Does not allow me, a guy, to vent or otherwise open up about my feelings.
Doesn't let me say "I don't know", "I'm afraid", especially "I'm afraid I can't do this", "I want to do better but I don't know how yet".
Insists that I act super confident and "tough" and all powerful, all knowing all the time.
And if I fail to live up to this standard, writes me off as weak or a "whiner".
Willfully refuses to step out of their own experiences and views and understand someone else's perspective - usually so they can justify a smug sense of superiority. Intentionally lacks empathy. Clings to their narrative even as you try to explain that it isn't like that. I've seen both the right AND the left do this, and it's a bad look no matter who does it.
i find it very ironic that the left, the so-called party of the little guy, the so-called anti-bullying party, is so into bullying and belittling those who are seen as "not having enough to offer" instead of trying to understand them. "nice guys" is the same smug ******* attitude as the people talking about "avocado toast". it's one thing that the right doesn't have empathy, that's to be expected. but this same attitude from the left is really disappointing.
and the supposedly anti-capitalist party, has a VERY capitalistic view of attraction - you're only as valuable as you are valuable to others, instead of saying that everyone (who isn't intentionally harmful) is inherently valuable.
People who lack compassion or understanding or an ability to even attempt to see things from a perspective outside of their own, and act like this is a good thing. People who smugly, egotistically think things are good because things have been good to them, and that's all that matters. Instead of trying to see that not everything is easy for everyone just because it was easy for them, they would rather look for the rationale that says that because they made it, it must mean they were more hardworking, deserving, "special", or superior. People who act in these ways and claim it is "logical" and that the opposite, you know, actually having a heart is "emotional".
People like that suck, and I can't stand them. It's an absolute dealbreaker.