How often do you think about death?

[theSmokingRabbit]

It's natural for people to think about death.

Yes but I'm sure you can agree it is interesting to explore why we are the way we are.


I really like what you set Ak5, that is a wonderful mindset.

 

[evanescencefan91]

often

*hugs cas*

it use to terrify me when I was younger to think I might not exist

we grow fond of ourselves we're all we've known and come to love,

I think for obvious reasons we've evolved to fear death, every animal does, that why species do all they can to sat alive, we've been evolved to fear not existing, it's the most effective method to keep us alive long enough to reproduce to create another being to fear death

I donno, it sucks, so i guess i just deal and move on, can't do **** about it, so I just have to be ok with it.

I don't know if there is anything after death, but I have little credability to say it's this or that, but I know it will not be hell, and I believe it will be any worse than what we have now.

*hugs*

have you considered therapy or something it could help

 

[Naleena]

When my dad died in '98 I got drunk for a week. He went quick and unexpectedly. Ten years later I took care of my mom for her last few weeks. Never left her side. She had cancer and I could say goodby easier then.

Tedgresham, I am sorry to hear about your parents dying. It's hard to lose someone you love. As far as it being easier the second time, do you think the difference may have been that you had a chance to say goodbye to your mom? In a way, your dad's sudden death robbed that from you.

I agree that being there is far more important than anything, but when I'm there I feel like an arm-less chainsaw juggler. Dealing with emotions just is not my thing. I do try though, I know what it means to other to have support.
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Funky Buddha, I think most people feel that way. There isn't a set script on what to say or do to help someone who has had a loved one pass away. There are so many psycho-social dynamics involved when it comes to such things. Being there and listening is truely the greatest gift anyone can give. I have a Jewish friend who says that it is a tradition to go and sit in silence with the bereaved and listen to them talk. I think that is a beautiful tradition.

 

[Bread]

Not so much as of late. Still, there's the occasional 'doom n' gloom' melancholy periods in my life, but I've so far managed to wade through the worst, come what may.

Also, the death of my mother's second husband made me realize she's not going to be around forever, so I made a point in making it clear she understood how much she's meant for me. If she'd only stop going down the same path as her husband...

 

[theSmokingRabbit]

There are so many psycho-social dynamics involved when it comes to such things.

Yea... and then there's me.

Being there and listening is truely the greatest gift anyone can give. I have a Jewish friend who says that it is a tradition to go and sit in silence with the bereaved and listen to them talk. I think that is a beautiful tradition.

I like that tradition. I just know that I hold a very different view when it comes to these things and people tend to interpret my actions as heartless or uncaring. Which proves detrimental to the entire process.

 

[IgnoredOne]

I only fear that by dying, I won't be able to accomplish more while alive. I honestly can't seem to muster any fear of death - something which I used to feel weird about, but I'll hate to have it happen before I've done everything I wanted.

 

[theSmokingRabbit]

Ashamed of myself for taking so long to bust this quote out. This sums up my attitude towards dying...

"I intend to live forever, or die trying." -Groucho Marx

 

[Naleena]

I only fear that by dying, I won't be able to accomplish more while alive. I honestly can't seem to muster any fear of death - something which I used to feel weird about, but I'll hate to have it happen before I've done everything I wanted.

I feel you on that, Ignored. My greatest fear is not dying. It's not having lived. There is a quote I like by Stephen Vincent Benet. "Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.” I guess one could add apathy to that. I want more than anything to live my life in a way that is in line with my authentic self. I feel like I have not done that yet.

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Ashamed of myself for taking so long to bust this quote out. This sums up my attitude towards dying...

"I intend to live forever, or die trying." -Groucho Marx

ROFLMAO! Excellent quote, Funky Buddha. Do you like Groucho Marx, BTW? Here is a cute quote-> I intend to live forever. So far, so good.

 

[Bread]

"I intend to live forever, or die trying." -Groucho Marx

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Ah, another Marxist. Good to see I'm not the only one who can appreciate age-old motormouth comedians.

 

[Jilted John]

As far as I'm concerned,death is just a matter of ceasing to exist,like the light from a light bulb.So being dead doesn't bother me,just the nature of my dying.A double tap to the back of the head when I'm not expecting it would be nice!

 

[theSmokingRabbit]

Ah, another Marxist. Good to see I'm not the only one who can appreciate age-old motormouth comedians.

No, sir. You are not alone. Also a big fan of Abbot and Costello who (as you probably know) are also from around that era.

Although those are two distinct styles of comedy.

ROFLMAO! Excellent quote, Funky Buddha. Do you like Groucho Marx, BTW? Here is a cute quote-> I intend to live forever. So far, so good.

I'm a HUGE fan of Steven Wright.

"I have an existential map. It has 'You are here' written all over it."

Good times...


I do have a question for you Naleena. You say you "want more than anything to live my life in a way that is in line with my authentic self" but don't feel you've done that yet.

Are you unable to live the way you'd like?

If so, are you content with that inability as temporary obstacle while you work towards your goal?



And John...careful what you wish for haha.

 

[freedom]

i think about it just about every day. and suicide too.