Anyone else out there so single they just want to scream???

[7sorrow]

I'm tired of being single and lonely. Curling up on my couch all day watching movies sometimes not even getting up to eat. Does anyone else ask themselves why Me? Why am I single? Why is my life so lame? I'm feeling real lonely right now just want some people to come talk and post their experiences. I don't feel so bad when I come on here and read what you guys post. I may be alone in my small apartment but I'm not alone in the world.

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My first thread here

 

[painter's radio]

Yeah sometimes loneliness is really overbearing. It's weird, I don't find it at all pathetic for someone else to feel so lonely, but I feel it is pathetic when I do. The worst is really not knowing what you want or where you want to be. When you need to be around people but can't. When you want a relationship but don't. Why am I smoking? DO I even like cigarettes?

I like long walks in the countryside! But God I can't wait to get home.

 

[7sorrow]

Yes I feel the same way. I think we're way more critical on ourselves than we should be.

 

[dnick]

I do, and I know I'm partially to blame. I have a lot of fear of being hurt, so I rarely make attempts to fix my situation. I feel worse after being dumped, and rejected than just that general feeling of being alone.

 

[7sorrow]

Yes being dumped and rejected does hurt a lot worse than what I'm feeling right now. I got dumped in my last 3 relationships but I still want to believe that there's someone out there that will love me and never leave me.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Yea, that definitely describes my situation. So single that I just want to scream. The more I think about it, the more I feel that the worst thing about it isn't so much a lack of sexuality but more like, I feel like some kind of limit is being imposed on me. As if every time I meet a girl that I like, which is extremely rare, it seems as if life says "Nope, SkaFish, you just don't get to experience this". I keep thinking, why can't I figure this out? Why can't I break through, when some really lousy guys out there have absolutely no problems with this, whatsoever? Why can't I ever seal the deal? Will I have to wait until my youth is gone to finally get it? Will I ever experience a connection with someone I actually want?

I also believe that there IS something I can do, that someday I will indeed figure this out. I know that I am not destined to be single, even though it may feel like it. But sometimes it's tough to remember that. I just wish I would learn what I need to do a little bit faster so I could enjoy being in a relationship while I still have some youthful vitality.

 

[Triple Bogey]

No I am used to it. And it's not the worst thing that could happen. What would be bad ? Not having a job, been house bound because of an illness, no money, no house, no family.

 

[Batman55]

Of course I want to scream. But you have to remember the sobering truth, that it's survival of the fittest out there. Some people will not get a partner because they do not have desirable qualities, and so on. Not saying you're one of them, this is just generalized.

I often hear "then you need to adapt".. well, no, that is not how capitalism works. Sorry. Adapting to acquire specific traits desirable at this very moment in time within a meritorious society changing quickly in front of our eyes.. is not going to be a trait everyone has. Some will be left out, and have not the tools to adapt. Why not me? Or anyone else, for that matter?

We all say "I'm better than that." Well..

 

[xaero]

Does anyone else ask themselves why Me? Why am I single? Why is my life so lame?

I ask myself these questions regularly, lol. I'm too weird to have actual friends, let alone a girlfriend. As for your question about life, life is what you make it. Biological life is nothing more than a cyclical process that always ends in death and starts with the birth of new life. Some people find purpose, others make purpose, and some people just don't give a damn.

Most days I don't give a f*ck. However, that's primarily due in part to the f*ck to give deficit I'm currently facing, where I'm borrowing f*cks from the future to give a f*ck about today. That and depression.

 

[AnonymousMe]

Yeah, it’s feels horrible and, in my opinion at least, being single it’s one of the worst things that can happen to any man, but it’s certainly not THE worst. The examples Triple Bogey said are the proof. Also, you CAN get used to it, but it does get you every once in a while. We’re not animals or gods completely, after all.

Unfortunately, for me at least, I feel like screaming nearly every day, because I’m the last one in my WHOLE family that has yet to find romance. All my brothers and cousins have their boyfriends and girlfriends and some are even married. Hell, I think even my youngest nephew (2-years-old) will have a girlfriend, or boyfriend, whatever the hell his orientation turns out to be, before I even get the chance to hold hands with someone.

