Hardly anyone treats me fairly

[Animelover10102]

I know I really don't have a right to complain, but I just don't like when they mistreat things that belong to me, but treat everything else better.

They allow my siblings to touch, and take my things without my permission,
they yell at me even though I did nothing wrong, or when my siblings are pestering and mocking me and I get angry with them. They all seem to dislike my cat, calling him ******** and stupid, and sometimes even throwing him on the couch that is 3 feet away, when they could easily set him down. They barely feed him whenever I am away, so when I come home, he is always hungry.

I am severely sarcastic, and sometimes get yelled at for it, but whenever my younger brother is sarcastic, everyone laughs and says, "I love his smarta**!"

They barely every praise me for my good work. I almost got all A's this year, and all I got was a "mmhmm", when my sister and brother got a "great job!" from 3 of my family members, and were bragged about on facebook. I cook the food, feed the dogs, and put the dishes away, and they don't thank me.

They never tell me I am pretty or beautiful, but my sisters, and brother constantly get a "she is so cute/beautiful", or "he's so handsome". I mean, I'm not the prettiest girl (heck I look like my dad, but a bit more feminine), but it would be nice if just once they would say I am pretty, or encourage me. The last time I heard them say that had to be a few years ago. I don't even remember being called pretty, or beautiful. I am already self-conscious about my looks, and this isn't helping.

I am thankful towards them, and try to be my best towards them, but they don't notice that either. Really, my dad is the only one who is nice towards me, but I barely get to see him anymore.

 

[Ymir]

I've been there.

The advice I have is to keep in mind that the problem is not with you, but with them, and improve yourself for your own enjoyment. Study hard because YOU will need those grades to get into a nice college, spend more time taking care of your appearance so YOU can feel more confident in your skin even if your parents and relatives don't see it. It sucks not to get approval or praise from your own family, it's true, but eventually one learns how to live without it. You can't improve their behavior but you can improve your own.

If your household permits, standing up for yourself is always nice, too, though some parents are really vicious about it.

Hope everything turns out well.

 

[Edward W]

Actually it sounds like you DO have a right to complain. You obviously feel you are being treated differently and that is unfair.

 

[Animelover10102]

Actually it sounds like you DO have a right to complain. You obviously feel you are being treated differently and that is unfair.

Well, what I mean is, there are kids out there who have it way worse than me.

 

[Tiina63]

Even though there are other kids who have it worse, this doesn't mean that your problems are small or unimportant.
Edward W is right-you do have a right to complain. It sounds as though you are being treated worse than your siblings and this is very unfair.
As Ymir says, do well for your own sake. Get good grades so that you can one day move away to college and work towards a decent future for yourself. And make sure to find a college where you can find accomodation which accepts pets so that you can take your cat with you, as it sounds as though your family don't care about him.
I wish you all the best and hope that one day your family come to appreciate your true worth.

 

[Gravely]

I had a tough situation growing up and I never got much positive feedback, so I've always thirsted for it in my adult life. For most of it, though, I've mostly given up on people, and the root of that is the time that you're currently living. While you can't fight your reaction to the neglect of your surroundings, my advice is to establish comforting escapes now. They will grant you shelter now and for the rest of your life until you're strong enough to love yourself.

 

[Rosewood]

I was a neglected child. 48 now. I looked for love in all the wrong guys to compensate, Married poorly and had a horrible time. My kids are all over 25 now.
What did I learn. My inner voice and praise are the most important. Love from the creator is the greatest gift I have. I am still healing and growing.
Live your life as good person and tune out the negative voices. I wish i had known all that when I was so young and being beaten by husband just to be loved.
Church, school and community are good places to be. It will take time but your love will find you.

 

[thelonegamer]

You're beautiful. It's not looks that makes you beautiful, it's personality. And I can see here you have a strong character. You're in a tough situation. Try letting 'them' know how you feel about it. Use your sarcasm to tell jokes like 'I do everything right, but you guys never notice, I do something wrong once and you never forget' or 'she gets a B- you guys congratulate, I get an A you guys say nothing, I think I'm ********' or something of the kind. Maybe it will make them realise and open their eyes but never put it in an aggressive way, always as if you didn't cared at all. I don't know what to say but I guess this is something I would do but perhaps you don't have that kind of freedom with 'them' like I have with mine so. Just chill, there's nothing wrong with you. Life's like this sometimes. Best of luc. Feel free to pm me anytime to talk about anything, about everything. Alright. Enough human interaction. Later