Always Alone

[shamira]

I post here because loneliness isnt my only issue. Relationships dont really happen; Im too socially inept to even make friends, let alone manage to be in a relationship. My self esteem is...lacking at best. I only get up because my dog needs me to and my parents wouldnt leave me be (yes Im stuck at home. I cant afford to move). Im a 21 year old woman that has not (and looks like will never) date and cannot make friends. Ive pretty much given up on both. It seems pointless to even bother. Id like this to change; but Im at a loss for what to even do. Id like advice. More than just get out and meet people. Thats barely feasible at best. The only time thats really my own is the few hours between my classes and my job on campus. Everythings just...meh

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^Don't feel so bad about living at home while going to school. I did. Actually, quite a few people live at home while continuing with higher education. The whole "you're not a real man/woman until you move out" thing is stupid and a bit ignorant. Talk to European or Asian students and see what they say about living with family. Then you'll be glad that you're only with your parents (and no cousins, grandparents, or uncles).

I also think you may be selling yourself short here. Sure, you feel like you couldn't handle social settings or anything... but I bet you could.

Anyway, welcome to the site. It would be nice to get to know you a bit more. Feel free to PM me if you wanna talk about anything anytime. And again... welcome to the site.

 

[jjam]

I believe that many of us (because we have the means) can eradicate most of our unhappy feelings by applying our mental and physical energy to the things that make us happy. Simple idea, really. More 'happy time" means less "unhappy time".
Spend time with your hobbies. Discover new hobbies to occupy your mind with. If I am thinking about stuff other than lack of love or money, then I am not reminded of where I am unhappy.

Be responsible and let love do more of the looking (for you rather than you for it).

 

[SophiaGrace]

You seem to be stuck in a middle stage between childhood and adulthood. It's important for you to remember that this stage won't lat forever and that you'll be onto something new in a few years or so. Chin up.

 

[LGH1288]

Hello shamira -- No more pity parties allowed! My advice? Spiffy yourself up, get out of the house, then open your heart and offer help in the community to serve wherever charity is needed. I think you'll be really surprised how wonderful your life becomes! LG