Even worse, I get easily angered whenever I see a couple. Whether it’s real life, television, books, video games, porn, art, sculptures, drawings, etc., etc., etc. Even freaking fictional couples make me want to shout… “HEY EVERYBODY!!! I’M OVER HERE!!!” to people or “When is it going to be my turn?” to Mother Nature (Not that I believe she exists; think of it as an expression to how I feel).

 

[Hearmenow2012]

There are definitely worse feelings than being single, however that doesn't mean that it is easy to cope with. For some reason I haven't been giving it as much thought lately which is probably because I need to make changes to my own life and respect myself before I can even think about dating anyone.

It's not like I've had many opportunities to go out with anyone though.

 

[Alonewith2cats]

I find it frustrating because I know that I don't want to be single for the rest of my life and I'm afraid that this is how it's going to be. I want to find someone to marry and hang on to the hope that my single and living alone lifestyle won't be forever. I'm naturally a very affectionate person and being deprived of being able to give and receive affection for so long is difficult for me. Much of the time I feel hug deprived. I guess that's a weakness. It helps to be around company, even if it's not a dating partner, even if it's just girl friends.

My loneliness beats me up sometimes. On wednesday after work I felt this depression. As I walked to my bus stop, got on the bus, felt the cold weather waiting for the bus and headed towards my empty except for 2 cats apartment and also at home I was crying. Crying in public with my shades on and crying at home. And I have to deal with it alone because I don't want to burden anyone with my sadness and there isn't anyone asking me "What's wrong?" at this time anyway. When I get home I immediately turn on the radio because the silence is impossible for me to bear so I have to have noise.

Yesterday I met 2 girl friends for coffee after work. I wasn't so depressed. I'm really only sad when I'm alone.

 

[Triple Bogey]

Yeah, it’s feels horrible and, in my opinion at least, being single it’s one of the worst things that can happen to any man, but it’s certainly not THE worst. The examples Triple Bogey said are the proof. Also, you CAN get used to it, but it does get you every once in a while. We’re not animals or gods completely, after all.

Unfortunately, for me at least, I feel like screaming nearly every day, because I’m the last one in my WHOLE family that has yet to find romance. All my brothers and cousins have their boyfriends and girlfriends and some are even married. Hell, I think even my youngest nephew (2-years-old) will have a girlfriend, or boyfriend, whatever the hell his orientation turns out to be, before I even get the chance to hold hands with someone.

Even worse, I get easily angered whenever I see a couple. Whether it’s real life, television, books, video games, porn, art, sculptures, drawings, etc., etc., etc. Even freaking fictional couples make me want to shout… “HEY EVERYBODY!!! I’M OVER HERE!!!” to people or “When is it going to be my turn?” to Mother Nature (Not that I believe she exists; think of it as an expression to how I feel).

Yes I feel like that. I have been waiting for my turn for the last 20 years. Surely I will get a bit of luck. I have had a few dates but they have all turned out to be a waste of time. Other people, it seems so easy. People at work, their kids find people so ******* easy.

Funny story, there was this woman customer talking at work. She is on my radar, she seems nice but I don't know much about her. She started talking to this other woman and she got asked 'are you single ?' - she replied 'yes' and then went on to say how difficult it was to meet anybody. I could have thought 'I'm over here ! Aren't I good enough ?' - but what the **** is the point ? I know I am several leagues lower than her standard.

 

[Alienated]

Yes I did for a long time ... I got GREAT news though !!

I got a girl friend living with me now, I met her on a different forum. She's from Canada, and originally was going to stay a month to see if thing can work with us. She has been here 8 days, and just today she agreed to stay the WHOLE SUMMER....

It's going GREAT, and we are really into each other... So the forum scene isn't from me anymore... We are working hard to lay a foundation to see if this could be permanent, so I we have been very busy, and spend lots of time together.... Hang in there man, there is hope !!

