Compulsive or pathological liars

[encounter]

Has anyone had any experience with this?

My ex boyfriend has a lot of issues. He would lie about everything no matter how big or small. He would lie about lying. He was in touch with his ex the whole time we were together. He was constantly questioned by me and even denied it with the most ridiculous lies when presented with proof.

He said a lot of things about me to her. I know of some things that were said but who knows what else they talked about me. I know he is still hiding things that happened but I know enough to know that this was sick.

His ex is an emotionally and physically abusive, controlling, manipulator, prescription addicted serial cheater who has borderline personality disorder. THIS is what he was contacting. It was not "friendly" chats either. At some points I am sure he was thinking of flying out to see her.

Anyway,please tell me your stories with compulsive or pathological liars and what you went through. Or perhaps you are one and would like to shed some light on what goes on in your head.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Geez, you know, I've come to realize that no matter how many times I ask my ex about what he did to me behind my back, he'll never admit it. As I was reading your post, I thought to myself, yeah that's him. That's definitely him. I even talked to the other girl about him, and he still denies it and refuses to tell me anything about her. He also had other girls. But you know, I haven't talked to him in many moons, and I think it's better off that way. I don't know a thing about the girl, so I'm not going to bash her, and apparently she knew nothing of me. Except that I was the ex that kept bothering him. Both of us, however, seemed think we were dating him at the same time for nearly the exact same time, which was 2 years.

I don't even know how someone pulls that off. I wouldn't be bothered with two people all the same time. One is enough. And on top of that, he had other females as well. *sigh* I don't know what to really think of it now. I just know that I'm done with it, and I'm away from it all, and whatever he's doing with whoever else, I'm not a part of it in any way. It only saddens me that I took him seriously, and that I did love him, and he could have cared less about me or what I felt.

 

[Badjedidude]

I've known several people like this. People who would tell me that they slept with Playboy twins last night, no matter how painfully obvious that they didn't. Guys that would stare at me and without even a nervous twitch, tell me that their grandfather single-handedly killed 30,000 Vietcong in the Vietnam war (and this one really did happen, too). Girls who would tell such bold-faced lies that they were completely and utterly (and LITERALLY) unbelievable.

I think that they get in the habit of telling such crazy lies because nobody ever calls them on it. They start out with little lies, but for some reason people ignore them. And then the lies get bigger, and the bigger they get, the more hilariously crazy they get....so people erroneously take it for humor and fail to stomp balls on such lies.

I decided long ago to stick to the truth, no matter how inconvenient or painful for me. Everyone who knows me knows that if they ask me a question about myself or about my perceptions of something, then they're going to get the truth from me. I also demand pretty much the same from others, which is one reason that it's hard for me to get very close to people. Not everyone finds it acceptable to stick to honesty all the time. And that's fine. It just narrows the field a bit for me.

I guess I just got tired of putting up with lies told by guys/girls like you two above have mentioned.

 

[PoWer2tHePeOpLE]

you might want to check out some information on certain personality traits like narcissism and psychopathy.

its a dynamic spectrum so it doesn't necessary mean someone has to fill all the criteria but you might get some insight into his character and behaviour.

trust yourself.

some people are composed fundamentally differently and it can be difficult to comprehend if you actually have a soul and heart.

though i dislike putting a handy label on anything, NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) is insidious and unchangeable. i have heard it described as 'a force of nature'. there is only one option in such an instant - ESCAPE

vanilla creme's bf sound exactly like this kind of 'winner'

some of the ppl BJD describes sound like more common 'nutters'.. desire for attention can get outta control..

 

[edgecrusher]

yea i cant stand people like that. im pretty sure half the stuff my roommate says is BS. he always talks about encounters he had with girls in the past, i dont really believe any of it. we had a guy at my work once, he was the guy that whatever you did he did it more times or he did it better. if you said you beat a video game, he beat it twice. that kind of thing. people like that are really annoying. i just want to scream, JUST BE YOURSELF! you dont have to make crap up to have stuff to talk about or to look cool.

 

[suckaG]

ohh! favourite topic!

the one major culprit I know is incapable of telling even remotely believable ********, and usually sounds like he could be best friends with some of your charming acquaintances, BJD.

i've seen this guy get slapped down in public, but it doesn’t seem to work in subduing his tall-talking ways. he will adamantly insist that he has played in championships for bmx or snowboarding, or that he will soon inherit a fortune from his dead relative when he turns [insert random, ever changing year] old.

that on top of the obvious stories about sexing 2 girls at once, or randomly meeting celebrities just last night and other totally believable stuff.

he also has a distinctly annoying habit of copying other people's real experiences and trying to trump them. when a mutual friend got in a rollover car accident and brought pics he'd taken of the damage to school, this bull-******* printed off pics of a crashed race car and claimed it was his! that he'd gotten into an accident too!

I can safely assume that nearly every claim that rolls off his tongue is a pure fabrication, and a painstakingly obvious one at that.

Good Golly I have a seething resentment towards self-aggrandizing, yammering liars who can't sit through a single conversation without chiming in with a "oh, that's nothing! this one time I..."

GAH!

see? favourite topic!

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^ LOL wow...sounds like quite a guy you're describing!

Haha the sad thing about liars like that is that one day he probably WILL do something amazing with his life, but no one will believe him due to all of his previous lies!! XD hahaha

Serves him right. (D) lol

 

[suckaG]

you know, I wouldn't be surprised if that actually happened.

when he got married, people kept asking me if i'd met his wife, and if it was for real and not just another fantasy lol.

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^ hahaha.