being a evil person

[AaronAgassi]

Exactly what assistance was this beyond telling someone they phrased their question incorrectly?

I could make for you an inventory, but the phrasing of questions has often been pivotal.

Real assistance is a less complex issue.

Not as a rule.

As a rule, denegrating someone's form of inquiry doesn't assist but to only affirm the advisor and negate the person asking for assistance.

Now, denigration is an emotionally loaded choice of terminology. But that hardly makes it so. I wish that you might try to take comments in their intended spirit. Again, the phrasing of questions is well known to be often pivotal.

 

[AaronAgassi]

Just because you stalked in the past doesn't mean that is who you always HAVE to be. People change! People grow! People evolve! People Transform! SO please go easier on yourself and try to be the best person you can be!

lonelygirl,who is your message for?

 

[Guest]

Tob, I have the same types of issues you do. Your best bet is to move on and try to forget your past. Start over and hope for the best,

 

[lonelygirl]

I just think you need to forgive yourself for your mistakes, ask God to forgive you for your mistakes, attempt to make amends to the person you stalked unless that will make her more upset, and just let it go!

 

[AaronAgassi]

Wow, Guest, lonelygirl! I bet tob's never thought of any of that!

 

[keeper]

Maybe this is the best advice that Guest and lonelygirl can give tob. Or maybe not. It may be utterly unhelpful to tob or maybe very helpful. I can't ascertain the utility of this advice to tob. But I wonder what's the point of your diffuse mockery and sarcasm, Mr AaronAgassi.

I believe that this forum is not meant to provide any professional counsel, so every advice should be welcome. I think that it's up to the recipient of a message to evaluate its correspondence to his/her questions. So, where does your need to ridiculize the simple, obvious, advice from the man on the street comes from?

As a matter of fact, we aren't all as smart as you and I don't even think that we should be so, Mr Agassi.

Wow, Guest, lonelygirl! I bet tob's never thought of any of that!

 

[AaronAgassi]

What is the point to my sarcasm? Well may you ask! And the answer is: sheer frustration!

 

[Vortex]

Frustration arriving from attempting to change those who do not wish to be changed?

What is the point to my sarcasm? Well may you ask! And the answer is: sheer frustration!

 

[Blue Sky]

Frustration arriving from attempting to change those who do not wish to be changed?

What is the point to my sarcasm? Well may you ask! And the answer is: sheer frustration!

Yes, I agree with you Vortex 100%

 

[AaronAgassi]

Actually, frustration even in trying to get through at all!

 

[suna]

i ve known a few people who had been jailed for computer related crimes (nothing harmful they were just showing off their skills) and as far as i see they are good people, might be even morally correct than me . *bows*
so yea, even if you made some mistakes before, even if you have a record or something, a good and understanding person will see you as who you truely are.

and... control your feelings and use reasoning more. o.o
i m not a stalker but if i let my emotions get out of control even my good intentions will lead to bad consequences...

 

[MisterD]

i know what your going through man, me myself consider myself a stalker , and we know deep inside this isnt the right thing to do. but we stilll do it to comfort our thoughts to justify our suspicion, we are force to this kind of behaviour if we feel things are so good to be true and you want to discover if its a lie or your just thinking of stuff. I also stalk this girl on the net... but now all i want to do is to lose my feelings for her so i wouldnt be as "evil" as you said it.

its so difficult to not care once youre already suck into the emotion... i keep telling this to myself... the only way out is to not care...i cant say anything to u mate to make it better, all i can say is i understand what ur feeling... i wont judge.

because of the way i have behaved myself in the past i am what most people would call a stalker. i even have a restraining order, court cases going on and have been in contact with the police multiple times. i never have been violent towards her or threatened her, but i did do horrible things.
i changed now. i was very unbalanced at that time but have had therapy.
i still suffer from deppresions and am very very lonely. besides, i still think about this girl all the time, wich was the porblem it began with.

how can i ever expect someone to love me and have a relationship with me if i am a stalker? most people would find me evil if they knew about these things. i don't know what to do. i can not change the past, but i am still stuck in everything i caused because of my behaviour. i guess i deserve it because of what i did.

i know that everytime i have tried to make things right i just made things worse.

 

[mink]

Maybe my real question is: Do you think it is possible to be a good person again, even after doing really bad things?

To that question, I would say it is definitely possible for you to be a good person again if you try to move on and allow yourself to be.

Some people may not see you as a good person after having done bad things, but at least you're trying. And if you have an open mind that people could still accept you with a past like that, I'm sure you'll find some peace somewhere along the way.

You choose and you decide how you want your life to be. You wanna be a better person? Don't let other people's perceptions or opinions get in the way of that. It's your call.

It's possible, just take the time.