I am a little random panda bear, I cant help it
So come on Mr Apex where's your good advice? You always know what to do in the dating puddle/pool/ ocean...
It's, kinda complicated, actually...especially around the 30 - 50 age range as a man.
The Sandwich Generation is a real thing. That kind of hasn't changed since the 1940's.
It's when men between 30 and 50 get sandwiched economically between trying to finance both their wives and children, and finance the ailing health of their dying parents.
There's...not really a good answer to that.
Economically speaking, even the upper class doesn't really have a good answer to that purely because of how much it costs to maintain the dying elderly.
Basically, something's gotta give, somewhere.
And in all actuality it's probably better structural planning economically for your wife and children to set that aside for AFTER your parents die.
That sounds backwards at first, but hear me out on this, okay?
So, it's going to happen one way or the other, right?
Right.
BUT, restructuring can be assessed (theoretically, at least, provided the man hasn't economically ****** himself somehow) AFTER the passing of his parental figures.
So that thereafter he can have a base block structure of finance to work with and plan with.
This, prevents him from seeming rather financially willy-nilly to his potential wife.
BUT, if the monetary values aren't as significant of a goal to the woman, and there's more emotionalism involved in their connectivity, than that is of course entirely on the sliding scale of the relationship. That likewise considers however, what he knows about his own monetary situation and his believed perceptual convictions, versus what she knows about his monetary perception and her believed perceptual convictions.
Sssooo, there's a lot of wiggle room, actually, entirely depending on the emotional factor of the relationship vs. the transitionary factor of the relationship, and as to how much each person actually understands the perception of the other person therein of that relationship.
Random Internal Monologue:
Why am I doing a theoretical deep dive into this when I've been single for 3 years? I probably don't have the credibility to do this, but I was asked, so, okay then.