I am NOT lonely anymore... If a old fart like me can find a young cutie that needs me... Anyone can, but it takes work.

To those that attacked me back in Feb. for finding a wonderful girl, and did NOTHING but throw crap at me and try to demean, discourage, and JUDGE ME.... You still have yourselves don't you, and I hope that's all you ever have.

 

[Groucho]

I'm tired of being single and lonely. Curling up on my couch all day watching movies sometimes not even getting up to eat. Does anyone else ask themselves why Me? Why am I single? Why is my life so lame? I'm feeling real lonely right now just want some people to come talk and post their experiences. I don't feel so bad when I come on here and read what you guys post. I may be alone in my small apartment but I'm not alone in the world.

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My first thread here

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Yes. I'm making an effort to U-turn my life regarding other circumstances though.

 

[kamya]

[video=youtube]

This song plays all the time when I'm driving around on deliveries. It's really good but usually makes me sad/puts me in a bad mood. I just know I will never have something like this song describes, and puts me in a down mood. Perfect reminder of what I'm missing out on. Thanks John Legend.

 

[7sorrow]

Yes I did for a long time ... I got GREAT news though !!

I got a girl friend living with me now, I met her on a different forum. She's from Canada, and originally was going to stay a month to see if thing can work with us. She has been here 8 days, and just today she agreed to stay the WHOLE SUMMER....

It's going GREAT, and we are really into each other... So the forum scene isn't from me anymore... We are working hard to lay a foundation to see if this could be permanent, so I we have been very busy, and spend lots of time together.... Hang in there man, there is hope !!

I am NOT lonely anymore... If a old fart like me can find a young cutie that needs me... Anyone can, but it takes work.

To those that attacked me back in Feb. for finding a wonderful girl, and did NOTHING but throw crap at me and try to demean, discourage, and JUDGE ME.... You still have yourselves don't you, and I hope that's all you ever have.

That is awesome! I am so happy for you. I hope I find someone soon.

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I find it frustrating because I know that I don't want to be single for the rest of my life and I'm afraid that this is how it's going to be. I want to find someone to marry and hang on to the hope that my single and living alone lifestyle won't be forever. I'm naturally a very affectionate person and being deprived of being able to give and receive affection for so long is difficult for me. Much of the time I feel hug deprived. I guess that's a weakness. It helps to be around company, even if it's not a dating partner, even if it's just girl friends.

My loneliness beats me up sometimes. On wednesday after work I felt this depression. As I walked to my bus stop, got on the bus, felt the cold weather waiting for the bus and headed towards my empty except for 2 cats apartment and also at home I was crying. Crying in public with my shades on and crying at home. And I have to deal with it alone because I don't want to burden anyone with my sadness and there isn't anyone asking me "What's wrong?" at this time anyway. When I get home I immediately turn on the radio because the silence is impossible for me to bear so I have to have noise.

Yesterday I met 2 girl friends for coffee after work. I wasn't so depressed. I'm really only sad when I'm alone.

I ended crying myself to sleep after posting this but like you it only gets bad when I'm alone which happens often since I live alone. I'm thinking about staying a week at a relatives place to cheer me up.

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[ladyforsaken]

*hugs* 7sorrow. I don't have good words to say but I hope you'll feel better soon and that something good comes along sooner rather than later.

 

[7sorrow]

*hugs* 7sorrow. I don't have good words to say but I hope you'll feel better soon and that something good comes along sooner rather than later.

Thank you ladyforsaken! I hope so too. I'm thinking about joining a gym. Maybe this will help me meet more people.

 

[ladyforsaken]

*hugs* 7sorrow. I don't have good words to say but I hope you'll feel better soon and that something good comes along sooner rather than later.

Thank you ladyforsaken! I hope so too. I'm thinking about joining a gym. Maybe this will help me meet more people.

I don't know about meeting people, but going to the gym does help in boosting your self-confidence and makes you feel happier in some ways. Well it did for me at least. So good luck, on that and on meeting new people.