TomL
Well-known member
Hi, I'm new to the forum.
A bit about me, without giving you all a lengthy autobiography.
My name's Tom. I'm 37 years old, and I live in the North East of England. Loneliness is something that's always been part of my life. I've always struggled to connect with people or make friends. Things got REALLY bad about 15 years ago and then picked up a bit. I got to a point where I could cope on the outside - go to work, talk/interact with people, but on the inside I still struggle with making friends. I have one friend, but he's the sort of friend you can have a pint with, talk about football or music with. He doesn't get the coping with loneliness and depression side (I've tried).
I used to tangle myself up in trying to work it all out, pinpoint the cause and blame myself. I don't think I understood myself and I'd think and say bad stuff about myself.
I say used to, because I had 6 months of counselling last year. I should've done it years ago, because it helped me understand myself and my situation. But it doesn't resolve everything. I feel like I can move forward, but right now, it feels like I'm a million miles from where I need to be. I'm still lonely and have a need now and then to talk to people who understand how it feels. And that's what has brought me here I suppose.
A bit about me, without giving you all a lengthy autobiography.
My name's Tom. I'm 37 years old, and I live in the North East of England. Loneliness is something that's always been part of my life. I've always struggled to connect with people or make friends. Things got REALLY bad about 15 years ago and then picked up a bit. I got to a point where I could cope on the outside - go to work, talk/interact with people, but on the inside I still struggle with making friends. I have one friend, but he's the sort of friend you can have a pint with, talk about football or music with. He doesn't get the coping with loneliness and depression side (I've tried).
I used to tangle myself up in trying to work it all out, pinpoint the cause and blame myself. I don't think I understood myself and I'd think and say bad stuff about myself.
I say used to, because I had 6 months of counselling last year. I should've done it years ago, because it helped me understand myself and my situation. But it doesn't resolve everything. I feel like I can move forward, but right now, it feels like I'm a million miles from where I need to be. I'm still lonely and have a need now and then to talk to people who understand how it feels. And that's what has brought me here I suppose.
