Arachne said:
I would love to log on here as an example and read a pm it just makes my day. But I am so afraid if I reply too fast they might flee. Once bitten twice shy.
Oh, that makes me sad
I always get excited when I get a PM, even just short ones. I almost always respond right away when I see a PM unless it's part of a conversation that's reached it's course.
Most of the time, if someone doesn't respond within a day or so to a message out in the real world, I do wonder what is going on. Almost every one I know has a smartphone and not only do they have smartphones but they are also on those smartphones from the time they wake up to the time they go to sleep. If someone can't be bothered to press a few buttons to respond yet they can play Candy Crush all day - that says it all right there.
I have a friend who is like a sister and a few years ago she stopped responding to my texts. We had plans to go somewhere but she didn't answer any of my messages. I was very upset and thought our friendship might be over. She later emailed me and told me about the place we were going to and how much fun it was - she went anyway without me. I told her somewhat sarcastically that her phone must be broken because I texted her with no answers. Turns out her iPhone messages were messed up and she wasn't getting some texts during the time I was trying to text her. (Side note - her husband went to an Apple store and ripped them a new one
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So that was a lesson that if someone doesn't respond - yes, they probably aren't interested but there could be another reason in the background.
I have some friends and family (like my elderly parents for instance) who I know aren't that interested in messaging or even email for that matter. So I don't take it personally when they take a few days or weeks to respond to a message
-Teresa