VanillaCreme said:
Robin, I'm not going to shut up. And you can't scare me into it. So, stop trying. You're saying security like the chat room is a club or a concert... No one is packing guns in there, or pulling out knives... What's your point in saying that I say whatever I want? You're ******* right I do. And someone the likes of you won't stop me. You can't do anything about it. I'm going to say what I want. The chat room is there to join and have some fun with other members... What would you have all of us say or talk about? You want to restrict everybody's words so bad... What would you have us talk about? You still don't get how dumb it is to really want to control what everyone says. And I'm not a mom... I don't know where you got that from...
I wasn't telling You or trying to scare You to shut up. Of course You should be able to talk just like everyone else. I think You all have misunderstood what i actually mean with "controlling". I don't want to blacklist words or topics themselves, not even curses. I just want to keep bad people out. People who use words against others as a mean of getting their anger out. Anger is the whole problem, and anger is what always is going to be around somewhere in a community dedicated to the lonely. If there are no bad people in the chat, there would be no reason to control anything.
What i was trying to do back then, was to make sure that only people who were ready to be granted free speech in a live environment were given that freedom. Bad people shouldn't be allowed to be free. And free speech equals to freedom here, since speech is all that traverse in an online community.
The problem isn't words or topics. The problems is bad people. You're not one of them just because You're a free-speech extremist. I have never seen You be cruel in the chat-room, so You would probably not be one of the ones who wouldn't be allowed to use it.
I didn't want to change people, i wanted the mean people to get their anger out somewhere else and then come back when they were ready to act like adults. Was the wrong thing to do? I don't think so.
VanillaCreme said:
First of all, Stella... Lolol. Go Steel!
Second, "this will remain a community where only the ones who already have guts to open up will do so." .... Duh? If they don't want to say anything, no one is making them... That's the point... People come here to open up how they feel like it... They open up to other members according to how they feel...
You're contradicting yourself... You're saying that no one will speak up for themselves, and that you're the "silent people's" admin... Yet, only the people who want to open up, will....
Don't you get it? No one needs you as a deliverer. People open up when they want to. You can't force someone to be open to you. They will according to how they feel... But you know what? I'll give you your props for standing up for what you believe. Because that's what I'm doing. And perhaps maybe there are a few people who think your side is the winning side. But you're not everyone's hero, and you're trying to make yourself out to be that.
You obviously haven't noticed how many people who have created an account here and who NEVER posted. Half, 50% of the 1273 current accounts were
never used to post in the forum. That's ~630 filler-accounts, kept to fool people that this place is alot more popular than it really is. Something i wanted to change with the accounts-pruning mod for that matter... if i hadn't installed that mod, there would have been nearly 4000 accounts, of which ~2000 never would have been used.
People don't dare to post, so they probably send PMs instead, trying to get someone to talk to. Very few people ever posted more than 20 posts before they left this place. VERY few. And there are almost 300 guests visiting every day of whom most will never even dare to make an account.
And You think people feel like they can come here to open up? Think again.
Half of all people who visit this place every day would need me as a "deliverer", and i could deliver. Fascinating how the facts still are on my side, but You just don't get it huh?
Sure, Creme, i stand up for what i believe in, because what i believe in is something that could make it better for lots of people. What's different between You and me in this consent, is that You stand up for the selfish and lazy way of solving this problem (not doing anything about it and imagine that everyone is as careless and insensitive as a person as You are) and that You keep standing up while all facts are against You.
It doesn't matter what any of You think of me. I have the solution to the problem that so many people here face, that You never even thought of, and it's being turned down because of what You think of me personally.