Lonely virgin
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I’m a 30 year old male friendless lonely virgin who never had sex or dated before. Also I never got married. I don’t have no social life and I have no dating life.
I’m a 30 year old male friendless virgin
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reynard_muldrake
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People get married late in life. There's no set time to lose your virginity and to get married. As for dating and friendship, have you gone out to try and meet others? How has that worked?
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Lonely virgin
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At my age 30 almost 31 it’s hard to find find friends as adults and even women to date or have sex with. I exercise life lift weights and walk in the woods when the weather is good and lost weight from 230 lbs to 163 lbs and my arm increased from 11 inches to 16 inches in ten years. I have 6 inches wrist so my arm size is limited and max it can grow naturally is 16. Also there are lot of 40 year old virgins, 50 year old virgins and 60 year old virgins.
Lonely virgin
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Thanks
Exercising to keep fit and healthy is a good idea, but don't let body building go to your head. In all seriousness, perhaps you can find a pleasant sex worker to learn a bit about your abilities and have an experience, so when it comes time with someone you feel someone more serious for, it won't be as awkward.
Lonely virgin
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Thanks but I don’t look like a body builder. I look a bit skinny fat. I don’t have the supplements that body builders have.
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You don't need supplements unless you're not getting enough vitamins and minerals in your diet. I take casein protein powder, but nothing else. I take casein because it's slow release and helps with my sleep a bit. Cardio work will help remove your flabby bits. Punching bag is great, rowing and cycling are good too. Running is too hard on the body, but works good to lose weight.
Not sure what to tell you.
Except one thing.
Do not venture into the world of pay for play.
I did that at 19. 38 years ago.
And have been there ever since.
It's a cr@ppy place to be.
Stay away.
Just stay away.
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Not everyone gets hooked like you tho. Better to at least experience it once than never at all, right? I mean, you’re STILL seeing them; you’re not stopping and heeding your own advice.
Lonely virgin
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Ok thanks
TropicalStarfish
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If you are motivated to sculpt a chiseled physique, I'd say take at least half of that energy and put it towards learning how to make people feel comfortable around you, and how to make them laugh.
Women are attracted to wealth. Why? They are biologically hard-wired to want to ensure the needs of their offspring will be met (or their own) (this is a standard generalization, there are of course exceptions to the rule).
However, wealth can disappear (like health).
If you can make people laugh, make them feel understood (like you, 'get it,'), make them feel comfortable... The best and the worst of the best and the worst, have this ability. It makes dictators out of some, and revered saints out of others.
People are generally tense and unsure in new social situations; and few people want to be the, 'leader,' in these circumstances.
But, the man (or lady, etc.. (I am speaking as a man, to a man, man to man, however)) who can, seeing ripe and opulent opportunity in a social encounter, to take the lead, make people feel at ease, and be wise enough to follow the lead of some one who he recognizes is more well informed, or more capable, or more whatever, is nearly, if not entirely an equal, at the get-go, for recognizing such.
And if nothing else, if he can make other's laugh... Wow...
Take Rodney Dangerfield for example.
There are many paths to take...
Perhaps if we can cultivate ourselves into something we find worthy of respect and admiration, naturally, the respect and admiration of other's will follow suit...
Women are attracted to wealth. Why? They are biologically hard-wired to want to ensure the needs of their offspring will be met (or their own) (this is a standard generalization, there are of course exceptions to the rule).
However, wealth can disappear (like health).
If you can make people laugh, make them feel understood (like you, 'get it,'), make them feel comfortable... The best and the worst of the best and the worst, have this ability. It makes dictators out of some, and revered saints out of others.
People are generally tense and unsure in new social situations; and few people want to be the, 'leader,' in these circumstances.
But, the man (or lady, etc.. (I am speaking as a man, to a man, man to man, however)) who can, seeing ripe and opulent opportunity in a social encounter, to take the lead, make people feel at ease, and be wise enough to follow the lead of some one who he recognizes is more well informed, or more capable, or more whatever, is nearly, if not entirely an equal, at the get-go, for recognizing such.
