How not to get angry when you are being ingored

[Restless soul]

Hahaha just got a " dont think we are a match but thanks for the match' do these women think they are being cool by replying with thier little brush offs?? Just ignore me like 99.99999% that don't reply...yes. i prefer that?? GeeZ

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

It was Callie, wasn't it

 

[Restless soul]

It was Callie, wasn't it

No. She is not my type. 

See what I did there??

 

[TheRealCallie]

I've been rejected....... Excuse me while I go cry.

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But seriously, you hate when people ignore you and then you hate when people don't ignore you. Damned if they do, damned if they don't......

Seems to me like the problem lies with YOU, not them.

 

[Restless soul]

I've been rejected.......  Excuse me while I go cry.

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But seriously, you hate when people ignore you and then you hate when people don't ignore you.  Damned if they do, damned if they don't......

Seems to me like the problem lies with YOU, not them.

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Yes ignore is in the title. But I thought you can make the distinction callie between the two topics here. One, was being ignored by...people I already know, met spent time with. 

This case is people on a dating site who for no other reason write to you to tell you how they are not interested.  Big difference there!

 

[TheRealCallie]

Yes, so now, instead of obsessing over how they totally ignored you, you are obsessing over how they took the time to tell you to not waste your time......Yes, I completely see the difference.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

So, the people you know need to start telling you they aren't interested, and the people you haven't met need to ignore you. I THINK I AM GETTING IT!

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I feel like this needs a poll

 

[Restless soul]

So, the people you know need to start telling you they aren't interested, and the people you haven't met need to ignore you. I THINK I AM GETTING IT!

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I feel like this needs a poll

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No --amy debbie downer. They don't but I see your spin and how you interpret this. Ok. Fair. But the people i care about who aren't interested is upsetting. Yes..do I truly know they aren't interested? It's so diffrent on many levels 

At least they were at some point. Vs some random girl who seems like she is sticking it to you by saying how she is not. 
But I see you amy. I see you

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Pennywise, is that you? 

 

[Restless soul]

No amy, I do not seem them as being one of the same. I see how you try to tie them in to one another. 

If you were on a dating site.  And Maybe you are and the majority ignored you. Then one decided to say. Sorry dont think we are a match. Which is not as bad as. Saying not my type or not interested.

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I do have to admit that is a good prespective and insight amy

 

[Restless soul]

We touched on so many interesting topics today on this one thread. So nice to have such smart people here to interact with

 

[Restless soul]

What I should of added is not only angry. But depressed. Feelings of abanonment. Hopeless that you won't meet anyone else.

You know those feelings that plauge me throughout the day
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[Restless soul]

Do you think it weird one day I am talking to three people on a dating site. Then they all seem to have dropped off the face of the earth and stop responding . On top of that no replies from new people I sent messages to. Does this sound odd unusual? Time to get off this dating site?

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

I almost want to ask what your messages are like on dating sites...

 

[Restless soul]

I almost want to ask what your messages are like on dating sites...

I will be the first to admit that my profile is subpar. Along with maybe photos. This is true. But when it comes to messages on a dating site I don't think you should have to say something elaborate or witty to get a reply. I am in the camp that thinks a simple 'hello' should suffice. And it should. You are online. Doesn't have to be complicated

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

When people say just "hello" to me, I say just Hello back. You can see how something like that can hit a dead end, surely.

 

[Restless soul]

And that would be a very good sign for the guy. A reply is a great step in the right direction vs getting nothing. One can easly follow up on a hello back. No negative there, Amy

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Yeah but it tends to be what people fall on. Do you simply want replies or do you want real conversation?

 

[TheRealCallie]

There can always be a negative. She could be playing you, she could be laughing at you, she could have some other nefarious reason for saying hello back. And then there's the she's just being polite because she's nice and doesn't want to ignore people, yet really wanting nothing to do with you.

So yeah, there can always be a negative. If you think there can't be, regardless of the situation, then you are in denial.

 

[Restless soul]

There can always be a negative.  She could be playing you, she could be laughing at you, she could have some other nefarious reason for saying hello back.  And then there's the she's just being polite because she's nice and doesn't want to ignore people, yet really wanting nothing to do with you.

So yeah, there can always be a negative.  If you think there can't be, regardless of the situation, then you are in denial.

So in other words you are giving me a pessimists type answer as to why a hello is not very good..ok??