have you ever...

[dead]

...saved someone's life?


tell a story if you have
(extend that to "or greatly helped someone in a bad situation"

 

[Drama]

I've never saved someone. it's true that i tried to help people in some nasty situations but my contribution wasn't really important *shrug*
but the other day I was talking to my classmate she wanted some information about a club where she can practice her vocabulary. I told her honestly that she didn't need it and she can practice at home or with me. Her answer shocked me she said that I was awesome that I know exactly what to say and that she always respected me of being ME and that she always tries to be like me. Yeah I was shocked and didn't know what to say I told her that she was great too. i wasn't comfortable with that subject so I quickly changed it which, I think, will put her judgment to question lol.
I still don't understand why she said that, to please me? she didn't have to I just said my opinion ...*shrug*

 

[dead]

i don't think she would say that much just to please you. it seems to be too sincere to me.
and hey, that's not a bad story

 

[Drama]

It freaked me out I barely talk to her

your turn tell me a story

 

[dead]

i have, i made a new thread for it since it's unrelated to this one's topic.

 

[Drama]

You've never helped someone? I think you did or maybe you don't want to talk about it?

 

[Badjedidude]

I have. But I won't go into details about it. Sorryyyyy. heh

 

[Drama]

Playing the mysterious savior huh?

 

[dead]

I have. But I won't go into details about it. Sorryyyyy. heh

that's ok and... i'm not surprized

 

[shells]

I tried, for a long time, but failed.

 

[Minus]

I tried, for a long time, but failed.

That is usually pretty sad.

 

[Drama]

I tried, for a long time, but failed.

At least you tried which is good enough

 

[dead]

I tried, for a long time, but failed.

At least you tried which is good enough

you know, i have to disagree :/ it makes it worse first of all you fail and second of all it makes it so much easier to blame yourself for failing

i am sorry shells, that IS so sad
for whatever it's worth i am sure you have done all anyone could have in your situation. (hug).

 

[Drama]

But it's not your fault if you fail

 

[dead]

well possibly, yes. of course it's different for every case.

 

[Obsidian]

No, I haven't. But those who have, or have tried to, are heroes in my book. I think that people in general are too passive (I know that I tend to be ), those who actually try to make a difference and save / help another person, well, they're awesome!

 

[Drama]

Dead Nowadays it's difficult to find people willing to help so if they just try and don't succeed it's better than nothing... The point is don't blame yourself

(The little stubborn fool went out)

 

[Talus]

you know, i have to disagree :/ it makes it worse first of all you fail and second of all it makes it so much easier to blame yourself for failing

I've never really though of trying and not succeeding as failure. Sure, once it's all said and done hindsight will kick in and ask well what would have happened if I did it differently, but hindsight is a bitch and forgets that in reality we never have all the facts, and we don't have a psychic adviser who can tell us which course of action is best at any given time.

Sure, depends on the situation, and there are many failures in our lives that we can blame on ourselves, but 9 out of 10 times if a person gives an honest effort and still fails, it was usually beyond their control and they're lacking in fault.

Besides, wouldn't it be a far larger failure to have simply done nothing at all?

 

[dead]

yeah, i am talking about the hindsight of course it's a bitch, and of course it does not mean the person failed. i was just saying that it makes you bear (usually unjustified) blame :/

so yes, i am in complete agreement with you. especially about the last sentence.

---

Dead Nowadays it's difficult to find people willing to help so if they just try and don't succeed it's better than nothing... The point is don't blame yourself

(The little stubborn fool went out)

i agree with you, completely. i just mean that it's soooo hard if you don't succeed

---

No, I haven't. But those who have, or have tried to, are heroes in my book. I think that people in general are too passive (I know that I tend to be ), those who actually try to make a difference and save / help another person, well, they're awesome!

i agree!

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I tried to save my ex-gf's life...but failed.
She relasped into her addictions...it got really, really bad.
I knew I couldn't fix her. But I stood by her side anyways.
It wasn't like a was a knight in shinney armor riding into town to save her.
We were 7 years into our relationship when our lives took a major, major turn.
I knew it had to take some type of a bottom...or it had to get bad before it got better.
but damn the woman just kept on digging. 5 years of chaos and a living hell. I don't recommend it to anyone.
But it's difficult when you love someone. To stop loving someone is probably one of the hardest things I had
to do in my life. She won't and can't face me today becuase there were so much wreackage. I'm still trying to
pick up the pieces.


One time...it was a very, very difficult for me to this. It went against all of my logic.
But everyday I was comforted with it. I tried to look at other way..but someway and somehow
I comforted with it. I thought and tried to reasons with myself for months...but everytime
a vioce kept telling me. I had to help this person.

I was going through a very diffiucult time myself in my life. I had a great career, plenty of money
and the material sucess. I'd go out to dancing clubs and hang out with my drinking buddies all the time.
As sucessful as I may look on ouside I felt dead on the inside. I felt my life was purpose less.
Just work, party and spend my money on women and whine. Everywhere I went or when I meet
people..they were like..."wow ..you have your **** together for such a young man"

Even some of my friends and drink buddies gave me a hard time ...when I acttaully started helping her.
i didn't even know what to do half of the time...except I had an intuition that I really needed to help her.

The vioce that I kept hearing was..."will, since you're not doing **** with your life any way...
You make a chioce...Help this person or I will take your life"

This person was a prostitute. When I finally broke down and helped her...
I was very angery..I was angery at the world, at the authories, angery at her, angery at the men that were using her.
She had just gotten hit by a car. She was in constant pain. No one...fucken no one stopped to help her.
At first I drove past her...still thinking to myself "oh hell no...what the fcuk are people going to think and say about me???"..
But I came back...I took her home and took care of her for a month. She couldn't even get out of bed for a couple
of weeks becuase she was in so much pains. After that she admmited herself into a treatment center for drugs and alcohol abuse.
I remember her breaking down and crying her heart out when I held her. I just held her. She nevered wanted to be held by a man.

A year later she got her children back and was still clean and sober. That was the last I hear from her.