How Would You React To Catching Your Significant Other In Bed With Someone Else?

[Doubt The Rabbit]

Seriously, I've been through similar, I found out things, even found video footage of the act which was a delight to have to view I can tell you. How did I react? I did the manly thing of course... I got drunk and wept..lots.

^^^ Sorry, but your pain makes me lol a little. Really sorry....*chuckle*

 

[The Good Citizen]

Seriously, I've been through similar, I found out things, even found video footage of the act which was a delight to have to view I can tell you. How did I react? I did the manly thing of course... I got drunk and wept..lots.

^^^ Sorry, but your pain makes me lol a little. Really sorry....*chuckle*

Ahh DTR you sadist!

It was a long time ago now anyway, ancient history.

 

[LoneKiller]

Are you insinuating that I was to blame?

You did something wrong and you aren't accepting responsibility for your actions.

Two wrongs do not make a right.

I am not condoning cheating.

The Devil made me do it.

 

[IgnoredOne]

I think that if you truly believe in something, trying to justify it to others is an exercise in futility if a great way to waste a lot of time.

The mind boggles how Bruce Wayne would be taken trying to justify being Batman on der interwebs, lol.

 

[SophiaGrace]

Okay, let me reframe what IO just said in a different way. Someone could be delusional (as in has a mental disorder like schizophrenia) and believe in their delusions very strongly. Therefore they should not bother to try to explain their delusions to others because its a waste of time.

Aren't their delusions still wrong irrespective of the strength of their convictions?

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Are you insinuating that I was to blame?

You did something wrong and you aren't accepting responsibility for your actions.

Two wrongs do not make a right.

I am not condoning cheating.

The Devil made me do it.

Okay, fair enough. The Devil always wins.

 

[LoneKiller]

Okay, let me reframe what IO just said in a different way. Someone could be delusional (as in has a mental disorder like schizophrenia) and believe in their delusions very strongly. Therefore they should not bother to try to explain their delusions to others because its a waste of time.

Aren't their delusions still wrong irrespective of the strength of their convictions?

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Are you insinuating that I was to blame?

You did something wrong and you aren't accepting responsibility for your actions.

Two wrongs do not make a right.

I am not condoning cheating.

The Devil made me do it.

Okay, fair enough. The Devil always wins.

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Oh. I see what you mean now Sophia. Thanks.

 

[Drew88]

O, if only I had a Significant Other.

 

[IgnoredOne]

Okay, let me reframe what IO just said in a different way. Someone could be delusional (as in has a mental disorder like schizophrenia) and believe in their delusions very strongly. Therefore they should not bother to try to explain their delusions to others because its a waste of time.

Aren't their delusions still wrong irrespective of the strength of their convictions?

lol

More accurately, the greatest defeat of genuine and effective action has been the weakness of attempting to justify what is necessary to committee, and especially to those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat for they attempt nothing.

Much credit to Theodore Roosevelt.

 

[perfanoff]

The thing I call a "relationship" involves having absolute exclusive rights to have sex with my SO. And vice versa. I would probably throw a cheating woman out on the curb then and tell her to get out of my face before I slap her.

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Sophia: you are saying that if I am your "boyfriend" and I cheat on you, you would do nothing about it? Do you realize that with your attitude, you are begging for that type of ******* to walk over you?

 

[SophiaGrace]

I would do nothing? Not sure where you get that idea from my anti-harassment/murder stance.

I would leave the person. No need to beat/murder or harass someone to stand up for myself.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

Seriously, I've been through similar, I found out things, even found video footage of the act which was a delight to have to view I can tell you. How did I react? I did the manly thing of course... I got drunk and wept..lots.

That sucks

Video evidence of such an event seems to beg for some form of blackmail, bizarre that they'd do that o_0

 

[perfanoff]

I would do nothing? Not sure where you get that idea from my anti-harassment/murder stance.

I would leave the person. No need to beat/murder or harass someone to stand up for myself.

Yes, you would effectively do nothing. A good analogy is that an exclusive relationship is an implicit contract: it is a mutual understanding that can be ended when one party expresses the desire to do so. But there is a breach of contract clause in which the offending party needs to pay a severance to their partner. This is not only for compensation, but also as a deterrent.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

Sounds like a load of ******** to me. A cheating partner only matters as much as you allow it to. To take the high road and break off the relationship while keeping one's dignity by not stooping to petty revenge says a lot about a person's character.
Don't try to rationalize what is simply a result of jealousy, humiliation, and a need for vengeance.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I would do nothing? Not sure where you get that idea from my anti-harassment/murder stance.

I would leave the person. No need to beat/murder or harass someone to stand up for myself.

Yes, you would effectively do nothing. A good analogy is that an exclusive relationship is an implicit contract: it is a mutual understanding that can be ended when one party expresses the desire to do so. But there is a breach of contract clause in which the offending party needs to pay a severance to their partner. This is not only for compensation, but also as a deterrent.

What could anyone really do? If their partner cheated on them and decided to leave, there's nothing the hurt party could do. And, I wouldn't brag about harassing someone over it either... That's not cute, and that's not funny. If someone decided to be unfaithful to you, then they can do so. That's their choice. They made their own bed, and they'll lie in it. It's not up to you to hand out any punishment for it. Besides, if they cheat on you in the first place, they must not really care how you feel...

 

[Malfoy]

Don't try to rationalize what is simply a result of jealousy, humiliation, and a need for vengeance.

Vengeance.

Nomnom

 

[LoneKiller]

I just thought of something. What if the significant other was caught with a person of the same sex? i.e you walk in and see your husband with another man as opposed to a woman. Do you feel that your reaction would be much different and more or less painful?

 

[Malfoy]

It can be more painful. Not only is a vote of disapproval for who you are. It is a vote of disapproval for what you are. It's best to avoid such situations by avoiding relationships in general. My two cents.

 

[Felix]

I just thought of something. What if the significant other was caught with a person of the same sex? i.e you walk in and see your husband with another man as opposed to a woman. Do you feel that your reaction would be much different and more or less painful?

For me it would be the same.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

I just thought of something. What if the significant other was caught with a person of the same sex? i.e you walk in and see your husband with another man as opposed to a woman. Do you feel that your reaction would be much different and more or less painful?

*shrug* I don't see how much more of a difference it makes. The end result is still the same. It's not uncommon for closet gays to use the opposite gender to hide and stuff down their homosexuality. I wouldn't be pained at all. Why would I want to have a gay man be unhappily married to me? I'd just get divorced and let that be the end of it.

 

[Badjedidude]

I'd end the relationship immediately. I mean... ******* kick the girl out of my house THAT NIGHT.

Some "mistakes" are too large to overlook or forgive.