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After hearing so much crap about it I said " what the hey" I checked out some of it and guess what......you don't need it , no one needs it , you just freaking talk to a woman , THAT's IT.

Now, let's get to the basics, if you cannot differentiate between like and dislike, then you obviously are out of touch with reality. From what I've read up on you could accuse me of using PUA but in actuality I just know how to gauge the flow of a conversation. It's pretty easy to tell when a conversation is going to be over and when one is going to start, just look at how you talk to a close friend. Notice that you don't stand at strange angles, you stand open and upfront with them. You face them and speak to them easily and flowingly, it really isn't that hard to talk to people. Just treat them like everyone else you meet...that you like haha.

You could argue that the vast majority of people that look into things like PUA and dating tips are just looking for one thing, a juicy svelte piece of arse. Remember the movie hitch starring Will Smith, well I'm an optimist when it comes to the love game, I still hold out hope that some shy good guys look into extending social graces.

Either way if you have difficulty talking to a female ultimately you're going to want to remember this age old adage : practice makes perfect. Just go out and strike up a random conversation with a stranger, if you find this task too daunting then pick someone you're not sexually attracted to. Be prepared to speak with excitement , not some mundane boring monotone spiel , kapiche?

Leave that pua crap alone all I saw that it was, was common sense you learn from communicating with enough people but with ******** lingo and generalized douchey overtones.


Now when you catch a woman, then enters the "Badboy" but this is a topic for another day.
 
I cant tell if youre against it because you think its wrong, or you just think its BS.

Personally, I think people should be honest with each other and leave any type of manipulation totally out of the equation.
 
I love you, WS. :p

I ******* hate that ****** PUA ****. It's just a bunch of confused boys that never grew up, trying to play "big man" and fumblingly manipulate as many easy women (girls, rather) into their bedrooms as possible.

My definition of PUA = Puny Underdeveloped Animal
 
I suppose it's helpful to those who have truly tried and failed miserably time after time. Some people are just clueless and need a framework, and perhaps in the absence of a good mentor/friend/wingman this is the best that they can muster. But still, i wouldn't have anything to do with it. Although my god... I love saying PUA like POO-AHH!!! POO-AHH!! ...carry on now...
 
I just call them poo poo POO POO **** **** POO ****** ****** ****** ****** ****** ****** ******!!

*pant pant pant*

/rant
 
Badjedidude said:
I just call them poo poo POO POO **** **** POO ****** ****** ****** ****** ****** ****** ******!!

*pant pant pant*

/rant

You are so articulate. o_o
 
Wandering stranger said:
Now, let's get to the basics, if you cannot differentiate between like and dislike, then you obviously are out of touch with reality.

I think that's the thing. Most guys who follow that PUA stuff either don't know or don't care if a female dislikes him or not. They just figure she'll fall for him. That's the main issue I have with the whole PUA thing. They just believe that every female will wet her panties for them.

What they don't realize is, a lot of females think it's annoying. Being annoyed is not liking someone. I'd much rather have a guy be himself than falling into that PUA thing. There are some females who like the PUA. Which is fine. Nothing really wrong with liking it. But more than enough of us find it annoying.

The fact that most pick up artists tend to think that all females will adore it, blows my mind. Not every female likes cocky, arrogant, stuck up guys. Being confident is different than that. Being confident is liking yourself enough to know that others will like you. Being confident is not caring who dislikes you because you are who you are. Being confident is knowing what you want in life, and having that strength to achieve it.
 
VanillaCreme said:
The fact that most pick up artists tend to think that all females will adore it, blows my mind. Not every female likes cocky, arrogant, stuck up guys. Being confident is different than that. Being confident is liking yourself enough to know that others will like you. Being confident is not caring who dislikes you because you are who you are. Being confident is knowing what you want in life, and having that strength to achieve it.

I totally agree with this. There's a difference between being arrogant and being confident, but a lot of people just can't seem to tell the difference. They think "I like myself; If you got to know me, you might like me too." and "You should bow at my feet because I'm so awesome" are in the same category. A little confidence goes a long way. A little arrogance just pisses people off.

If pick up lines worked so great, no one who uses PUA as a model for their life should be on this forum. They can't possibly be lonely with hundreds of women chasing them every day [/sarcasm] :rolleyes:
 

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