Big day for me on Monday

[putter65]

My Russian online lady friend is flying to my country to visit. I am meeting her on Monday night at the airport. I am excited and nervous. I sent her some of the travel money.

Sending the money once I had decided was easy. It wasn't a big part of my savings. It was a few months savings, that's all. What was terrible though was the attitude of well everybody. My mother rang me up begging me not to send any money. My Dad is keeping quiet, I know he thinks she won't show up. My workmates, I did keep it quiet for a few weeks but I had to change a few shifts around so I had to say. None of them really believe she is real or coming to see me.

Lets face facts: How can a woman love me when she hasn't met me ? Why would a woman travel 3,000 miles to visit a guy she hasn't met ?

Even though she has told me the flight she is on, my work friends say it's a fake plane, it's all a very elabrate fraud to rob me of all my money or just a bored person (possibly a man) making fun of me.

Anyway wish me luck people !

 

[Montreal Skye]

I hope it's not a scam for your sake! Good luck!

 

[putter65]

I hope it's not a scam for your sake! Good luck!

Thank you !

It was a hard decision to make. I weighed up the pro's and con's.

The cons: Losing money, feeling hurt

The pro's: female company for a month, possibly long term relationship, I do like her very much based on her photo's and letters, the money wasn't that much and it's an adventure of sorts. Nothing has happened in my life, just been boring really. Ive done nothing. At least this is something. I wanted to take a chance for once.

 

[Montreal Skye]

I think you have a healthy cynicism, maybe that's not the right word? We all know that this kind of thing can lead to heartbreak and betrayal if it's not real. But you weighed the pros and cons, so why not go for it? It's nice of your friends and family to be looking out for you, but in the end, you're the one who will follow your heart right? In the worst case, you'll learn from it. But in the best case...well, I hope for you that's what happens!

 

[putter65]

I think you have a healthy cynicism, maybe that's not the right word? We all know that this kind of thing can lead to heartbreak and betrayal if it's not real. But you weighed the pros and cons, so why not go for it? It's nice of your friends and family to be looking out for you, but in the end, you're the one who will follow your heart right? In the worst case, you'll learn from it. But in the best case...well, I hope for you that's what happens!

yes you have it exactly, my way of thinking.

I will let you know what happens

 

[ShybutHi]

I agree with what montreal wrote. Good luck Putter.

 

[putter65]

I agree with what montreal wrote. Good luck Putter.

She was a con, asked for nearly 3 grand. Some ******** embassy story. Its a well known scam.

I'm glad it's over and I know. I can save the money up again. I won't be doing this again. Learned my lesson.

 

[Montreal Skye]

Oh no! Sorry to hear that, but like you said, lesson learned!

 

[putter65]

Oh no! Sorry to hear that, but like you said, lesson learned!

it always could happen. The details she mentioned in her letters were incredible, her life, what she was upto. I looked for ages on russian scammers sites trying to find something on her. Couldn't find anything. I thought after I sent her the 'travel money' she could disapear, I would never hear from again. But I suppose she wanted to milk it and get more. She has sent about 5 emails today, saying she is upset. I replied saying I havent got any money left.

I feel a **** regarding work. I have told my close friends what happened. The others I will just say she had 'visa problems'

The money I can get back, I have actually saved alot because she hasn't come. It would have cost me a fortune !

Everything about it screamed 'scam' but I guess I am a lonely bloke who fell into it. She did ring me up twice, so she did exist. I wonder if her life story is true ? I will never know.

I got **** on at xmas by this other woman and now this.

 

[sth]

Everything about it screamed 'scam' but I guess I am a lonely bloke who fell into it.

So sorry to hear about this.

 

[Felix]

Sorry to hear that man. I hope you're holding up fine. Like they said, another tough lesson, lots of scammers out there.

 

[putter65]

Sorry to hear that man. I hope you're holding up fine. Like they said, another tough lesson, lots of scammers out there.

a greedy scammer as well. Obviously £800 wasn't enough for her. She wanted another £2730 more.

The details in her letters was incredible. She didn't write for 2 days and then said she had been ill in bed. She wrote letters from her friends house because her pc packed in. All sorts of details and information. I was always suspicious because it seemed too far fetched but there was nothing concrete to suggest she was a scammer.

It wasn't very nice this afternoon. She wrote about 5 emails. In one saying she didn't want to live anymore. I wrote back saying I didn't have that kind of money. I told her go home. I didn't want to accuse of anything, waste of time really.

I feel just dejected. I kind of hate women now.

 

[mintymint]

http://www.alonelylife.com/thread-scams-that-prey-on-the-lonely

 

[Gutted]

Sorry to hear about this. Try not to let it bother you too much. It's only Money that has been lost. You still have most of your life to live. You can come out of this a bigger man. Having had a relationship with someone I met online first, I am very very aware of this sort of thing. What I did was offer any Money to my Partner AFTER they came to me. That was the only way that I could be sure of her not trying to rip me off.

