TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Anyway. I just realized that I didn't respond to the topic itself. Might as well.
I used to be more worried about this than I am now. For example, when I was a kid I was very reserved because I didn't want to be judged for liking the things I liked (Star Wars, LOTR, Transformers, roleplaying games, collecting toys, other stuff like that). I didn't talk about my interests publicly except to trusted friends, and I didn't even wear shirts of things I liked. Nowadays I look back and wish I could have done it differently. I would have worn myself on my sleeve, because I wouldn't want to give power to the people that I was worried about being judged by. What's so great about what they like anyway? How is their way any better than mine? I never really stopped to think about it. I believe it would have been better for my confidence to have just been me inside and out, and the haters be damned, because no matter how nice you are or how reserved you are there's always going to be somebody that will choose to have a problem with you, usually over something trivial. It's better to just ignore them than to wait for them to completely go away, because it's another way of waiting to be happy and letting time pass by instead of being happy now.
Later, I minimized the list of things I worried about being judged over to a much smaller one. The only things that remained were a few bad habits, which I stopped doing.
I guess the last thing that remains, and the hardest one to overcome, is the feeling that I don't want to be judged as a loser, as "not good enough". This concern is especially strong in the areas of jobs/money, interests and skills, and especially with girls. I'm still working on it.
BadGuy said:
I used to be more worried about this than I am now. For example, when I was a kid I was very reserved because I didn't want to be judged for liking the things I liked (Star Wars, LOTR, Transformers, roleplaying games, collecting toys, other stuff like that). I didn't talk about my interests publicly except to trusted friends, and I didn't even wear shirts of things I liked. Nowadays I look back and wish I could have done it differently. I would have worn myself on my sleeve, because I wouldn't want to give power to the people that I was worried about being judged by. What's so great about what they like anyway? How is their way any better than mine? I never really stopped to think about it. I believe it would have been better for my confidence to have just been me inside and out, and the haters be damned, because no matter how nice you are or how reserved you are there's always going to be somebody that will choose to have a problem with you, usually over something trivial. It's better to just ignore them than to wait for them to completely go away, because it's another way of waiting to be happy and letting time pass by instead of being happy now.
Later, I minimized the list of things I worried about being judged over to a much smaller one. The only things that remained were a few bad habits, which I stopped doing.
I guess the last thing that remains, and the hardest one to overcome, is the feeling that I don't want to be judged as a loser, as "not good enough". This concern is especially strong in the areas of jobs/money, interests and skills, and especially with girls. I'm still working on it.
