Am I a lost cause?

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Sometimes I think I've been so ****** up by life's experiences that I am unfixable. I have been hurt so many times that I think I dislike most people because of it.

Every friend I've had, almost, has ended up treating me poorly. If they haven't, I assume they will. Girls ignore me or treat me like a gay man. My family, my biological family, has **** all over me so many times that i have cut them out of my life.

I dont want to socialize with humans anymore. I would love to be left alone. If I didn't have to be around people to survive, I would love to live in the woods somewhere, away from everyone.

 

[Ignis]

Sometimes I think I've been so ****** up by life's experiences that I am unfixable. I have been hurt so many times that I think I dislike most people because of it.

No one is unfixable. Absolutely no one.
There's nothing wrong with you at all. I know at times you might think there is, but there really isn't.
Being hurt sucks, but all wounds heal. It's about moving on and never losing hope in yourself, or humanity. As hard as it can seem at times.

Every friend I've had, almost, has ended up treating me poorly. If they haven't, I assume they will. Girls ignore me or treat me like a gay man. My family, my biological family, has **** all over me so many times that i have cut them out of my life.

If a friend has treated you poorly, I would not consider them a friend.
A friend is someone who is with you through the good and the bad. Someone who will lend an ear. Who will give advice without asking anything in return.
If these "friends" of yours ditch you when you need them the most, only expect things from you, and refuse to lend you an ear when you need them, even when you give them YOUR ear. They're not friends.

Girls are a tough one, but not an impossible one.
It would be impossible for every girl in the world to ignore you. Even if you were the ugliest person in the world, with the most repulsive attitude in existence... Girls would still not be able to ignore you. They'd know you were there.
It's all about making the first move as hard as it sounds. A lot of girls I know are quite shy when it comes to talking to a guy first. Open up with a HI-gh and go from there. Be happy and friendly, it'll rub off on them and they'll feel more relaxed... They certainly won't ignore you either.
Who the hell ignores someone friendly? Why would you do that?

I can understand the family thing. I don't get along with them very much at all... Which is why my work-mates and my friends are my family. Which I'm fine with.
I ended up disliking my family so much that I moved away from them, and things significantly improved. Our relationship with each other improved as well, we weren't always at each others throats which allowed us to actually have a conversation every once in a while.
Food for thought maybe?

I dont want to socialize with humans anymore. I would love to be left alone. If I didn't have to be around people to survive, I would love to live in the woods somewhere, away from everyone.

I sense a contradiction...
You don't want to socialize... You want to be left alone...
Yet you have to be around people to survive?

If you REALLY didn't want to be around people, you could easily leave it all behind.
People exist who have completely detached themselves from society and live a life of solitude. I doubt they'd say they HAVE to be around people to survive. Clearly they're doing it by themselves.

Humans are a social species. Generally we like to be around other humans. Unless something changes that, like a lot of bad experiences... That won't change.
Keeping that in mind, don't lose faith in humanity. Humanity hasn't lost faith in you.
After all, I'm responding to you, right?

So to answer your question, no.
You're not a lost cause. No one is.
You're not unsalvageable. You're not unfixable.

You're you. You're unique. You have great qualities about you, just like every human being out there.
Don't talk about yourself as though you're nothing, because you're a lot more than you think you are.

 

[Sci-Fi]

You aren't a lost cause, it just seems that you've reached a certain point where you feel like you are. Honestly it seems like you have a huge chip on your shoulder because of the crap you've been through and you take it out on others. It's not your fault, you've just reached that point that many people often do, it's just figuring out where to go from here. How do you fix it, and how do you carry on? I wouldn't say you are unfixable either, no one is unfixable its whether or not you want to be "fixed". Even though there really isn't anything to fix about you it's working through your problems and issues so you can get to a point where you don't feel like a lost cause or unfixable. That's my opinion anyway, you can take it or leave it as you see fit. But I don't recall you always being this way when you first joined.

 

[9006]

I wouldn't say you're a lost cause. Some of the **** you've listed is reason to be upsetting and it's bound to effect you in ways, but I think it's just how you deal with things. So it's up to you what you wanna do. You can hide from society because of the hurt they've caused you, or use it to better yourself, rise above it and make a life for yourself.

In order to accept someone as a true friend isn't something that just happens, not for me anyway, it's something that takes time, an if it's a problem then they're not worth knowing anyway, so no loss.

 

[Edward W]

You aren't a lost cause, it just seems that you've reached a certain point where you feel like you are. Honestly it seems like you have a huge chip on your shoulder because of the crap you've been through and you take it out on others. It's not your fault, you've just reached that point that many people often do, it's just figuring out where to go from here. How do you fix it, and how do you carry on? I wouldn't say you are unfixable either, no one is unfixable its whether or not you want to be "fixed". Even though there really isn't anything to fix about you it's working through your problems and issues so you can get to a point where you don't feel like a lost cause or unfixable. That's my opinion anyway, you can take it or leave it as you see fit. But I don't recall you always being this way when you first joined.

I have to agree with Sci, I think things in your life have begun to weigh heavily on you and it does seem to come out in some of your posts.

I don't have the answer, I've started a message to you a couple of times and been unsure what to say, recently I found something in common so I was able to reach out.

I guess the only advice I can give is to discover yourself, love yourself first. We all, well at least most of the people here I guess, have issues, and no-one is perfect, but we alll have great potential, and are all worthy of love.

You are no exception.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I'm going to just stop worrying about things. If they work out, they work out. If they don't, they don't.

The only person I can control is me so...

 

[ladyforsaken]

I'm going to just stop worrying about things. If they work out, they work out. If they don't, they don't.

The only person I can control is me so...

Yes and remind yourself this every time you start doubting yourself.

 

[rayeo]

I don't think you're a lost cause. You've just given up on humanity.

I feel the same way but I learned to make myself happy without the help of other people. I'm sure you don't want to be left alone. We're all here for a reason, we're lonely.

I have been staying inside my house for the past 3 years talking to no one but myself and it's quite lonely. I enjoy the company of anyone even if it's for a second...I miss talking to people. You don't want to isolate yourself... it makes you feel worse inside.

I think you just need to make better friends. Someone who treats you badly is no friend.

 

[Locke]

I have been staying inside my house for the past 3 years talking to no one but myself and it's quite lonely. I enjoy the company of anyone even if it's for a second...I miss talking to people. You don't want to isolate yourself... it makes you feel worse inside.

Sounds like me. I've stayed in my house for nearly 4 years with as little contact with people as possible. I'm trying a little harder lately, but I don't know if I'll ever truly be a part of the world again. As angry as you might be at the world, isolation just makes things worse.

 

[Rosebolt]

Yes, you are a lost cause, but only if you believe being one.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Thanks Rosebolt.

 

[ardour]

If you come the conclusion that you really are a lost cause, what then? Bitterness isn't going to magically disappear just because you've given up.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Giving up and pursuing things that make me happy is different from giving up and pursuing things that make me unhappy.

 

[Rosebolt]

Thanks Rosebolt.

I meant that, if you surrender to the idea that you are a "lost cause" and just become passive because of it. Then yes, you will have made yourself a lost cause.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I know what you meant. That's why I said thank you.

I wasn't being sarcastic.