How not to get angry when you are being ingored

[AmytheTemperamental]

Oh when I get home on my computer, I will find a lot of things you said.

 

[Restless soul]

No. I know exaclty. So I am getting what I want in a way is what you are saying. NOTHING!

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

"n my other thread. I stated i have a problem with people feeling the need to be critical upon a reply to a message on a dating site and simply said I would prefer no reply as opposed to:
1. Sorry not my type.
2. No thanks ( really do hate that one)
3. Not interested 
4. Don't think we are a good match thanks for writing ( the least abrasive and insulting of all)"

 

[Restless soul]

Yes , amy. I know what you were reffering. Yes. Exaclty.
And " hello" is not on that list. But I get your point.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Hello isn't a rejection. But obviously them not replying is. So once again , not odd.

 

[Restless soul]

Hello isn't a rejection.  But obviously them not replying is. So once again , not odd.

Yes. Yes. A vicious cycle. Still has an affect. And is demoralizing. Becomes self destructive and self- defeating. 

So either way you can't win.

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When it rains it pours as the saying goes

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Rodent, if you see this....you know what gif I need. The one with the Stars and the head.

 

[Restless soul]

I have this very unhealthy thinking where if people suddenly have stopped replying. Or no one starts. That it is the start of some cycle that will go on and on of no response and ignoring.

Not normal I know

 

[Restless soul]

Anyone on?

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Question: if one feels they may sabotage every interaction on a dating site, or someone you know friend girl. By maybe texting too much coming across too needy, insecure whatever the case maybe. Is there anyway that he can redeem himself? Out of that isolation chamber he was put in? Waiting to text the person again a few days is the obvious answer usually. But what does amy say? Or callie? And the others who care to chime in?

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Amy doesn't text.

 

[Restless soul]

Ok. So massaging. Emailing on a website?
I meant replying to anything via text. Not specific to a phone. A very general question regarding the reasons why women turn to stone after a few messages from me

 

[TheRealCallie]

Are you giving amy the massage or is she giving you one?

 

[Restless soul]

Massage? Oops. Typo

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Leave her be would be my verdict.

 

[Restless soul]

Leave who?

 

[TheRealCallie]

Clearly there is something in those messages that they don't like.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

whoever has "ghosted" you.

 

[Restless soul]

I being serious now. That's the only thing you reccomend?

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

I still stand by my therapy recommendation too.

 

[TheRealCallie]

It's a pretty damn good recommendation. Why the hell are you wasting your time on someone who doesn't want to talk to you?