And if nothing else, if he can make other's laugh... Wow...
Take Rodney Dangerfield for example.
There are many paths to take...
Perhaps if we can cultivate ourselves into something we find worthy of respect and admiration, naturally, the respect and admiration of other's will follow suit...
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TropicalStarfish
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Considering you command a respectable beard, have you considered growing your hair long? It seems to me you could pull it off, maybe 4-6 inches past shoulder length. And if you're working on any self-improvement, it can be helpful to sometimes have a metaphorical yard-stick on progress.
Just a thought. Welcome to the forums mate.
Lonely virgin
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Thanks and yeah I might grow my hair long.
It's not so much that I was "hooked" but I simply got used to it as my only outlet and stayed with it.
Which is why I tell younger guys to stay away.
It's a bad routine to start with at all.
Or maybe go with a crew cut?
Working out and getting a fit & trim build with short hair/crew cut never goes out of style.
I've had all styles.
Long hair in the 80s.
Short hair in 90s.
Crew cut in the 2000s.
Kojak bald since 2010.
Of all of them I prefer the crew cut -- but I don't have enough hair for that anymore.
idkwhoorwhatiam
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Maybe rather than telling people to stay away from paying for companonship (with or without sex involvement). Maybe it would be more helpful to elaborate as to why you think it's a crappy place to be . Sharing your insight may help somebody make a more informed decision. I think anyone considering paying for companionship needs to definitely weigh out the pros and the cons, and also be aware of some of the issues and dangers that could arise. Everybody's situation is different based on where they live, their financial, mental, and emotional situations. With that being said loneliness can also I have a major effect on a person's quality of life. So I don't see anything wrong with a person paying for companionship as long as they are emotionally mature enough to understand that paying for something is not the same as having a genuine connection with another person. And also you get what you pay for. There's a difference between picking up random women on the street and paying for a sexual encounter and/or a 15 minute conversation etc or actually paying for a quality service from a professional who takes their job seriously just like any other industry.
idkwhoorwhatiam
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When you are introvert it is hard to make friends especially if you're a little quirky and different than everyone else, like me
. But when you do things that make you feel good about yourself,¹1 0 and the finally make friends they to be more genuine and and last longer. But that being sai,d did you enjoy the party that you did go to when you were inEhd 0vited? I was just asking because that's an introvert myself sometimes I get lonely but really I enjoy being alone most of the time and I never have been comfortable at parties unless I included alcohol and/or other things of that nature which was
not a healthy way to approach the situation. So maybe at this point it's time for you to throw a party it doesn't have to be a lot of people a party's just more than one person. You may realize you are quite the host or you may realize that you just rather be alone LOL good luck either way
- Because it was all I have ever done, I never developed the skill set to meet females in the "normal" way
- It does not alleviate loneliness. After I see an escort and come home to an empty apartment and feel just as bad if not worse.
- It costs a lot of money, especially if you see upscale girls. While I do well financially, I could have had much more had I invested even just half or a quarter of the money I have spent in the last 40 years.
- If it is all you ever do (like me) you will never have a family of your own or people who care about you. It s*cks being discharged from ambulatory surgery and not having a wife or GF to pick you up. When I had my ankle surgery I actually paid an Uber driver to say he was my neighbor so the Dr would release me.
That's just one example but I think you get my point.
Lonely virgin
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Yes I’m introverted. I find parties boring.When you are introvert it is hard to make friends especially if you're a little quirky and different than everyone else, like me
Ehd 0vited? I was just asking because that's an introvert myself sometimes I get lonely but really I enjoy being alone most of the time and I never have been comfortable at parties unless I included alcohol and/or other things of that nature which was
not a healthy way to approach the situation. So maybe at this point it's time for you to throw a party it doesn't have to be a lot of people a party's just more than one person. You may realize you are quite the host or you may realize that you just rather be alone LOL good luck either way
