I just don't overthink it.
I try to maintain my grip on reality by reminding myself of the electricity at my fingertips.
It's easy for me to talk to women I guess in part because I don't see myself as an option to them. Or rather there's certain aspects about me or my life that I know would just not fly.
I loosely and subtly flirt, but that's I think a compulsive grasp for an anchor to reality subconsciously.
I am trying to fulfill a concept of a creative idea spliced with my life direction.
It requires an isolating amount of focus. Sometimes, I feel like I have to poke the wall of my perceptive boundaries a bit, just to make sure it's solid.
The emotional and physiological parts of me are different, because I'm hyper-compartmentalized. Granted, it's that hyper-compartmentalization that's kept me going.
Maybe, just try taking a step back?
Let things naturally fall into place however they're supposed to?
If there is anything I have learned with time, it's that trying to force something, usually has a cost in doing so. Try to force you way to get money, the cost is you have no life outside of business. Try to force someone to spend time with you? They'll be moody if you can even manage to convince them.
So instead of trying to force a connection, let it naturally develop.
Just talk to her like a person, ignoring your attraction to her.
See where it goes and try to look at the conversation from a 3rd person perspective rather than through your biases of how you feel and what you want.
You've also got the potential What If factor:
What If the person she is, isn't the person you think she is?
You don't know that, and it's important to remember that you don't know that.
Actively try to approach without bias or opinion.
Half of a conversation is listening, the more important half, when you're feeling out a connection.
The other half of the important part of it is speaking, which will develop naturally without the attraction factor.
How To Talk To A Pretty Girl:
1.) Ignore that she's a pretty girl. At least for a little while during getting to know her.
2.) Talk to her like a person, not like a guy, and not like a girl you want. Acknowledge that she's an individual and has her own life and sentience.
Analyze in retrospect, not during. You can't get a good perspective that way.
I mean if you just blindly go wherever, that can go bad pretty quickly.
Next thing you know, you're blindly driving off a bridge.
Don't do that to yourself.
While it is true that forests start with seeds, it's also true that seeds need water and sunlight to grow. Learning to socialize, for me at least, is kind of a perpetual rabbit hole of its own, totally separate than other parts of me.
But again that very well could be purely due to the fact that I'm trying not to get lost among my own organizations and reorganizations.
TL;DR:
Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain!