I have only been the victim of one scam since (and also ever) My Bank Details were stolen but I was on the ball and realized something wasn't right after just 50p went missing from my account. I have since learned that these Scammers would have tried to take £45 Per Month from my Bank, had I not stopped them immediately.

 

[putter65]

Sorry to hear about this. Try not to let it bother you too much. It's only Money that has been lost. You still have most of your life to live. You can come out of this a bigger man. Having had a relationship with someone I met online first, I am very very aware of this sort of thing. What I did was offer any Money to my Partner AFTER they came to me. That was the only way that I could be sure of her not trying to rip me off.

I have only been the victim of one scam since (and also ever) My Bank Details were stolen but I was on the ball and realized something wasn't right after just 50p went missing from my account. I have since learned that these Scammers would have tried to take £45 Per Month from my Bank, had I not stopped them immediately.

For about a month I stalled sending the money, I used every delaying tactic I could think of. In the end I thought 'sod it' - I just wanted to know what would happen.

The money I can save in a few months. It was a fraction of my wealth.

I will miss her letters. Nobody gets in touch with me and I did look forward to them each day.

And I suppose going thru this, nothing much can be worse. If I can survive this, I can survive anything.

Thanks anyway !

 

[sth]

I feel just dejected. I kind of hate women now.

I don't think it was a woman behind this. It was probably a man pretending to be a woman. Or maybe a couple. I don't think a mere one woman could be behind this sort of scam.

So how much money did you send her? £800 or £2730? Either way I'm really sorry that this happened.

But please don't continue to reply to any of her emails no matter how lonely you may feel.

 

[putter65]

I feel just dejected. I kind of hate women now.

I don't think it was a woman behind this. It was probably a man pretending to be a woman. Or maybe a couple. I don't think a mere one woman could be behind this sort of scam.

So how much money did you send her? £800 or £2730? Either way I'm really sorry that this happened.

But please don't continue to reply to any of her emails no matter how lonely you may feel.

i lost £860, £800 to her and the £60 commission to western union. She rang me up twice so a woman was involved. No way I was sending £2730.

The timing of her emails always made me curious. She was 5 hours ahead, yet her emails (according to the times on them) suggested it took a further 2 hours for them to reach me. Today her emails were instant, back and forth between us.

I wont write to her anymore even though I dont think I will hear from her again.

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I feel just dejected. I kind of hate women now.

I don't think it was a woman behind this. It was probably a man pretending to be a woman. Or maybe a couple. I don't think a mere one woman could be behind this sort of scam.

So how much money did you send her? £800 or £2730? Either way I'm really sorry that this happened.

But please don't continue to reply to any of her emails no matter how lonely you may feel.

I was also going out with this woman last year. She went on this family holiday over xmas. I had texts from her telling me how she was getting on etc. I found out she was at home all along with some other bloke. She was a utter *******. This other woman I liked last year, used me to do overtime in her shop. She was also having an affair with a married man (my boss). She strung me along for months and I acted like a lap dog.

You see it's all been **** !

 

[sth]

Ok, £860 isn't that much. You will get over the money part and anyway in the end money really isn't that important. But I can understand how hurtful this experience is for you.

Look, you aren't the only one who isn't having luck with love. Just take these past experiences as a lesson. And be more careful and more choosy in the future. And btw, there are some happy endings too. I know of one case in my country where a 50-something old man married a young Ukrainian woman. I have no idea where he found her though.

And definitely don't reply to any emails that this Russian lady (and a guy is probably behind of it too) may send you.

 

[putter65]

Ok, £860 isn't that much. You will get over the money part and anyway in the end money really isn't that important. But I can understand how hurtful this experience is for you.

Look, you aren't the only one who isn't having luck with love. Just take these past experiences as a lesson. And be more careful and more choosy in the future. And btw, there are some happy endings too. I know of one case in my country where a 50-something old man married a young Ukrainian woman. I have no idea where he found her though.

And definitely don't reply to any emails that this Russian lady (and a guy is probably behind of it too) may send you.

I knew what I was getting into and it could end up like this.

The appeal of having a woman in my life was too great not to persue it to it's conclusion. Yes the money I can save back.

I know people do meet each other and from other countries too. But I think I will give russian women a miss.

I'm not upset or anything, no crying. I am sure in a few days I will be back to normal.

 

[wadokai]

Dear friend,

I'm so sorry for your loss and mostly, your pain. I know putting yourself out there and trusting someone completley isn't easy..but it took courage and while critics may point out you weren't being smart, you had to do what yo ufelt was right.

Don't lose hope. Next time, be sure to call, text, skype with the person. Make sure that they're actually there and i guess visually you can tell if they're full of it or not.

But regardless, whats done is done. I know your loneliness ..i can definitely relate.

I wish the best for you!