M_also_lonely said:
Ya....i knw how much true that is... These things are only considered good "ONLINE" and in books. Not in real life. You see, everybody says like you, you ask million people on internet, they will say the same thing as you."Sensitiveness is great" .
But I think these people or their kindness exists only Online, not in real life. A girl would post a huge post on "What a girls really look for in guys" or "Sensitiveness, the most precious gift" and other ********. But none of them would follow that in reality.
Because if they would, I would be the person with most friends.
And those who show off, and those have muscles but no brain and money but no heart would be posting here asking about ways to become sensitive or how to have a friend...
So please....
I want people to read what M said here again.
The facts are very clear. He is absolutely right.
If sensitivity were really a trait that people wanted then people would be asking how to become sensitive. But absolutely no one does this.
In this world, the real one where we all live, sensitive people are always the ones asking the kind of questions that M asks here.
In real life it's probably true that none or few of you would even have any respect for someone who cries in front of you, or the like. Many of you would probably see him as weak and/or feel uncomfortable. The fact is just as M states, that 'sensitivity' is not respected between person to person. Logically speaking, anyone who says differently is just plain wrong, or just speaking for a very rare minority. Maybe you don't realize how wrong it is, but it's still wrong.
However, I don't want to dismiss the value of 'sensitivity' either. Those of you who are speaking about this as a good thing are doing so from your emotions, rather than from logic. It's what you want to be true, so you state it and suggest it is true.
That does give it value, because there are many people who feel that way.
So the real problem here is... What does someone do about a contradiction like this?
M_also_lonely said:
Whatever, you all may be right, but this kind of nature of me makes me cry almost daily. I want to be strong. I want to be able to fight for myself. I dont want to feel that I am always wrong in an argument.
I think the answer lies here.
It is alright to be sensitive. It is valued, and it is valuable, as people say.
However, it is not respected and this disrespect brings on fear of alienation and submission due to that fear.
The answer to the problem therefore seems to lie in courage and using this courage to obtain respect from others. Courage to not back down in an argument. To not feel as if one is always wrong. Courage to face others despite alienation and to do things they might not approve of because you believe in yourself and the things that you do. And sometimes that may even mean to cry in front of others and not at all fear what they might think of that.
It is good to 'feel' the effects of what you do, it is what makes someone human, but one must still learn to face down the world, to be brave, and to conquer their fears.
So, the solution is simple in concept and but also the hardest thing someone might ever do.
You must learn to accept and embrace your emotions, but at the same time reject all fear.
How to do that? Hmm...
M, you know you won't find that answer here. Do any of us here have any courage? If we did, would we still be lonely?
Ask someone who is brave how to find courage. Maybe they'll have an answer for you.
P.S. Come find me if you ever get that answer. I want to know, too.
