it." is bs , everyone has their problems , yes maybe mine aren't as big as someone else but their mine , if for me the thing that hits me the hardest right now is deciding weather to eat pheasant or quail for dinner its my problem. Saying that someone's problem is bigger than someone else is just plain dumb and just a stupid thing in human nature to make other feel bad for no reason. In short people should mind their own business , keep to their s**t , stop complaining and everybody is happy.

An example would be me and a friend of mine , its more of a joke but still , I keep telling him how tough student life is with all the having to eat only when you have to and not when you want to ,not having money or parents to do everything for you in the house and so on and then he comes and tells me that doesn't compare with what he does at hes job. Well yeah of course it doesn't but that doesn't mean those things aren't a big problem for me. ( again its more of a joke between us , I'd be a sissy to actually think those are problems )

 

[Nolife Princess]

I don't think venting your frustrations is somehow an attempt to say "I have it worse than disabled people! All I care about is myself! Nyeah!" I mean, I could understand if all you do is whine that could annoy people, but if you just mention that you're down about such and such it's kind of unrelated to whether or not someone somewhere has it worse. And besides, human suffering is not a competition.

Very well said.
And I agree.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Its just tryInh get you to be GRATEFUL.
Its basic 101 recovery material..

Most peope attending support groups..such ss AA
had to hitted bottom. Their lives are a mess.
Thry lost everything,everyone and themselves.
Plus theyre argumentative and have a very ****** attitude.
And depressed...and lonely.
what's THERE TO BE GRATEFUL FOR???
Its really difficult difficult to see things
Differntly when your locked in a cycle of
Nrgativtities.
I live with someone now and our lives
Is freaken mess with **** loads of negative
Consequences on top.
Im hoping this will our bottom, but
she has a shovel in her hands.lol
You don't really wanna here about ****.

 

[WhiteTiger Lily]

What exactly is a "normal" life anyway?

Life is a spectrum, not a contest. You can't compare on levels of easiness because you don't know each and every factor of a person's life. If someone was to tell me that someone has it worse than me I'd probably respond with "of course some are worse off, and some are also better off, but that has nothing to do with how I feel at this current moment." It's not like like you're diminishing someone's disability by complaining, though it probably is an attempt to make you appreciate where you stand.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Some say Im crazier than her for
Being with her and so dose she...
LOVE IS NOT BLIND, I know better.
so here gose...

Im gratful Renae and I love each otber.
Im gratful our children loves us.
Im grateful were both still alive.
Im grateful for the food we have to eat.
Im grateful we have roof over pur heads.
Im grateful for the money we have.
Im grateful we both cam walk,see,hear and think.
Im grsteful were not sick.

Theres thousands upon thousands of things for
Me to be grateful for..

---

Gradtitude is a STATE OF HAVING.
POSITIVE BEGETS POSITIVE.
THOUGHT AND EMOTIONS ARE POWERFUL.
BELIEF IS THE CAUSE.
ACTIONS ARE THE EFFECTS.

YOU CAN USE THIS PROCESS
TO WORK FOR YOU OR AGAINT YOU.....

Observe seLf for a moment...
What your tboughts when you bad.
How do you feel when you have bad thoughts
How do you behave when you feel bad...

We all do this automatically.

Trash in trash out.
Its what we feed our minds...
Then if you want to get deeper..into
Our subconscious mind???
The many many yrear of feeding
Our mind with negative ****???
Have hear of people self sabataging themselves
And cant explain why???

 

[Tiina63]

I don't like it when people say something like this, as it does come across, in my eyes anyway, as a putdown. Besides, even if someone is really low about something which would seem trivial to most other people, they are still in pain and deserve compassion. And who can judge what is trivial anyway? We are not in the other person's shoes.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Who in the hell wants to proactively
Work on themselves. Practice making
A gratitude list. Then reading it and
Feeling it.5 to 10 mins per day everyday.
Its a shote and silly....

Yet its much easier to bitch, complain, and
Moan all day long every day...
LIFE SUCKS...
Its a self fulfilling prophecy.

---

Compassion is getting pepple to stand
On their own two feet. To move out of
Sufferings into living happy, healthy lives.

---

Can't fix anyone...but you
Can give them tools to fix themselves.

 

[Ghost Boy]

When I hear something like that it makes me wonder, does someone something like that make you feel better about your problems? Does it bring you out of your depression?