Have you been gaslighted ?

[Hoarse Whisperer]

I am not attacking I am reacting to passive aggressive behaviour. I have had some snide remarks. Like go see a quack, that was an attack ! Not me, I simply responded to it. Can you paste back where I attacked you please?

Nowhere in my original posts did I say anything rude, passive aggressive, or snarky to you though. I related a story of my own to yours as a way of connecting our experiences. You took my words way too personally and read insults where there werent any

 

[0mgofhappiness]

Nowhere in my original posts did I say anything rude, passive aggressive, or snarky to you though. I related a story of my own to yours as a way of connecting our experiences. You took my words way too personally and read insults where there werent any

Can you point out where I attacked you? Hoarse whisperer and Callie seem to be the only two that respond on my posts ? Seems a bit sus. Are you ganging up on me?

 

[okidoke]

this thread is going nowhere.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

I think maybe your definition and the standard definition of "gaslighting" differ.

Ok, what's my definition and what's the standard definition. ? (I am only high school educated) So I may lack where you don't.

 

[Hoarse Whisperer]

Can you point out where I attacked you? Hoarse whisperer and Callie seem to be the only two that respond on my posts ? Seems a bit sus. Are you ganging up on me?

I made a post relating to your story, you told me that I was gaslighting the chick that cheated on me and wanted me to accept an open relationship before dumping me lmfao. And then you misunderstood my post and assumed I said you wanted a three way relationship and have ran with this assumption that I'm trying to hurt you instead of relate to your experiences. This thread has reminded me why I just keep my mouth shut and mind my own business.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I would love to try to help you and talk with you, but you don't seem to want either of those things. (probably not true, but do you see how words can hurt when you make assumptions about others that you don't know?)

People here are actually very accepting of others, maybe give us a chance instead of jumping to conclusions all the time. Maybe having a laugh in one of the more lighthearted threads would do you a world of good. They do say laughter is the best medicine.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

None of that is applicable to the way that I communicate with people, especially on this forum in particular. I came here at the peak of my depression when I was considering doing something dramatic to myself and instead opted to look for positivity here.

You posted asking about gaslighting and bad breakup lines so I related one in which a girl took advantage of me and was cheating on me. She then tried to gaslight me by requesting an open relationship in which she is allowed to cheat on me with some random with my blessing. I refused and got dumped because "I didn't love her enough".

And I think you misunderstood what I was saying as though it was in some way an insult against you. Unless you're Shannon from my past, you have no offense to take from my story.

Edit: I also felt a little gaslit by your response to my post, if I'm being completely candid with you.

Ok you are callies sidekick. I do not intend to gaslight, I have not got the brain to be calculated as that. You are following behind callies posts? I am here alone. A newbie. Is that ok?

 

[TheRealCallie]

Ok you are callies sidekick. I do not intend to gaslight, I have not got the brain to be calculated as that. You are following behind callies posts? I am here alone. A newbie. Is that ok?

You are replying to both of us, so why can't we both reply back? You are making assumptions again.

Why do you keep insulting yourself?

 

[Hoarse Whisperer]

Ok you are callies sidekick. I do not intend to gaslight, I have not got the brain to be calculated as that. You are following behind callies posts? I am here alone. A newbie. Is that ok?

But I responded to you first in this thread. Doesn't that make Callie MY sidekick? Why can't I ever be the protagonist?

 

[0mgofhappiness]

You are replying to both of us, so why can't we both reply back? You are making assumptions again.

Why do you keep insulting yourself?

I feel people's thoughts towards me. It feels better that I allow them to insult me, they are going to insult you anyway so it's easier to deal with when I allow them.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I feel people's thoughts towards me. It feels better that I allow them to insult me, they are going to insult you anyway so it's easier to deal with when I allow them.

I don't think you are feeling people's thoughts, but maybe elaborate on that a bit more? I'm not sure I understand.

And no, it's not easier to deal with. It just gives you more anger. It just keeps you a toxic mindset. Stop telling people you are stupid because you aren't. Lots of people only have a high school education. Steve Jobs (cofounder of Apple) dropped out of college after only a few months. Is he stupid too? No, he's not. Start knowing your own worth and stop letting others decide it for you.
I get it, I really do, I've been there myself. It's hard as hell to stop believing things dicks have told you, but that doesn't make them true. Now can we stop with all the assumptions and accusations and just have a civilized conversation? Tomorrow, because I'm shutting my devices down for the night.

 

[Lacrecia]

I feel people's thoughts towards me. It feels better that I allow them to insult me, they are going to insult you anyway so it's easier to deal with when I allow them.

You're psychic?

 

[okidoke]

........ Lots of people only have a high school education. .......

I failed my high school certificate. I still became a commercial pilot and then later a police officer.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

My greatest fear is running into an actual mindreader and having them realize how stupid my thoughts really are.

They exist. I have encountered one or two, I cannot read minds, I can feel from a person's aura of you want to call it that. So it was rather confusing for me to form a relationship with a man that I felt he had a strong sense of hate towards me while also telling me he cared about me. I know take care can take on a few different contexts. 'take care have a nice day's generally ok. But 'take care of her's as in 'i'll take care of that' said in a very sinister tone. Now I just live in fear, no longer want to be here. Thought this forum might offer some help for lonliness in the meantime before I get my euthanasia appointment

 

[Lacrecia]

I failed my high school certificate. I still became a commercial pilot and then later a police officer.

Can I hire you

 

[okidoke]

..... in the meantime before I get my euthanasia appointment

My understanding is that it's still illegal in the UK.

 

[okidoke]

Can I hire you

lol for what?

 

[Lacrecia]

lol for what?

Flying me around and keeping me safe. I am afraid.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

You're psychic?

I do not know how to channel it. I have had premonitions that have come true, it could be intuition? A strong sense of this is not right while being told it was ok when it certainly wasn't ok. People think I am a whackjob when I tell them this. I had a very severe psychic experience that no one believes me about. But it happened, it was just disguised to me, just write her off as a whack job. Which sometimes I can be. But something came very true, I know I will be dead soon. But I won't be around to know if that one came true.

 

[Lacrecia]

I do not know how to channel it. I have had premonitions that have come true, it could be intuition? A strong sense of this is not right while being told it was ok when it certainly wasn't ok. People think I am a whackjob when I tell them this. I had a very severe psychic experience that no one believes me about. But it happened, it was just disguised to me, just write her off as a whack job. Which sometimes I can be. But something came very true, I know I will be dead soon. But I won't be around to know if that one came true.

What does whackjob mean