shoog
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Hi Everyone!
I'm a newbie, and just wanted to introduce myself.
I guess the basics - I'm 39 yr single parent. I have lived in the Atlanta area for 10 years but I'm extremely, extremely shy so I have not made ONE friend since I've been here (just work aquaintances that I never meet up with after work, except for one every now and then).
I've been shy and a loner most of my life, especially once I graduated college making friends has been tough. I just don't how to go about doing it.
Believe it or not I have a BF...yes shocking, huh?
However he's super, duper outgoing and never meets a stranger - he's always on the go with friends & activities and rarely is at home but to sleep. We have been together for 2 yrs but the last six months he's been living in Cali. Now I'm struggling with my loneliness even more, cause when he was here I spent my Saturday evenings with him. So while he's out having a good time, I'm sitting at home all weekend....I hate to say it but JEALOUS of him and his active social life. I want to make new friends so I can stay busy too but I'm too shy to go to an event by myself and make conversation (and keep it going which is my weakness). So I just sit home every weekend, bored and lonely to no end trying not to be jealous yet not succeeding.
My BF, tells me to just go to these events (like meetup.com) and just start talking to people and I will eventually make friends. But I'm terrified of doing that - I don't know what to say past the usual "Hi. My name is Shoog."
I want to make steps to overcome my shyness and have been reading self help books to get me started. The BF has already given me a piece of advice - Smile! And so I have been trying to do that, which I have noticed a difference altho it hasn't made me any ..yet!
Sometimes I worry the BF will get bored with me and move on to someone more exciting that has more going on in her life. And sometimes I wonder if I should just accept my fate - maybe I'm supposed to be lonely and I just need to get over it and enjoy my own company....but that seems so sad to me. I don't want to be alone, I really don't.
Anyway, that's my story. I have read some of the posts and I can relate to so many of them. They make me sad because we all seem to be good people that just want to make friends, but it's just not easy for us.
I look forward to getting to know y'all!
Shoog
I'm a newbie, and just wanted to introduce myself.
I guess the basics - I'm 39 yr single parent. I have lived in the Atlanta area for 10 years but I'm extremely, extremely shy so I have not made ONE friend since I've been here (just work aquaintances that I never meet up with after work, except for one every now and then).
I've been shy and a loner most of my life, especially once I graduated college making friends has been tough. I just don't how to go about doing it.
Believe it or not I have a BF...yes shocking, huh?
However he's super, duper outgoing and never meets a stranger - he's always on the go with friends & activities and rarely is at home but to sleep. We have been together for 2 yrs but the last six months he's been living in Cali. Now I'm struggling with my loneliness even more, cause when he was here I spent my Saturday evenings with him. So while he's out having a good time, I'm sitting at home all weekend....I hate to say it but JEALOUS of him and his active social life. I want to make new friends so I can stay busy too but I'm too shy to go to an event by myself and make conversation (and keep it going which is my weakness). So I just sit home every weekend, bored and lonely to no end trying not to be jealous yet not succeeding.My BF, tells me to just go to these events (like meetup.com) and just start talking to people and I will eventually make friends. But I'm terrified of doing that - I don't know what to say past the usual "Hi. My name is Shoog."
I want to make steps to overcome my shyness and have been reading self help books to get me started. The BF has already given me a piece of advice - Smile! And so I have been trying to do that, which I have noticed a difference altho it hasn't made me any ..yet!
Sometimes I worry the BF will get bored with me and move on to someone more exciting that has more going on in her life. And sometimes I wonder if I should just accept my fate - maybe I'm supposed to be lonely and I just need to get over it and enjoy my own company....but that seems so sad to me. I don't want to be alone, I really don't.
Anyway, that's my story. I have read some of the posts and I can relate to so many of them. They make me sad because we all seem to be good people that just want to make friends, but it's just not easy for us.
I look forward to getting to know y'all!
Shoog
